What to do if I don't like my child's teacher

teacher teaching a girl

You may have realized that you don't like your child's teacher. He is a professional who will be by your child's side throughout the school year and it is necessary, at the very least, that your child is comfortable in that class. If you don't like your child's teacher but want to find a solution to the problem, then you will have to keep the following tips in mind. This awkward situation doesn't have to last forever.

Help your son

Your child may feel tense, so it is necessary that you talk with him to improve what is happening and seek solutions. If the teacher doesn't answer your questions, can your child find the answer in a book, classmate, website, or in his own notes?

When the classroom situation is chaotic, can your child be in a quieter place to do his homework? On the other hand, if school work is too boring, can you suggest the teacher do project work? Can you create a reward system at home for animals to make school work more exciting? Your child can learn self-regulation skills.

teacher in class with her students

Talk directly to the teacher

Schedule a meeting with the teacher. It is best to do it in person if possible. Let the teacher know calmly that your son is not well and that you have doubts about his way of proceeding (always with respect). Do not accuse or blame. Instead of saying things like: 'My son thinks you have a mania', you could say something like: 'When he asks for help with the calculation, you tell him to do it himself instead of paying attention to him when he needs it, then he loses himself in math'.

Perhaps the teacher has an explanation for his behavior, or may not have realized how the student felt. A good teacher will explain what happened and make positive changes for your child's sake. If he is a bad teacher and feels that you complain about his work, he will become defensive.

Talk to the director

Talk to the principal if you feel like there is no way you can solve your child's problem with the teacher (and with you). This is the last resort solution. Treat all members of the teaching staff as professionals because they are what they are, even though you may have a disagreement with some of them. If the principal believes that it is a problem between a teacher and a child or a parent and a teacher only, the director will try to solve it on that level.

teacher teaching her students in class

If you complain to the principal, a good teacher shouldn't have a grudge from a parent's complaint about their work. Rather, you should improve your daily work so that those complaints don't happen again. He will start to be more cautious, and although your relationship between parent and teacher is not very relaxed at first, When you see correct changes in his person in the classroom, it will be an important step to take into account.

It is important that you keep the claim and stick to the factual data that you know. Begin by stating in a sentence or two what you see as the problem. Be prepared to explain how you know what you know. Include what happened and the effects of what happened. For example, 'My child's teacher's class is chaotic. The children talk and scream and the teacher too. In addition, when my son asks for help to solve his doubts, the teacher does not correspond or help him. ' The principal will not tell you how they will try to solve the problem and may side with the teacher, but It is necessary that in addition to handling everything with discretion, you should be attentive to know how things are changing.

Asking to change teachers or change your child's school

This should be everyone's last resort. If things don't improve and you feel like you can't tolerate the situation anymore, then the best option is for you to switch your child out of class. In case nothing is being done to improve it.

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Changing classrooms means adjusting to new classmates, a new teacher, and the class rules (which are different). Some schools may not be able to provide a different teacher due to staffing limits or center policies. This would only leave you the option to change your child's school, something that can have even more added problems.

If you can't change your child's class or schools, then do your best to try to fill in any learning gaps as quickly as possible. Check with the tutorials that the teacher has available, assess the ways in which your child can learn the subject outside of school. This will help you be prepared for next year when you have a different teacher.

Talk to your child about the school day

It is important that your child does not know the feelings you have about his teacher so as not to condition his behavior. You must respect him as a professional but you must also look out for his own good. You need to know that you should study in school and that the teacher should not be the cause of your poor performance. If you are underperforming, it's not the teacher's fault… it's nobody's! But you have to find solutions so that it does not become a problematic situation. To improve your child's learning, ask questions that make him think better about the learning that he is doing at school. For example:

  • How did you feel at school today?
  • Can you teach me what you learned?
  • How do you think you could use that knowledge in the future?

Not only will talking about what you learn in school improve your learning, but it will provide you with information about teaching that happens in the classroom. Keep in mind that during a school year your child will be with that teacher and it is necessary that the relationship between you be the best possible, if possible, cordial and of mutual respect. Your child should see in you a model for how to handle a difficult situation. You will learn to handle difficult people as well, a lifelong skill.

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