Ukuba abancinci funda ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela wedwa yimpumelelo enkulu. Ngobu buchule, a inqanaba elitsha ekukhuleni komntwana wakho kwaye ngenxa yoku udinga ubuchule obuhle kunye nomonde omkhulu. Siya kwazi ukuba umntwana wethu unokulungela ukuzimela kulo msebenzi, kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba abantwana bacela ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela.
Ubudala obusondeleyo bokubonisa ukuba umntwana ulungile kuya kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi, kuba ingengabo bonke abantwana abanamazinga okufunda afanayo. Kuya kubakho abantwana abathi ngaphambi kweminyaka emibini baqale ukuzimela ukuya kwindlu yangasese, kodwa abanye baya kufuna ixesha elincinane.
Yeyiphi iminyaka efanelekileyo ukuba abantwana bacele ukuya kwindlu yangasese?
Umntwana we malunga nonyaka sele iqala ukuba nolwazi ngesenzo sokuzenzela ishishini labo. Bayayazi into abayenzayo, kodwa abakakwazi kuzibamba babuze kubazali babo.
Abanye abantwana benza njalo zilungile kwiinyanga ezilishumi elinesibhozo, nangona kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba kusesekuseni kakhulu. Malunga neenyanga ezingama-22 unokufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyekile ukumanzisa i-diaper ebusuku.
Kususela kwiminyaka emi-2 okanye iinyanga ezingama-24 xa abantwana beqala ukubonisa iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba bakulungele ukuya kuqeqesho lweembiza. Iyakubonisa loo nto bazimele ngakumbi, ubuchule babo bokuhamba buphuculwe kakhulu kwaye bade babe nobuganga bokuxelisa abantu abadala. Jonga ukuba bathanda ukuya kwindlu yangasese bebambene ngesandla kwaye bathanda ngokuzimeleyo ukukhwela kunye nokukhupha iimpahla zabo zangaphantsi njengabantu abadala. Kufuneka nje wenze lo buchule umdlalo omncinci, obonakala unoxanduva, kodwa ukuzonwabisa. Musa ukufaka uxinzelelo kuba kubonakala ngathi kuyamkhathaza umntwana.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezili-24 ukuya kwezingama-36 Linqanaba apho kufuneka ukuba sele befunde ngokwesiqhelo. Ngeminyaka emi-3 ujike nje kusekho i-60% yabantwana abangafundanga ngokupheleleyo ukuzibamba, ngoko musa ukuphelelwa lithemba.
Kukho abantwana abathi phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 neli-4 basadlala kunye ukubaleka kancinci. Akufanele kuthathwe njengento enzulu, njengoko kufuneka ithathwe njengesiganeko esincinci. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba xa abantwana bephazamiseka kwimisebenzi yabo, kungenxa yokuba badinwe kakhulu, baxakekile okanye bayagula. Ukuba ukususela kwiminyaka emi-4 umntwana useneziganeko ezininzi zokungabikho kwaye ngokukodwa ebusuku, kuyimfuneko ukwazisa ugqirha wabantwana.
Chonga imiqondiso ukuze akwazi ukuziyela ngokwakhe kwindlu yangasese
Abazali ngabo ekufuneka benjenjalo hlalutya indlela umntwana wakho aziphatha ngayo for yazi ukuba ulungile na. Kulula kakhulu ukujonga ukuba umntwana sele ehamba yedwa kwaye hlala ngokuzimela ngokupheleleyo. Ukongeza ekukwazini ukuthobela imiyalelo elula, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba unomnqweno wokufuna ukwenza izinto xa ukhulile. Kule meko baya kukwazi ukunyusa kunye nokuthoba iimpahla zabo zangaphantsi kunye naloo nto xelisa indlela yokuya kwindlu yangasese xa bebona abantu abadala besenza.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge, njengoko sele sihlolisise, ukuba akukho mntwana ufanayo, ngamnye ufunda ngokuzimeleyo kwaye kuxhomekeke kwiinkxalabo zakho kunye nobomi bosapho. Abantwana besibini badla ngokufunda ngcono nangokukhawuleza kunabantwana bokuqala, kwaye abafana bathatha ixesha elide ukufunda kunamantombazana.
Ukuba ngoku lixesha apho umntwana wakho sele ekhona kwiminyaka eyimfuneko yokufunda, kufuneka uqwalasele izinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokuthintela ukufunda kwakho. Ukuba umntwana usanda kutshintsha ebomini bakhe, njengokufika komzalwana, ukuhamba okanye ukungena kwisikolo esitsha ... Basenokuba yimizekelo ecothisa inkqubo kwaye ukususwa kwe-diaper kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi. Ukuba awufuni kunikezela, ungazama, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kuya kufuna umonde ongakumbi.