Many mothers are stressed that our son yells instead of talking. This is normal in early childhood. However, we must observe him, in case these screams were a call for attention, if we could detect any disorder or if there was a hearing problem, which may be temporary.
Here we explain why many boys and girls scream when speaking, the reasons that may be behind, we will try to analyze it and give you some tips to lower your voice. But remember a basic premise: these are children, not miniature adults.
Some preliminary questions about why your child can scream
We have already established that children think, feel, and act very differently from adults. Thanks god! And we cannot pretend that they act, think and feel the way we do. Children are spontaneous, explosive, happy, intense, they tend to speak a lot and in a high tone
We must accept our children as they are, with their temperament and personality. What we must and can do is, as mothers, go modeling and moderating their emotional expression. For this there are different materials and means that can serve you.
If there is no disorder or difficulty, it is normal for your child to scream when speaking because has gotten used to having this tone of voice, which is higher than normal. You may have gotten used to it because in your house you speak with a high tone, the volume of the television, a noisy environment, but it can also be due to age or the need to attract attention. We will talk about all this below.
Reasons for a child who screams when speaking
One of the reasons that lead a child to speak by shouting may be the edad. In early childhood, up to 6 years of age, children do not control the tone of voice with which they express themselves. They yell at anything that catches their attention, scares them, or excites them. Already, between the ages of 6 and 12, their expressions are modulated although they are still dominated by the impulsiveness of the moment.
If your child spends many hours in a school in which there is a lot of noiseFor example, because there are many students, he will get used to speaking in a tone of voice above normal to make himself heard. Keep in mind that their friends and colleagues do too. The same happens if a high tone of voice is used in the family.
There are children who have the need to get the attention of adults to feel loved. To get our attention, and that we attend to them, they adopt this tone of voice, so we will tell them not to yell, and with this we reinforce this behavior even more. And let's also bear in mind that it can be a wax plug in the ear, which with a revision will be solved.
Tips for your child to lower the tone of voice
One of the first tips we want to give you is that focus all your attention on what your child says when he talks. Stop what you are doing and actively listen to him. That way he won't find reasons to yell at you. To reduce his impulsiveness we can teach him to respect the turn to speak. That we ourselves must respect. Don't interrupt him while he's talking.
Your child may scream when speaking in response to unpleasant emotions such as frustration, jealousy, stress. Understand that because of their age, they have less capacity to manage them, so it is their way of releasing them. Work with him other forms of channel these energies, but without forbidding to manifest them. Play games, activities, or exercises that help him modulate the intensity of his voice.
And although it seems obvious, if you don't want your child to keep yelling when he talks, do not correspond to their screams with more screams. It's no use saying don't yell at me! if we do it with a high tone of voice. There is nothing like an examination of conscience and analyze how we can improve so that calm reigns in our home, and of course, banishes punishments or verbal threats.