Many 13-year-olds worry about physical changes in their body. They are more sensitive than usual, overreact, and have frequent mood swings. They criticize almost everything that happens to them and become very demanding.
If you identify all this in your child, don't worry. All these attitudes are normal in adolescents of this age.
What can you do to deal with 13-year-olds in a positive way?
- Talk to him in a way clear and directSo you can deal with all topics, even the most delicate ones.
- ask her what you know and what you think about these issues and share your ideas and feelings with him. Listening what they have to say to you and answer their questions calmly and naturally.
- Encourage your autonomy and reinforces its Self esteem.
- It is important that you meet his friends and classmates.
- Shows interest in their school and extracurricular activities.
- Encourage him to make his own decisions. Respect them, whenever possible, even if you think they are wrong. Making mistakes is also part of the process of learning and growing. Help him accept the consequences of his actions, whether positive or negative.
- Establish clearly and precisely goals and expectations what do you expect from him. One option is to put them in writing to remember them whenever necessary. You can also sign a kind of contract. You need to put specific dates and procedures to make it more specific. An example could be: cleaning my room every Saturday morning.
- You always need to know where it is and if there are adults present in that place. You can agree on when you can call him, where you can find him and what time you expect him to come home.
- Establish clear rules for when you are home alone.
How to help you stay healthy?
Encourage 13-year-olds to engage in physical activity it is always a good idea. You can suggest joining a team or encouraging him to play an individual sport that he likes. Housework, like taking the dog for a walk or helping vacuum the car, also helps keep him active.
Mealtime is very important for families. Eating together helps your child make better food choices, stay at a healthy weight, and encourages dialogue among your family members.
Limit the time your child spends in front of the computer to no more than 1 or 2 hours a day, with video games or in front of the television.
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It is always nice to maintain a good family atmosphere when there are rules and respect, towards adolescents, their siblings and their parents / guardians. Thanks.
Hello, I have a daughter of almost 13 years old, I am divorced from her biological father, whom she met at 3 years of age, because when I got pregnant he left for another country, then he came back and we lived with him from 3 to 7 years old. 3 years of my daughter, he never treated her as such, he was physically and emotionally violent towards her especially, a lover of alcohol, a regenerated drug addict, and he always wanted to correct her or "educate her" with a beating belt, I always defended her, to such point I left him, I went with my daughter, and another who is 4 years younger, he did not look for them in almost 3 years that we lived alone, but now he appeared again, a month or two ago and gives him money, my daughter he wants to go with him all the time, not just the XNUMX days a week established by the judge, and he has been disrespecting me too much, he offends me and yesterday he threatened me in front of him, to go with him and talk to the judge so that they supposedly arrest me .. I who have always done and given everything for her, telling me that she does not love me, m e hates and can't stand me .. I'm truly devastated, I don't know what to do
What a difficult situation they have many changes at that age and the least we should do is get upset with them, if possible find spaces to talk angrily, the children are not always what we expect, I hope you have been able to solve and do not go with their father, it is not a good option being what that character is and has been. Blessings, persist and a lot of calm we really need with our children.
very good advices
Thanks. I don't know how to get him to leave the cell phone. Only when he's doing something does he do it.