Yana da hankali a kalli tsawa azaman rashin dacewar hankali wanda ke buƙatar kawar da wuri-wuri. Amma iyayen da 'ya'yansu suka bunkasa sun ga fitintinun a matsayin lokutan koyarwa ne kuma lokaci ne na hulɗa da' ya'yansu. Haka ne, wannan ba koyaushe yake jin yanayi lokacin da yaro ya faɗi ƙasa yana ihu da fushi ba.
Shin wani abu kamar "Bai kamata ku ji haka ba" koyaushe yana aiki tare da manya masu ƙarfin halin haushi? A'a to tabbatacce ba zai yi aiki tare da ɗanka ba. Fadin "Babu abin tsoro" ko "Oh, komai zai daidaita" wulakanci ne. Wannan shine yadda yara ke koyon yin shakku game da hukuncinsu da kuma rasa amincewa.
Tsanani shine mafi kyawun lokacin don haɗuwa da yaranku kuma koya musu ƙwarewa mai mahimmanci. Haka ne, dole ne ku daina mummunan halin nan da nan. Amma ya fi kyau a yi shi ta hanyar da ta dace da ayyukan yaron kuma kada a yi shi a kan asalinsa. Don haka kuna nufin, "Ba mu yi fenti mai shimfiɗar shimfiɗar Goggo ba da shunayya," maimakon, "Ku daina kasancewa cikin mummunan mafarki!" Yaran da koyaushe suka ji labarin baya yin kyau kamar Ilimin hankali.
Lokacin da yara suka sami rashin ladabi da rashin yarda daga iyayensu, suna samun matsala game da aikin makaranta kuma basa zama tare da abokai. Suna da matakan girma na hormones masu alaƙa da damuwa a jikinsu. Suna da saurin samun matsalolin ɗabi'a a makaranta kuma suna yawan rashin lafiya daga babban cortisol a jikinsu.
Yana daukan aiki, amma dole ne ku kalli zafin zuciyar yara kamar yadda zaku ji zafi na zahiri. Ba laifinka bane. Kalubale ne da suke fuskanta. Kuma wanda zaka iya taimaka musu da shi. Kasance mai jagoranci mai motsa rai, ba jami'in gyara ba. 'Ya'yanku suna buƙatar ku!