DO NOT hit: neither the children to the parents, nor the parents to the children

Boy angry about a dispute with another friend.

In situations of fighting with another or others, if the child is frustrated and angry, he can be calmed down, talking to him away from the place.

Sometimes parents, without realizing it, accentuate certain behaviors of their children, either because they see them do it or listen to them. If you want to educate yourself in respect and non-violence, the motto is not paste, neither the parents to the children nor the other way around. Let's talk about it.

Non-violence: do not hit. The example of parents

Since we were kids children must be educated in values ​​of tolerance and respect for others. The best way for the child to internalize it is to show him those kinds of rules. The booths At home it must be respected and treated well and the child will feel that it is the right thing to do. Parents are the example of the child, that is why the child can learn not to hit parents or other colleagues or FriendsIf they don't reprimand him with a slap, a slap or a slap on the wrist.

The way to defend or explain yourself is not by acting aggressively and making yourself look angry. The child must know how to speak and respond in other ways, not with insult, humiliation or abuse. A well-treated child in the Home, will respond in the same way to their peers. The child who is continually told that he is bad and deserves punishments, he will come to think that as a "no good child" he must match his attitudes.

The defense of the child

Two friends angry about a toy.

In the event that a friend wants to take a toy from him, you can help him to talk to him and say "I'll leave it to you later" or "now I'm playing."

Occasionally parents tell the child "if they hit you, do the same." It is not sound advice. The child must know how to respond differently, without the attack. If you want to advise him on something that will serve him in life, he may be recommended to separate the other, tell him that this is wrong, to leave him, and above all let the adult who is closest to him know. Tomorrow the child, now an adult, will not hit another to solve problems, he will surely know how to stop the issue in a more intelligent way.

Around 3 years old, children need to make themselves understood more strongly, and when they can't, frustration comes and not not knowing how to handle the situation. Children get angry and cry, kick, and even hit or bite. There you have to stop the situation and help them relax and channel that anger in the right way. Parents have to teach them to express themselves in a leisurely way, and try in various ways, less accepting aggressiveness.

The father does not hit the child and the child does not hit the father

As we say, the child is guided by example. A child will not normally hit a parent if he has not seen him hit. Parents must have tools to sit down and talk to him. You have to make him see that conflictive situations are settled by talking calmly. If a child wants to take a toy, you can help him to talk to him and tell him I'll leave it to you later o now i'm playing. They can share it, if they want, even parents can tell him not to push or get angry, but to lend a little to him.

It is essential to remind the child that he should not hit in any case, that it is not the right attitude and it has no justification. In fighting situations, if the child is frustrated, you can try to calm his nerve, talking away from the place. In the event that you have attacked another colleague, let him know that what he has done is wrong and should never be repeated and advise him to apologize. If he hits his parents, they must act as responsible adults and not get upset, let him know that they are sorry that he behaves like this and that everything will be fixed but in a different way and when he is not obfuscated. Speaking to a child calmly, the same will be accomplished on his part.


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