There are things about pregnancy that no one tells you, but it would be a good idea to know so that you can at least be prepared for what's to come if you've recently become pregnant. Pregnancy is a magical stage We women are lucky to be alive, and although it's beautiful and wonderful to be able to create life inside us, the reality is that there are parts of pregnancy that aren't so beautiful and there are things you should be told… so here I am to inform you about all those things!
But first of all, I must tell you that I don't want to worry you at all, because all those "things" that nobody tells you are just minor annoyances that actually have solutions. Because in addition to annoyances, you'll also have many other advantages There are some positive aspects to being pregnant, such as your skin being more beautiful, your hair being stronger, you being able to sleep more, and people offering you seats on public transport. Although not everything is perfect, it's always important to focus on the positive, because the best is yet to come, after the birth.
Do not eat for two
Well, this is an excuse for many women to be able to satisfy their hunger or their cravings in pregnancy. It is true that it would not occur to anyone to tell a pregnant woman to stop eating if she is hungry, but it is the pregnant woman who must know when and how to eat. eat whatever you want This is often said, but it's not true. If you eat whatever you want or think you should eat for two, you'll simply gain weight that will be very difficult to lose later.
You need to be clear that being pregnant means having a healthy diet, eating small amounts of food but more times during the day ... but following a balanced diet. Cravings Cravings are fine to have occasionally (they happen because you need something specific), but you should keep them in check. If you spend your entire pregnancy eating chocolate or salty crackers, you can imagine the impact it can have on your health and your baby's.
In addition to quantity, pay attention to quality: prioritize fruit, vegetables, legumes, whole grains and protein of good quality. Stay well hydrated to prevent constipation and hemorrhoids, and preconception consultation about folic acid, iodine, or iron supplementation If applicable. Remember that there are foods to avoid for food safety reasons (such as raw meat or fish and unpasteurized cheeses) and that It is not advisable to self-medicate with antacids or laxatives. without consulting.
Maternity clothes are expensive
Maternity clothes are expensive, that's a fact, but you also need them. You don't need to buy a lot of maternity clothes or spend a fortune on them. Pregnancy It lasts nine months And your maternity clothes will just sit in a closet. Ideally, you should ask friends or other moms if they have maternity clothes they can lend you during these months, or buy clothes on sale, or even wear larger sizes that still fit. But one thing is for sure: when your belly starts to grow, don't try to wear your regular clothes because, besides being uncomfortable, you could hurt your stomach.
Plan a maternity capsule wardrobe with a few versatile pieces: two pairs of elastic-waist trousers, basic stretch T-shirts, a comfortable dress, and a adjustable bra (Size may vary during the trimesters.) You can combine your usual loose-fitting clothes with some maternity wear. Avoid garments that constrict the abdomen or rigid girdles, and opt for stretchy, breathable fabrics.
Pregnancy is not easy
Although it is true that there are women who say that their pregnancy is easy and that they hardly noticed it, the reality is that for the vast majority of women in the world, pregnancy can have quite difficult moments. Muscle aches, when getting up and sitting down becomes a challenge, when you have to go to the bathroom 20 times in two hours, when you have indigestion, when the heartburn barely let you breathe, when you are tired all the time, when hormones they make you have an irritable mood and quite annoying for you and for others ... difficult moments. But you should know that your body is transforming at times and that it needs energy and many resources to give life.
You should never think you are weak because you are bothered by the pain or because you think it is too difficult or hard. Pregnancy It's generally difficult. It's a journey for all women, and no one will be able to enjoy every minute of pregnancy; there will always be moments that are more challenging than others. But one thing you can be sure of: you will love your baby before they are born, even if you don't enjoy what you go through during those nine months.
It's also normal to notice emotional and concentration changesThe so-called "nesting instinct" can lead you to clean and tidy nonstop, and your mind may wander back to your baby again and again. simple listsRespecting rest periods and asking for help are useful strategies. If you experience low mood, insomnia, or anxiety persist for more than two weeksConsult with your reference professional.
