When children are young, it is usual for parents to decide what haircut they have to wear. We choose hairstyles and cuts normally thinking about children's beauty canons and above all, thinking about how a haircut or hairstyle can favor our little ones. At the end of the day, our children are the most beautiful in the world and their hair will help them to be even more beautiful, right?
We are used to boys having short hair and girls having long hair. Without realizing it, we follow beauty models established by society and that we unconsciously think to follow because it is 'normal'.
Do you let your children decide?
Until the age of 4 or 5, it is normal for parents to decide on the haircut for their sons and daughters. But have you ever asked your child if he / she wants shorter or longer hair? It is likely that if he is a boy you base yourself on whether he is hot in summer, if he looks so long or if he is handsome with shorter hair. If it is a girl, surely you will focus on a haircut that is easy to handle to comb without many problems and that also makes the little girl pretty and feels pretty.
Maybe you've even ever looked at magazines of children's models to look at their hairstyles and find inspiration. in the haircuts of boys and girls to later apply it to your children. But what is the right thing to do? The right thing to do is to follow your instincts and respect your children's tastes as soon as they have enough capacity to say what they like best and what they like least.
Long hair in boys
It is possible that if you have children they have always had short hair. It is comfortable and normally accepted, but what if you leave her hair long? If your child likes to have long hair, why forbid him to have it longer? Well-groomed hair can be really pretty, there are many haircuts for boys with long hair. Just because you have long hair doesn't mean that society should see you as a girl if you don't feel like one.
Let your child decide if he wants to have long hair or short hair.or. Maybe you prefer to have it short but have hair to be able to make a toupee, or maybe you prefer it shaved on one side and long on the other, or maybe you want to follow the trends and shave your hair two or three and make zero shapes on the sides of the head - something the hairdresser will do, of course.
Short hair on girls
As with boys' hair, we are used to girls always wearing long or semi-long hair, leaving aside shorter haircuts such as the pixie style, normally associated with adult women. But why does it have to be associated only with adult hair? When we do not allow a girl to wear shorter hair we are telling her that the right thing to do is to have long hair, regardless of her personal tastes and interests.
There are beautiful haircuts for girls like the bob cut -short- or the pixie cut that are ideal for girls and that without a doubt, they will be just as precious or more than with long hair. The best thing is that they are modern, comfortable and very fresh haircuts for the summer. If your daughter likes short hair, why would you deny it? And if you want it long, why not? Let it decide!
When they decide on their hairstyle and haircut
There will come a time when children will begin to tell you the haircuts they like and you will have to respect them so that they understand that their tastes and interests are accepted. But you don't have to wait for your children to tell you, You can instill in them since they are very young that they are the ones who decide what hairstyle or what haircut they prefer. Thus, you will be showing them that their tastes are important and that they are free to choose what they like the most.
It is clear that when children are young they will need some guidance and guidance so that they make the decision that best suits their interests, in this sense, it is necessary that you know your children to know with what decision they can feel more comfortable with some alternatives to choose. .
For example, if your son is 5 years old and you want to cut his hair, You can choose two or three hairstyles and that of those options it is your son who decides the one he likes the most to wear. You can do exactly the same with girls, choose one to three hairstyles or haircuts that they may like and let them choose the one they like the most to have in their hair.
The formation of the style for the formation of independence
It is worth mentioning that children should feel that they are masters of themselves, with their decisions and their own thoughts, tastes and interests. They need to feel their bodily integrity and for this parents must provide them with personal autonomy and self-determination. People must be able to make decisions about what happens to their body and when, and it begins with the clothes to dress and also, with the haircuts and the hairstyles in the childhood.
The development of style in children is necessary for the formation of their independence. What your child decides with their hair will be a reflection of what they really are. They will be able to feel a certain independence in terms of their parents, so they will feel how they are beginning to form as people. Even if they are under your guidance, it will be their final decision. This can also help create a better bond of trust between you and your child because they will feel that their wishes are respected at all times. Do you let your children decide their hairstyle or haircut?
I agree with you, María José: why not let them choose? Why short boys / long girls? It really is a declaration of independence, and it is very good that they make decisions and are respected.
My girl has always had long hair, which has grown over time, she does not want short hair and although she needs a lot of care, she is comfortable. The boy has had it short, a la Beatle, long, and now shaved from the sides. I think everything is less complicated than what parents think.
