Society is aware that bullying is a reality. Many children suffer bullying, mistreatment, insult or aggression by some of their classmates, even those who call themselves Friends. Children who for some reason understand that violence is fun, that insult is funny, that making another child cry is the best game. Eradicating the scourge of bullying is fundamentally the task of parentsIt is a matter of education and respect that must begin at home.
Despite being aware that it can occur, as a general rule no parent wants to think that their child may be a victim of bullying, much less the stalker. But it is also an obligation as a parent to be attentive to those signs, and in any case, act quickly to find a solution to the problem as quickly as possible.
What to do if my child is being bullied
Do you think your child could be a victim of bullying? act quickly, these are the steps you must follow.
Talk to your son
The first and most important step is to find out what is going on. You may notice that your child changes his attitude, his energy and his way of being, changes radically. He no longer wants to play in the street, he avoids interacting with the usual children and prefers to spend the hours locked in his room. This is the most obvious sign that something is happening, but it does not necessarily have to be about bullying.
Many times a fight between friends, a difference or a change of friends can be confused, that is not bullying and it is essential to differentiate them. So that you need to have a conversation with your child, from love, understanding and affection, so that the little one feels comfortable and can explain to you what is happening.
The child should know that you don't have to handle this situation alone, which should not give in to blackmail. Since this is the usual form of threat from the bully, "how do you tell someone ..." Make it clear to the child that they should always tell an adult what is happening, because that way they can solve what is happening to them.
It is much more effective that you work on the child's self-esteem, rather than teaching him to defend himself with more violence. Because what can happen in this case is that your child becomes a possible bully.
Have a meeting with the school
The first moment you detect that your child is being bullied, you must hold an urgent meeting with the school professionals. Both the teachers, the director and other staff, must be aware of the problem and take charge. Within the walls of the school, the teachers are responsible for your child and the rest of the students.
Talk to them and inform them of what you are detecting, whether your child has been able to explain it to you or not. Teachers must act too to end the situation as quickly as possible.
Inform other parents of bullying
Nowadays it is very easy to communicate with other parents, WhatsApp groups also serve for this. It is not about creating a social alarm, but about explain a situation that may affect any of your children in the future. It is essential that there is support among the rest of the parents and students, since you must report what is happening.
Try to get a general act to deal with bullying at school, without pointing out bullies or bullies. An informative talk in the auditorium, with teachers, external people who can positively influence all children. This will also help the child who is bullying to see that other children are not alone and that they cannot take advantage of this situation.