Tantrums in public can be something of the most common in our little ones. Surely there is no need to remember them because all parents will already know what it feels like when a tantrum takes place outside the home. A feeling of nervousness takes over us that we must also control.
Although it is inevitable because we do not like a situation like that, it is true that we must follow a series of steps to be able to manage them in the best possible way and make the little ones calm down quickly. That explosion to express anger is uncontrollable for them, but for himself for us taking the right steps.
What to do in the event of a tantrum on the street: No yelling
It's true that when tantrums happen in public, our first reaction is to get pissed off. But it is one of the biggest mistakes, because we tend to yell and children will get even worse than they are. So since it won't do any good we will put aside the screams and also the anger. We will have to breathe for a few seconds to try to channel the emotions and from there always speak to them with affection although in a firm way.
You try to find the problem of your anger
Perhaps it is the most complicated point, because the causes of a tantrum in public can be very varieds. He may be tired or bored, sleepy or hungry, but also want a certain toy. Perhaps taking a quick balance we can realize what happens when they can give us no more explanation than to express themselves crying their eyes out.
Watch him without saying anything
As we mentioned before, there will be no yelling or challenging stares or anything similar. So if talking slowly and lovingly hasn't worked, then you can look him in the eye but without saying anything, nor touch him. It's a way of avoiding contact, of being a bit distant as if we don't really care. Although we do care a lot. But it can be one of those techniques that finally tires the little ones and their tears stop.
Always try to look for distractions
It is true that it is not always a fast solution, but it is effective. At first they have to carry their anger until they can release most of it. Because, little by little we can intervene and what better way to do it than with the occasional distraction. Be it showing them new places, a game that catches their attention, or a toy that manages to break that concern and that can make them think about other things. You can always do some kind of activity that he likes. Although it is true that if you have not released everything you had inside, you can go preparing yourself because perhaps a new tantrum is at the door.
Don't give in to a decision
We have also commented on being firm when we speak or in decisions and that is how it has to be, no matter how much tantrum we have to listen to. This is due to If the little one cries for a toy and then we give it to him, he will realize that tears help him get what he wants. Hence, we must do the opposite and not give in. Because they have to learn that putting on such shows will not make them get what they want and little by little they will go down because they know they will get nowhere.
After tantrums in public, we'll use logic
Even if they are small and still do not know how to express themselves in words, we will. Because once the storm passes and the expected calm arrives, it is best to talk to them. We must use the best words and our best smile to try to explain why such situations should not happen. As well as why we did not let him do what he wanted, so we will teach you to express what you feel in other ways. It is true that it seems easier than it is and patience comes into play again, because little by little they will realize that tantrums are useless.