A greeting and thanks for the post.
I had a hard time making the decision to have one of my daughters cut her hair since I have twins, they have both always had their hair the same length to their hips. But last week we decided to let her hair be cut to a short mane which was what she wanted, my daughter's happy face nobody takes it away, although I have received a lot of criticism for the abrupt haircut, but I feel that She is already at an age to begin to decide and we allow them the right, obviously as long as they do not exceed the limits established by ourselves, it must be said that her twin sister did not cut it since she prefers it as long as she has it. (my daughters are 7 years old)
Hello Katy, thank you for telling us about your experience. All the best.
Hi! I have the same idea as you about the importance of letting them decide in their court, I have a 6-year-old son and he is convinced that he has long hair, I just entered a new school and reviewed regulations and others to be able to respect that, the problem is that the director insists that I have to cut it and it seems to me already a problem that they cannot understand my point. I feel like getting to the point of forcing my son to do something he doesn't want is disrespectful. Enter this page looking for arguments to be able to get them to stop insisting because for me it is so important why it is for my son
Hello, Luz! I am in the same situation as you currently. They are exactly the same age. What did you finally achieve with the child, did you cut it off or not? What results have you obtained in the long term?
In my case there is another school that allows long hair, but it is more expensive. I feel that his hair depends on his self-esteem, I want to help him feel better, but at the same time I want to show him that he does not depend on his hair.
I am 14 years old, I know that I am a girl looking for help on this issue. My mother has never let me cut my hair, she wants it to be long, I would like to be able to make decisions on her own but, when I told her that I wanted it short, she got too angry saying I was crazy, I tried but I could not besides that my hair It is curly, she has always decided everything even my way of dressing. I don't want to disrespect her, she's my mom. I know that even when I grow up, she will continue to deny me many things, both she and I are different ... I just want her to understand one day
I want your help, it is normal that I want to cut my hair but my parents say that I can not since I am still a minor so they choose for me (I clarify I am 13)
(Well, it has always been what they want 7 months ago I started to wear clothes that I don't really like because they always choose them and even though I didn't like they bought them) and well they cut my hair but not the way I wanted so I took some scissors and I cut it and my mother noticed and told me that if I cut my hair again, it would leave me bald, it's normal 0-0
I am a girl, I am 11 years old. I've always wanted to wear my hair short, but my mother doesn't respect my tastes. Once he let me cut it as he wanted, but then he refused. I would try to teach her this but she is very strict, and she would be angry if I told her. Any advice? Thanks.
Hi, I'm a 13-year-old girl, and I sincerely wanted to cut my hair short, like "man", first I thought my family would understand it, it was like normal, she already wants to cut her hair as a man, well it's just a cut , And if she likes it good, and I would be like, they are supporting my tastes, that good but when I said it they told me, mmm now but not so much, if you like it in 2 more months I will cut it more, and I was Well, I trust you, 2 months have passed and when I asked him again, he said no, I don't know how to express how I felt at that time, sincerely I no longer want to tell my family my likes because I feel that they will not accept me And not only in that area but in many, I ended up cutting my hair alone, without telling my mother or anyone, and when I arrive I challenge myself, it looks nice but they will match it, I did not cut it as short as I want it Actually, but going beyond scared me, now when I got to my grandmother told me that she didn't want to see me do it, thatlet the hair grow that are the «women», I already learned I am not going to cut it again, but…. seriously? because what about my tastes? where is what i think? where is how I sit? Now I don't feel confident, I no longer know what my family will think of me, I don't know whether to tell them how I feel, I am so strange, that a google page gets me to understand more? If I am so strange why was born
Hello, my name is Priscila. I have an 11 year old daughter who wants to shave the back of her neck, but I don't know if it is appropriate for her age. What should I do?
Hello selena, I understand you, I am the same only as my mother always me. It says if you do not want to be like the others and when I want to cut my hair. He says no because I am a girl (I am 12 years old) and in my mind how do you want me to be if you do not let me cut my hair and before I was very happy and happy but now I am more laughing and quiet
Hello I am 14 years old and in my life they are always deciding everything my parents have always wanted to cut my hair but my parents say that this is for a man, the reality is that they exaggerate it is unisex but I feel bad not to feel comfortable with the cut that I have And I am afraid to ask my parents again why they always tell me that they don't and they make me macho ideas. What should I do in this situation?