You cannot have a sedentary life
If you usually lead a sedentary life, you should know that you won't be able to sit around all the time during pregnancy. You'll need to exercise, even if it's just walking for an hour a day. You need to be prepared for labor and delivery, and for that, you'll need to be in shape. Also, it's important not to gain too much weight, as this could negatively impact your self-esteem after having the baby. Many moms find it difficult to put their tight jeans back on because they did not eat a balanced diet and for not having moved enough during pregnancy. Today you can do activities that are intended for pregnant women to exercise and that labor and postpartum can be something simple without added problems.
Prioritize moderate and regular physical activity: walking, gentle swimming, yoga, or prenatal Pilates. Keep in mind that relaxin It loosens ligaments, so it's best to avoid it. sudden movementsJumping or overloading that increases the risk of injury to the knees, pelvis, or lower back. If these occur CrampsStay hydrated, stretch gently, and ask about supplementation if necessary.
To prevent varicose veins, hemorrhoids and constipationMove around frequently, elevate your legs when sitting, wear compression stockings if prescribed, increase your fiber and hydration intake, and don't hold in your bowel movements. If you still experience significant discomfort, ask your doctor for advice. stool softeners or ointments appropriate during pregnancy.
Be careful with postpartum depression
Postpartum depression is a reality that many women suffer from when they give birth. Postpartum depression usually appears on the second or third day after giving birth and usually lasts up to two weeks, but it will depend on each woman because in more severe cases it can last more weeks and even months. rollercoaster of emotions.
There are mothers who think that they do not love their babies immediately and feel guilty about it, others think that it was not what they expected, they may not be able to be mothers, that they feel confused or disoriented, or that their husbands they are a hindrance ... all these are irrational thoughts because of postpartum depression can be controlled knowing that it is temporary. uncontrollable emotionsBut don't let them get to you. Remember that you're a mother, and after the hard work of pregnancy, your body needs to return to normal, and your hormones too. You are strong, and your love for your baby is even stronger.
It is important to differentiate the baby blues (Transient sadness) of sustained postpartum depression. Warning signs: intense apathy, feelings of inadequacy, persistent anxiety, thoughts of self-harm, persistent insomnia, or loss of interest in everything. Seek professional help without delay and lean on your support network. Bonding with your baby may take time to develop and There isn't always an immediate "love at first sight"Affection is built over time, skin to skin, and presence.
Surprising changes: from head to toe
More sensitive sense of smell and nasal discomfort: many pregnant women experience nausea and vomiting of everyday smells, congestion, and even nosebleeds. The so-called pregnancy rhinitis This is due to mucosal hyperreactivity and increased blood flow; hydrating the mucosa and ventilating helps. There may also be Bleeding gumsMaintain good hygiene and visit the dentist.
Increased vaginal discharge Hormonal effects often cause vaginal discharge, which is normal. If the discharge smells bad, is clumpy, or has other symptoms, it's a cause for concern. intense itchingConsult your doctor for possible candidiasis or another infection. Some early bleeding may be implementationIf the amount is high or there is pain, seek medical evaluation immediately. first ultrasound.
Sleep patterns change: you can alternate drowsiness with early morning awakening insomnia. Also common are the vivid dreams (sometimes erotic) and nightmares; they are part of the emotional and hormonal adjustment.
In the mouth, in addition to sensitive gums, the following may appear: sialorrhea (excessive salivation), especially in the first trimester. Stay hydrated, eat small portions, and consult a doctor if it becomes very bothersome.
Skin, hair, nails, and chest
The increase in hormones and blood volume can give you the famous “pregnancy glow”but also appear melasma (stains), nigra line on the abdomen, acne, or itching due to skin stretching. Use protector solar Moisturize thoroughly every day and avoid tanning beds. Most skin changes tend to improve after childbirth.
El Hair usually grows longer and hair loss may decrease due to hormonal effects, but it's possible to notice some hair loss postpartum. Hair may also grow in new areas, and Nails They may be stronger or, in some cases, more brittle. These are temporary changes; avoid harsh chemicals if they irritate you.
