The school year begins and many children have to change your vacation routine to the new school routine. The change implies new schedules, new activities and maybe even a change in educators or peers.
This type of change can be a negative response in your emotional sense and it is here that the child may feel fear and anxiety. It is very normal to respond to this variation and it will be part of an adaptation process, where it will be necessary to understand and look for accurate alternatives to face it.
How to detect these symptoms
One of the main symptoms is when it's time to go to school and the child cries. The first days it is very common for this to happen and the child to not be able to go to school will make a series of excuses that can delay the moment. You will be delayed in finishing your breakfast and dressing, you will have a huge lack of control in the care of your school supplies, your behavior in class will be aggressive or will it stay isolated of the rest of the team.
Among its physiological symptoms will appear the recurrent tummy aches, vomiting, diarrhea. La muscle tension and sweating in hands and body it can also be a lot of symptoms. The frequent headaches it can also be common and a alteration in eating and sleeping habits.
Everything related to school makes him afraidThis feeling only disappears when you return from school and reappears when you return to it. This fear is not present when the weekends arrive and during vacation periods.
Regarding his behavior, within his routine there are times when he can make a fuss in things as particular as when dressing or eating, you can even go back to ask for help to help you take these basic actions to get attention.
How to avoid this fear
A good beginning to be able to accustom children is take them to daycare at a young age. In this way they receive much more attention and their schedule of activities is much more flexible. If we have not been able to take you before your school year we have to practice a period of adaptation.
How practical advice can we remind you of funny moments that you have enjoyed at school and even make backpack packing fun. Farewells should be cheerful and not too long and above all avoid not being in a hurry to go to class.
It is important do not negotiate with the child or lie to him with phrases "I'll be back for you right away" nor do we give in to their emotional blackmails, since it will be a step backwards and we will complicate the situation even more.
If the problem is having a bad experience at school, we should not miss talking with the teacher or teacher to be able as soon as possible to alleviate the problem that has caused such behavior
During the time of such a conflict, it is necessary to try to listen to the child and let him explain all your fears and especially if he is crying, do not try to make him reason immediately but let him calm down and try to talk to him later.
When should we ask for help
Children understand this situation as a conflict. It seems like a horrible situation to us and to them too. Many times the worst moment is when it arrives, but once they are in school El niño integrates perfectly and even enjoys.
You have to create a period of adaptation so that the development of fear is solved in a positive way. If you find a welcoming environment at school, the results will be very positive.
The unfounded fear and that they maintain a totally rejection excessive and irrational that lasts over time, it makes us think that the child needs help from a professional. They are pediatricians and child psychotherapists those who will assess will already help the case. The child is most likely to suffer a separation anxiety disorder and that you have to take care of.