Unomntwana owamkelweyo kwaye uqala ukubuza imibuzo malunga nemvelaphi yakhe, abazali, abantakwabo. Okwangoku kunye nendlela yokumphendula iya kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi, ubuntu bomntwana, i umzuzu wokwamkelwa, kwahlukile ukuba uneenkumbulo zosapho lwakho lokuzalwa okanye hayi, the iimeko zokwamkelwa kwayo kunye nokukhetha kwakho.
Akukho zikhokelo zichanekileyo kwaye ezinye ziphosakele, esi sisigqibo sosapho kude kudala ngaphambi kokuba ukwamkelwe komntwana umntu ongengowakho ngokusemthethweni. Nangona kunjalo Ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho iyazi ukuba ikhulisiwe kwaye ifuna ukudibana nabantakwayo, yintoni onokuyenza kule meko?
Isimo sosapho malunga nomntwana owamkelweyo
Kwimeko yosapho, asixabisi kuphela ukuba abazali bathetha ngokuphandle malunga nesihloko, kodwa nokuba utatomkhulu nomakhulu, abazala, abantakwenu kunye nezangqa ezisondeleyo, Bayakuqonda oku kuvuleleka okanye hayi. Kukho iintsapho ezikholelwa ukuba kubuhlungu emntwaneni ukuyithetha. Kungenzeka ukuba iimeko zokutholwa zizise umothuko emntwaneni ngokwakhe kwaye abafuni ukuba adlule koko.
Into abayicebisayo yile yemvelo, kususela ebusaneni ityhilwe ukuba yamkelwe, yamkelwa kwilizwe layo lokuzalwa (kwimeko yokwamkelwa komntu kwilizwe lonke), usapho lwendalo, iinkqubo ezalandelwa ukuzamkela. Olu lwazi kufuneka lulungelelaniswe nobudala babo kunye nokusukela kwintlonelo enzulu eya kubazali babo bokwenyama. Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokuphendula eminye imibuzo yabo, baxelele ngokwendalo, ungaxoki kwaye ungacingi.
Kwaye ngoku kuza umbuzo olandelayo, ukuba siyazi ukuba unayo abantakwabo, Ngaphandle kobudlelwane babantakwenu onabo ngaphakathi kosapho, siza kukuxelela? Kuthekani ukuba ufuna ukuzifumana okanye ugcine ubudlelwane nazo? Emntwaneni umxholo wobhuti ubaluleke kakhulu. Ukumxelela into anayo okanye engenayo kuthatha isigqibo, Kwaye sisigqibo mhlawumbi esinokuhlehliswa de ndibemdala kwaye ndinokwamkela olo lwazi.
Kungenzeka kwakhona ukuba ukongeza kubantakwabo bobabini abazali, Unesiqingatha kubantakwenu, ezinye zivela kunina kwaye ezinye zivela kutata, kwaye oku kunokuba nokudideka ngakumbi emntwaneni. Inyani yile yokuba ityala ngalinye lilodwa kwaye kulungile ukuba lixhaswe ziingcali, bobabini bezomthetho kunye noochwephesha bengqondo okanye oonontlalontle.
Ukunxibelelana nabantakwenu apho bekukho ubudlelwane kukho imvakalelo enkulu kwaye inkundla ngokwayo namaphepha okuthathwa kwabantwana ayayisombulula le meko.
Umthetho ngasekunene kokwazi imvelaphi yebhayiloji
Lo ngumxholo onzima kwaye iconjululwe ngokucacileyo kwinkqubo yezomthetho. Kukho iingxabano ezahlukeneyo malunga noku. Inkqubo ye- Inqaku le-180 leKhowudi yoLuntu yaseSpain iyaliqonda ilungelo lowamkelweyo lokwazi imvelaphi yabo eziphilayo. Nangona kunjalo, phambi kweli lungelo kukho le ukusondelelana kwabazali be-biological kwaye, ngokubanzi, kumalungu osapho lwabo lwebhayiloji. Ukuba semthethweni kokusebenzisa eli lungelo ngaphandle kokungenelela kwamaQumrhu kaRhulumente okanye imeko eveliswayo xa usapho lwendalo luchasene nokubonelela ngedatha okanye ukungena kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane yimicimbi ekufuneka ijongiwe kwaye yaziwe liqela elinomdla. Ngoku, masizame ukunika imizekelo elula.
Ngokomzekelo, umntwana amkelwe ngumntu owakhe kodwa omnye wethu ngoozalo bakhe. Siyazi ukuba utata okanye umama unabantwana abaninzi, kwaye unyana wethu usicela ukuba sidibane nabantakwabo. Ewe, kuya kufuneka sithathe isigqibo kwaye silinganise, kuba ukuba kunyanzelekile, xa unyana wethu efikelela kubudala besininzi wayenokukwazi nokubagcina abantakwabo. Kwaye olu luxanduva ekufuneka uyazi.
Njengoko besikuxelele, ngumcimbi onzima lowo, nge imiphetho emininzi. Imiphetho eziswa kwitafile kumcimbi wokumela umntwana okanye ezinye iifomula zokufaka amadlozi.
Kule nto elinye inqaku Lixesha elilelona lihle ukuxelela umntwana ukuba wamkelwe ngokusemthethweni.