Duk lokacin da wata shahararriyar mace ta dauki ciki ko uwa ce, mutane na magana a kaiA zahiri, ba wai kawai game da wannan yanayin na rayuwarsu ba, saboda muna da sha'awa sosai ga rayuwar waɗancan amma sun fi shahara ko famousasa. Ina tsammani zai yi wahala ka zama mawaƙi, mai gabatarwa, 'yar wasa,… kuma wasu su zuba maka ido; wataƙila gaskiya ne cewa shine "farashin shahara" kuma ana ɗaukarsa kamar yadda ya kamata.
Kamar yadda kuka sani, Sara Carbonero ta kasance uwa a karo na biyu (kimanin wata ɗaya da ya gabata) kuma a jiya wata mujallar kayan kwalliya ta nuna 'sukar' da aka karɓa saboda tana da niyyar shiga aikinta ba da daɗewa ba. Ga iyaye mata (kuma ba kawai shahararru ba) koyaushe za a sami wani wanda zai yi mana nazari don ganin yadda muke yin abubuwa, ba tare da la'akari da tsarin uwayenmu ba. Abinda na rasa daga mafi yawan waɗannan nazarin shine bukatun jariri.
Me yasa haka: iyaye mata sun bambanta da juna, duk da haka mahaifiya ba taken take bane na motsa jiki ko haƙƙi, amma babban nauyi ne, saboda rawar da muke takawa a cigaban yan mata da samari yanada kyau. Misali, a nan mun yi magana rikicewar rikicewa lokacin da babu haɗuwa saboda rashin nuna motsin rai ko watsi da shi (a cikin ma'anar kalmar). Lamari ne da ba a san shi sosai amma wanda zai iya shafar ci gaban jariri, kuma ya tsara abin da zai biyo baya.
Uwa da dangantaka da jarirai.
Shahararriyar 'yar jaridar ta ce tana da taimako da kuma wasu kakannin kakannin da suka ba da gudummawa (mun riga mun san cewa' don tayar da yaro kuna buƙatar ƙabila gaba ɗaya '). A gefe guda, tun da dangin suna zaune a Fotigal, dole ne su yi tafiyar 'yan dubun kilomita don aiki, ba zai zama na farko ba kuma ba zai zama na ɗaya ba; kuma za'a tsara ta yadda kuke so kuma da kyau. Na fahimci cewa yin tunani game da yadda zaku karfafa dankon soyayyar da ke tsakaninku da jariri ba shi da wani amfani, amma ina so in isar da cewa ya fi muhimmanci fiye da yadda kuke tsammani, tunda su halittu ne masu rauni wadanda suka fara kulla alaka da mahaifiya, kuma abin da suke fata shi ne ci gaba da yin hakan
Anan zamu iya magana game da batutuwa daban-daban amma masu alaƙa, don haka (tunanin dukkan jarirai) Zan kuma tuna hakan An kiyasta a cikin watanni 9 lokacin da fitowar kwayar cutar zata kasance (lokacin da ya kammala cigaban cikin mahaifa a cikin mutane. Theananan yara suna buƙatar (kuma ee, yana da larura) don ɗauka cikin makamai, kodayake ba koyaushe ya zama uwa ba, amma zai yi kyau sosai idan babban wanda aka ambata shine ita.
A gefe guda kuma, wannan matakin da ake kira puerperal stage wanda wasu kalilan suka sani dalla-dalla, kuma tabbas hakan ba'a iyakance shi ga sanannen 'keɓewar' ba, a zahiri yana iya ɗaukar shekaru biyu (yana da kusan). Yana da mahimmin ma'ana fiye da lafiyar mahaifiya, haɗawa don aiki, da dai sauransu tunda uwa tana yanke hukunci ga jariri ya 'budi' wa duniya, kuma ya iya kwarewa da rayuwa shi kadai, ba ta hanyar mahaifiyarsa ba.
Zai fi sauki idan ...
Sulhun da muka yi shine wani (ma'ana, sulhu na gaske), ko kuma idan jama'a ba su ga sabbin iyaye mata da ke ɗaukar jariransu don yin aiki a matsayin baƙi ba (Kuna tuna Carolina Bescansa?). Idan muna zaune a cikin al'ummomin da suka fi girma dangin da muka saba dashi, kuma iyaye mata basu yi tafiya mai nisa ba don aiki hakan ma zai zama mai sauki, a zahiri akwai wuraren da ko babu hutun haihuwa bai dace ba saboda da mafi girman dabi'ar da aka yiwa jaririn ciki, ya tashi ya sa jaririn ya shiga ciki danginsu da zamantakewar su, ba tare da sun rabu na dogon lokaci da mahaifiya ba.
Komawa zuwa batun farko: Ban san komai game da dangin Casillas Carbonero ba, amma abin da na sani shi ne cewa gabaɗaya ya kamata mu yi magana game da yara, ba kawai game da wuraren haihuwa ba.. Ina ganin cewa cikar kwarewar mata bai kamata ya saba da uwa ba (kodayake wani lokacin hakan ne), kuma a bayyane yake cewa idan kowa ya fadi ra'ayinsa, kowa zai fadi abu daya. Abinda ya faru shine ilimin halitta shine yadda yake kuma akwai buƙatun jarirai fiye da ra'ayin kowa.
Kuma ta hanyar: taya murna ga Sara ta wannan uwa ta biyu, tabbas za ta more shi it
Hoto - 'Yancin Dijital