I had a problem with my parents since my hairstyle (Open book) bothers them too much, since they tell me that I look ridiculous or like a nerd, but they never asked me if I really liked it, I really liked the hairstyle and I I told them that they will still respect my decision since I am 16 years old and I want my own cut and my own style, and it got to the point of taking off most of my things, I just wanted to try something new on me, but my parents They want to have me as if I were still 7 years old, I really like the cut, but they say that everyone has the cut except me, I only wanted a small change in me but my parents do not respect that.
Hello, I want to cut it like that but I don't know if my family likes it
Interesting. My 9-year-old daughter wants to cut her hair pixie style because she struggles to do her hair and wash it. For me there is no problem, but the father, from whom I am separated, says that they are not decisions for a girl, who can only decide when she is 15 or 18 years old, which seems silly to me.
I have always left her hair long because I love to comb her hair and braid her, but a week ago she told me that she wanted to cut her hair at the height of her jaw, I told her of course since it is her hair and she must learn to make your own decisions and if after telling you you don't like to learn to think very well about any decision you make later about your body, the good thing is that your hair grows and I see no problem.
The same thing happened to me when she was 5 years old that she already wanted to start choosing the clothes she wore and it was a crazy combination but it is a giant to her independence, after dressing she asked me if I liked it, to which I told her As long as she likes it and feels happy, no one else should have an opinion on how she dresses.
Let us give our children the freedom to decide to face independence, the most beautiful thing is to see children sure of themselves and independently.
I am about to turn 17 and since I was 15 I have liked short hair, boy style, I told my mother that I wanted it that way, she said yes, that I could do whatever I wanted with my hair, but today at talk about it with my father, he told me directly that no, I gave him arguments to leave me, but he said "I don't like that cut for you" I told him that I would be the one who would wear it, that I also liked it a lot and really wanted that cut, he told me that he would take away my beauty and that he did not like it, I know they are my parents but I should even make these decisions, I really feel bad because he thinks that he is "owner" of my body, but this it depends on me.
You're right, I'm 12 years old and I think about a nice Japanese cut, or maybe a pixie cut, but when I told one of my aunts about the pixie cut she said:
"That? are you a child ??? » he said it laughing a little
I was upset inside, when I told my mom that I want short hair because mine gets in the way, she told me:
»At your 15 years»
In addition, some moms allow them to grow their hair as they want, the problem is not only mothers, it is also schools, their rules are:
-Children without shaved hair, well-groomed hair, short hair.
-Girls hair tied well with a bow or braid.
But they never say:
-Children with long hair collected or with a braid, children with well-groomed short hair.
-Girls with well-combed short hair, girls with long hair well tied up with a bow or braid.
There we see that we have one more way to go.
Hello, I'm 12 years old, my mother has always been in favor of me cutting my hair short but at this time she doesn't want me to cut it almost always, she decides my cut or clothes, I don't like long hair, I don't feel comfortable apart from that I know It makes it difficult for me to make hairstyles that I like, I just don't like it but I would like my mom to understand my tastes as she respects my tastes but no, I don't want to show this to my mom but I think she would take it badly 🙁
I AM A 14-YEAR-OLD TEEN AND I HAVE ALWAYS LIKED LONG HAIR AND MY MOTHER WOULD NOT LET ME AND TELL ME THAT I AM A MAN AND THAT MY FACE IS POLISHED THEN SHE COVERS MY FACE AND NO ONE IN MY FAMILY NUCLEUS SUPPORTS ME ALONE MY SISTERS AND UNTIL NOW THEY KEEP CUTTING MY HAIR FORCED AND I LIKE TO WEAR IT MEDIUM LONG AND I FEEL VERY BAD BECAUSE I AM A TEEN WHO LIKES TO HAVE MEDIUM LONG HAIR AND THEY WON'T LET ME WHAT CAN I DO? HELP ME PLEASE I FEEL BAD
I am 40 years old, and even today, my mother says that she hates seeing me with long hair and if I have it longer than she likes, she keeps reminding me every 3 minutes that I look ridiculous with long hair.