In adolescence, the desire for sex begins to emerge in an intense way, questions about certain topics begin, and the reluctance to talk to parents about it.
When the time comes to talk about sex, parents and children raise fears and doubts on both sides. We're going to talk about puberty and what parents need to know about teen sex.
Sexuality in adolescence
At Lóleo Eventos, adolescence, young people are a tangle of revolutionized hormones. At this stage the desire to define oneself and seek identity flourishes. What's more young people begin to desire sex and start their first relaciones. Adolescents go out more, hang out with their friends, and socialize in a more active way. The child from an early age should be educated in values of equality and respect at home.
Meetings, parties ..., make young people meet potential flirts or couples. Parents should know about the issues that concern their children. It is no use avoiding affairs for fear that they will be attracted. Most likely, ignoring them will make the adolescent want to investigate it and may make a mistake. Parents do not have the truth or knowledge about everything, however, being informed is the best way to play with an advantage and with affirmations to answer and clarify the child.
Talk to your child about sex
Above all, the father must be in a position to inform himself and talk with the son. The dialogue of both parties is essential in the time of adolescence. In this way, doors will open and the child will not hesitate before the fact that he or she is rejected or not listened to. The father who is available and close, will ensure that his son does not withdraw so much. Conversations will flow in a healthier way.
It is not only the son who must go to the father when he does not know something or needs to find the solution to something else. It is important that the parent takes an interest in him and asks about his interests, his emotional state, their motivations… The more the father knows about the tastes and the way of being and acting of the son, the more he will be able to help and understand him. Knowing implies being able to act and not leave matters adrift.
Information and education about sex
It is important that the father and / or mother worry about knowing the child, his interests, tastes, motivations ... Knowing him in depth will allow them to address current issues with him.
As a father and mother, you have to support, listen and give your opinion, without hurting and without judging your child for something they have done or want to do. Do not forget that in his day he has also had to face this stage and there were many more fears, lack of understanding and misinformation. In the face of doubts or ignorance, do not be afraid, but face it with integrity and be honest with the child, trying to find the answer. What Parents Should Know:
- Physical and emotional changes of adolescent age: How this stage arrives, transforms everything and affects the child in every way. Delve into gender identity, feelings and tastes in the sexual sphere (sexual orientation)
- Sexist attitudes: The treatment must be good for all people, in the case of intimate relationships, respect the person chosen. Be tolerant, generous, help her, don't harass her or control her, jealousy. Consider the other as an equal that is. It is very important to influence this issue and monitor, on the part of both members of the couple, possible attitudes that are not appropriate.
- Contraceptives /abortion/sexually transmitted diseases: Protect yourself against possible pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases, which must be known. You should also have information about different contraceptives or an unwanted pregnancy. The appropriate thing is to visit a gynecologist and make the relevant consultations.
- Sex with love: Children should be taught to have consensual sexual relations and the fruit of the desire of both, where there is not only the physical part, but also the emotional part. Teen sex can be irresponsible and ill-considered. Ideally, they should be prepared to do it at the right time and age.