The breasts grow due to the action of estrogen and progesterone, and the rib cage can expand its perimeter to improve oxygen intake; it is likely that change your bra several times During pregnancy.
Feet, joints and footwear
The feet may swell And, due to the action of relaxin and the extra weight, they may flatten slightly. It's normal to need a larger shoe size during pregnancy (and sometimes permanently). Prioritize wide, stable shoes, elevate your legs occasionally, and move your ankles often. Avoid overexertion. joint instability.
Digestive system and urination: what almost no one talks about
Addition nausea and reflux, there may be gases, flatulence or even episodes of mild diarrhea. Constipation is common due to hormones and pressure from the uterus. Adjust your fiber, water, and exercise intake, and consult a doctor if you need safe medication. burning They improve with small meals, avoiding lying down after eating, and raising the head of the bed.
You may notice a frequent urge to urinate. frequency and urine leakage with laughter or sneezing. Work the pelvic floor Working with a specialized physiotherapist is a great help in preventing and treating losses.
Time, nest, and mind in pregnancy mode
You'll see that you start counting in weeks and trimesters, and that everything revolves around your belly (yes, even conversations). It's common to feel less social or more sensitive; you have the right to express how you feel Now prioritize your well-being. nesting instinct It will lead you to clean and tidy up before childbirth: use it to your advantage, without forcing yourself.
Real childbirth: beyond the movie
Contractions Braxton Hicks These are painless tests that make the uterus hard for a few seconds. The contractions during labor are rhythmic and intense. The amniotic sac may break It may flow or trickle, and the fluid is usually clear; the body replenishes it frequently, so it can continue flowing until birth. During labor, these changes may occur. nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, or gas...and even loss of bladder or bowel control. This is normal and the healthcare team is used to it.
Make a birth plan where you express your preferences: companion, mobility, positions, pain management, and baby care. Learn about non-pharmacological options such as hot bath, nitrous oxide or sterile water injections, in addition to the epidural. Remember: the hospital isn't always the best place to start; a quiet environment promotes oxytocin.
Postpartum and breastfeeding without filters
After birth, you will have lochia (period-like bleeding) several weeks and afterpains (Contractions) that help the uterus shrink. You may feel euphoric in the morning and cry at night; give yourself permission to feel and ask for help. arranges visits so that they are short and useful (food, errands, hands).
La Breastfeeding is natural, but not always easy; with flat or inverted nipples You can also breastfeed. If it hurts, you have cracked nipples, or the baby isn't feeding well, you need to adjust your technique and seek professional support. Avoid myths and seek expert advice. If you don't bond with your baby immediately, don't blame yourself: the bond is built over time and with frequent contact.
Sex, body and consequences
La libido fluctuatesIn the first trimester, it may decrease due to fatigue; in the second, it usually improves; and in the third, logistics complicate things. After the "quarantine," desire may take some time to return; talking about it as a couple and looking for ways to increase it can help. intimacy without pressureand clarifying doubts about the masturbation during pregnancy, is recovering.
There may be changes in the vulva (swelling, varicose veins) and some aftermath such as stretch marks, perineal pain, or urinary incontinence. Don't normalize the pain: a pelvic floor assessment can make all the difference.
Small everyday truths
- Self-promotionYour belly will be the center of attention; reserve mental space to talk about other things.
- Disgusting to perfumes, smoke or food; let your surroundings know.
- Burning that force you to sleep sitting up.
- Farmacia New: creams, oils, bras, scales; ask for advice before buying.
- Itching and "belly shelf": moisturize your skin and assume that your belly will accumulate crumbs and drops of toothpaste.
- Little kicks that feel like the movement of "tectonic plates" when you lie down; it's a sign that your baby is active.
Finally, on the time measurementIt uses the obstetric language of weeks and trimesters; regarding pregnancy tests, an early negative result does not completely rule it out if your period is late and there are symptoms. repeat the test within a few days or consultation.
You're left with the certainty that nothing fully prepares you, but the insightsA support network and listening to your body can help you navigate pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum more calmly. Every experience is unique: take care of yourself, ask for help when you need it, and celebrate every small step on your journey to motherhood.
