As children grow, they acquire cognitive skills that help them to reason their ideas much better, that is why they have the ability to lie, even if it is to manipulate or control a situation. The good news in all of this is that if the child is capable of making a lie, your talent to develop it is on the right track, because has intelligence.
According to a study already 20% of two-year-olds andthey lie rising 90% of them when they reach the age of four. It is from the age of 7 when they begin to realize the dimension that their actions can reach, although it is very routine to find children from adolescence when they are most recurrent.
How can we detect their lies
Each child develops differently, their ability to lie and the way they elaborate their lie can give us some indicators of how they are behaving at that moment, some of these nuances can be:
- Your expression may manifest itself in a tense manner and you can redden the face. Otherwise, if the child tells the truth, he will be calm and relaxed.
- Your body movements are usually arrhythmic and your hands will start to sweat, your heart rate and breathing will accelerate.
- His verbal expression is very unusual, they give few details of what they want to tell, it is difficult for them to imagine the moment, their details are full of contradictions when they give explanations and it is possible to conclude that it makes no sense or reason what was told.
- The little spontaneity is Another of the signs, it seems that he does not count it in a natural way but it seems that he does it in a forced way, even in many cases it contradicts itself in its ideas.
- In his body language we can see that his hands are restless, even twists them, instead her face gestures very little. Some kids they cover their faces with their hands for being partly uncomfortable knowing that they are lying.
Why do they lie?
Unbelievably, most children they act out of imitation of their parents. If it is something that they see at home routinely they will probably proceed to do it in the same way. Lack of attention It will also make children use lies to capture their care.
The fear It is also another factor that is associated, since before acts of personal improvement and not being able to comply, become part of their cause. Faced with such events, it should be noted that what they always try to do is escape from any row or punishment y Unleash your inner desires.
How we have to react:
The most rational thing is that we must react as calmly as possible, we should not show anger and yes we should speak firmly and kindly. The child has to be consistent that it is not good to lie.
If you are a participant in confessing your lie, we can always urge its disclosure, must create an environment of trust between bothLet him know that when he is in a similar situation there will be no radical consequences.
It should be noted that for children to contribute to good coordination in expressing their ideas is try to educate them sincerely, your education must be solid and confident. Although lies may seem funny many times, we should not laugh at them.
On the other hand, if most of your acts come from the hands of such acts, you have to know how to differentiate what kind of lie they are offering us. The neurotic lies arise from a personality subject to some high level of anxiety and we must turn to a specialist so that he can help us.