Emotional connection is essential in positive discipline since people are part of a group and we like to feel within it. Children, just like adults, also need to feel that belonging and emotional connection with the people around them ... above all, and more importantly, with his parents.
Connecting with children is not easy but it is necessary. Connecting with your children means doing it through love and the purest respect that exists and although there are conflicts, the secret is to manage them from calm. Daily stress may be a bit complicated, fatigue ... but the feeling of living in the present may help you in this.
We all have bad days, but those bad days are the key to getting a good connection. Knowing your own emotions and knowing how to manage them is essential, for example, when your children have a tantrum on the street or You feel that the day never ends because of the fatigue that you carry.
Faced with these more complicated situations, it is when children most need you to show them your love in the most sincere way possible and to connect both with them and with their emotions. To achieve this, you will first have to connect with yourself, doing relaxation exercises. When you want to connect with your children, crouch down and look him in the eye…. Because that look is the purest you can know.
Validate your feelings, but also his. Let him see with your words and actions that you understand how he feels and that you know that he is going through a bad time. Show empathy and assertiveness and you will be amazed at how their behavior can improve in no time. When i speak to you, really listen to him because active listening is necessary for his good development.
Remember that a good emotional connection will only bring advantages since you will get along well, there will be no power struggles and best of all ... you will have a relationship based on respect and love in a bidirectional way. Trust, communication and sincerity are the fundamental pillars for a family to function.