Raising a child is not an easy task and no one has taught us how to do it. Many times in the attempt we repeat patterns of our own education or vice versa, in an attempt not to repeat old patterns we do the opposite. The ideal is to consciously educate, learn and unlearn habits, and also educate ourselves as parents. Today we are going to talk to you about how to educate your child and be happy in the attempt.
How our education influences our life
Es The undeniable influence of the education we receive in our childhood for our lives. An authoritarian or an overly permissive education will have completely different results in children's future, in their abilities and success in life.
Many parents say that they raised their children in the same way and that each one came out in a totally different way. The ideal is not to educate each child the same way. We are not all the same, each of us has different ways of being, abilities, temperament and needs. We do not all need the same thing, we will have to adapt education to each child and finding the right point is not so easy. Let's see some tips on how to educate your child and be happy in the attempt.
How to educate your child
The task of parents is to make their children happy but also to give them the necessary tools for life. That they are independent, responsible and with values. In the difficult task of educating, doubts are normal. Am I doing it right? How can I do better? Here are some tips to help you in your task.
- Educate from understanding. As we saw before, each child is different and we must know our child to know what he needs more and at what points. Improving communication, understanding and quality time is vital to be more in contact with our children.
- Children need rules and limits. For the correct emotional and mental development of children it is necessary that they have rules and limits. They have to be consistent and accompanied by logical explanations, and there has to be a consequence if they are not done. Educating in consequences is much more effective in educating children than educating in punishment. You can see the article "Educate in consequences" where we talk more in detail about the subject.
- Let him be wrong. Human beings learn a lot from our mistakes. If you deprive him of this source of learning, he will be missing a lot of information that he needs for his life. Let him make mistakes, make mistakes, fall and learn to get up. Trying to remove the obstacles in life will only cause you to not have the necessary tools when you have problems.
- Educate from respect. Screaming should never be present in education. In addition to being useless, they only harm the child's development. There are much better and more effective ways to educate, based on respect and love. No one who was educated by shouting remembers his childhood fondly. We are building the self-esteem of our children, and fundamentally the respect we give them.
- Do not compare him with other children. Comparing children is something hateful, that creates wounds in self-esteem that usually last until the adult stage. Feelings of little worth, of not being enough or being less than others are beliefs that develop when we compare children with others. In addition to not having anything positive, it has so much negative that it is something that we must immediately eradicate from our vocabulary.
- Give example. You know, another source of children's learning is imitation. We have to be consistent with our children. We cannot tell them that they cannot lie and then we blatantly lie in front of them. You are his maximum inspiration and the role model to imitate. Be the person you want your child to be.
Because remember ... educating and being happy can go hand in hand.