It is the big complaint of many parents, after giving all the privileges, attention and education to your children, suddenly rebellion enters them and they do not obey you. The counterpart of this denial is the feeling that the child I no longer want to obey the rules from home and your contempt begins here.
The problem is that no matter how much the orders are dictated and the anger has to be reached, it is when it is observed that the child loses total authority that he had towards his parents. In this sense, submissive parents cannot be involved either, since a child without rules and without power he ends up lost and suffers because he doesn't know which way to go.
Consequences of why your children do not obey
It is a very common act at the age of 2-3 years, when the child begins to position his behavior and tries to challenge the authority of the parents. It is logical that they refuse to do one thing when they have to stop doing another which they found much more interesting.
The same happens when parents start taking an excessive authoritarianism, always looking for the benefit of others and demonstrate their power, just like that. At this point the children are not even rewarded for having obeyed and that joins in opposing and rebelling.
Many psychologists claim that disobedience begins because they try to get the attention of parents, as they are constantly being scolded and made to weigh in a negative way of being polite. In most cases children can disobey because feel insecure, or because they want to attract attention for being jealous. In this case the cause may be the birth of a sibling or because they need to spend much more time with their parents.
Some parents may come to think that the best education was the old one. The authority and education that was implemented was repressive, an order was issued and you had to abide by it without looking back. But nowadays this way of leading does not satisfy. And it is that from 6 years onwards the words "because I say so" are not worth it. You have to talk briefly and recount why, so things will be much better reasoned. A rebound and an excess of "because I said so" can lead to similar answers in the child as a teenager.
Is it in the way of disciplining a parent to a child? Well, many times this fact comes hand in hand, since there are parents who impose rules on a child who he is not even old to execute said facts. The result is a overwhelmed son and frustrated father. The ideal is to go step by step and be patient, so the child assimilates the rules.
How to modify this behavior
When he ignores and you can talk to him, you have to ask "why doesn't he obey." Dialogue is the best measure in these aspects and especially when it is necessary to impose a rule that will lead to a discussion. Thus the message will be much better received. Also, if it is done with a calm voice and without pressing the moment, the order will be much better received.
The moment I don't obey take your time so that I can act and not immediately. The child may be angry at that moment and ignore it, it is just waiting a few minutes that he will surely obey. And if it does not do so, the order must be transmitted again and without shouting. It can be repeated with a calm voice and discussing the reason for that behavior.
In conclusion, we must review a very important aspect, love. Confinity with your children and that they see that they are loved are the main sources for everything to flow with harmony. We must respect their posture as children and direct them with a firm hand, but without seeing that the attention paid is negative. Child constantly scolded and not rewarded or watch when he does something right, in the end he is a child who learns from certain behaviors He does not like.