Positive discipline specifically aims to engage children in a respectful way and encourages parents to remember that children are capable of improvement despite misbehavior. Young children are often curious and very interested in pushing boundaries.
Connecting with your child before making any corrections is a sure way to improve behavior. We cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them.
Every time your child exceeds a limit, breaks a rule or a shampoo bottle, before correcting the behavior, first try to slow down. Create a deliberate moment of connection. A time when you can confidently bring security and understanding to your child.
Enter the world of your child. Look beyond the naughty mess and watch the learning and discoveries that take place. Remind him that you are his ally, that you are on their side. Even when you say no or complain about their behavior.
Of course, it's not always easy to stay calm and pretend that all the food spilled on the floor doesn't matter. The point is, your child really needs your safe and calm guidance when he makes mistakes. Having realistic expectations about childhood behaviors can help you make positive and connected discipline decisions.
These early interactions are important because the way you choose to discipline shapes your child. The times when discipline is required are actually some of the most important times in parenting. times when we have the opportunity to shape our children more strongly.
Going online before making corrections helps kids trust you. It helps you to really see your child. Really see your child, in that moment and what they need. Connecting allows you to create a meaningful moment to listen, validate and acknowledge your child. Follow these tips to get it:
Calm your own expectations or fears (remember that your child is imperfect like you)
- Look at things from your child's point of view
- Listen to what he has to say to you
- Focus on solutions and possibilities
- Use a gentle physical touch to connect
- Speak with kindness and clarity
- Maintain eye contact and get down to your child's level
- Always offer corrections from respect
Discipline that comes from a place of love and care teaches. When you first connect, you speak to your child's heart and mind at the same time. This is powerful. That is discipline. That is the sure way to better behavior.