Is it a good idea for your child to see you naked?

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Many mothers are concerned about this issue, and they do not know to what extent it may be a good idea -or not- for their sons and daughters to see them naked, especially when children begin to grow and pass the threshold of 3 years. Many mothers wonder when is the right time for their children to stop seeing them naked -when you change clothes, when you bathe with your little one, etc-.

But I'm not just referring to the fact that mothers are seen naked, but also fathers. Boys and girls can start asking questions about the parents' penis, the penis itself, the mother's vagina or the vagina itself… many parents are left blank and do not know how to react or what to answer.

What matters in this whole affair is above all not obsessing over it. Possibly when your child is over 7 years old they will stop asking about their autonomy, but to do it before is healthy and also natural. If your children accidentally see you naked in the shower, if they see you change your clothes or simply see you naked because of whatever the situation is, why should they be alarmed? If you are alarmed you will be teaching your child that the naked body is a bad thing, when it is the most natural thing in the world. It is simply necessary to set some limits so that children know that there are certain social norms about privacy that must be observed.

The reality is that there is no magic age of when you should stop showering with your child or change in front of them. Each family is different and they have their own comfort levels when it comes to nudity in front of children. Children, however, often want privacy at some point and in reality, this must be respected. When children become more aware of their own bodies they begin to ask for privacy and it is time to help them understand what it is and why it is important.

Below from Madres Hoy We are going to give you some guidelines so that you can decide when is the best time to stop your child seeing you naked, but remember that it depends a lot on the comfort you have with this issue at home and your values.

Around six years

It is around the age of six that children begin to understand the concept of privacy and may accept it and also respect it. You may find that your child does not want to bathe with his brother, that he closes the door when he is in the bathroom and even that he closes in his room to get dressed in the morning and even if he wants to play by himself without being disturbed by anyone. This is normal and must be respected.

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When your child shows you that he wants privacy, it is actually a sign of independence. This means that your child is growing and developing, looking for a little space for himself. This is good. The best thing is to respect these limits and show your child that you understand the importance of having a little privacy to bathe, go to the bathroom or dress ... and that in the same way, he should respect it in others.

Talk about personal limits

While some begin to show a desire for privacy around the age of six, there are also other children who do not. Some children enjoy bathing with their siblings and do not feel privacy as a necessity. They may also appear oblivious to your nudity when showering or dressing. In this case, it is necessary to talk about personal limits inside and outside a family, 

We all have our comfort zones and they must learn to respect each other's limits. It is necessary to talk about things like knocking on the door before entering, asking if you can enter a room before interrupting in it, etc. This rule needs to be established and thus, you will also begin to understand the limits of seeing other people naked. If it is normal in your home, that is fine, but outside the home there are still other people who do not have the same opinion and children should respect it as well. Talking about personal limits helps children understand the limits of others and set their own.

Consider your needs

This will depend on each one and how you feel in different situations. If for example you feel comfortable in front of your child while you are naked, why would you have to change that? Maybe you are a nudist person and you see the natural as the appropriate. On the contrary, you can be a very modest person and you begin to feel a certain modesty as your child grows up and sees you naked, in this case if you need more privacy to shower or dress, that is also fine. The important thing is not only to establish limits on privacy, but for the child to understand that there can be different levels depending on the people. Children do not have to see nudity as something that is shameful or wrong, simply that there are times when you need more privacy than others.


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Comfort is the key

Comfort is the key and there is no hard and fast rule for that. Parents should follow the child's example, that is, when your child asks for privacy when he wants to change clothes or to go to the bathroom, he is sending you a clear message that it is a need that you must respect: he needs personal space and show your independence. This is a good sign for parents to stop walking naked or showering in front of their children. If your child remains indifferent, it is not necessary to force the situation. 

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For greater comfort, it is important to know the level of comfort that the family has regarding this. This means that a lot of attention should be paid to how children feel when they bathe with their parents or when they see them change. It is not so important to worry about it, you just have to let it happen.


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