Kukho amabinzana ekulunge ngakumbi ukuba ungatsho kubantwana ukunqanda ukwenziwa kokungazithembi. Emva koko siza kuphawula ngezimbini zazo, kuba mhlawumbi ubaxelele ngempazamo kodwa kunokuba nefuthe elibi kuphuhliso lwabo.
"Akunjalo!" okanye "Akunjalo!
Qaphela ukuba uzifumana kangaphi usitsho ngokwahluka kwe "Akunjalo!" kunyana wakho. Kulinga kakhulu ukubamisa xa sibabona besenza into engalunganga, njengokuphatha imfoloko ngendlela yokuba ispaghetti malunga nokuwela kwihempe yakho okanye ubeke izihlangu zakho kwiinyawo ezingalunganga.
Kodwa kutheni ungabavumeli bayeke i-spaghetti kwaye ke bayivumele ukuba bayicoce? Kutheni ungabavumeli ukuba banxibe izihlangu zabo kwiinyawo ezingalunganga ukuze babe nemvakalelo yokufezekisa kunokungafaneleki? Kulungile ukuba izinto azenziwanga ngokugqibeleleyo kulungile ukuba abantwana bethu bayeke kwaye bacoce ubumdaka.
Kule meko, hlala nomntwana wakho ngelixa eyicoca, uncede xa kukho imfuneko. Emva koko unokubabonisa indlela esebenzayo yokugqibezela umsebenzi. Unokuthi: Ndingakubonisa inkohliso? Ukuba ubambe iplate yakho ngezandla zozibini, awuyi kuyilahla kwixesha elizayo.
"Uyayisombulula"
Ngelixa sifuna ukuthumela umyalezo wokuba sikholelwa ukuba abantwana bethu banobuchule, oko akuthethi ukuba bodwa. Ngokuchasene noko, abantwana banokuziva ngathi banokuzama into entsha kwaye bajongane nomngeni ukuba bayazi ukuba banenkxaso.
Endaweni yokubathuma bodwa ukuba bajongane nemeko enzima, mabaxelele ukuba bakule nto kunye. Yitsho into efana nale: "Masihlale phantsi sifumane isisombululo kunye." Bandakanyeka kwinkqubo, kodwa babazise ukuba ulapho ukuza kunceda nawe.
Ukunyamezela luphawu olunzima ukulufundisa kuba kubandakanya ukubukela abantwana bethu besokola, nditsho nokubukela besilela. Le isenokuba yinto enzima ukuba yenziwe ngabazali, kodwa zikhumbuze ukuba awumenzi umntwana wakho alwe, uyakuvumela oko. Ibavumela ukuba bajongane nemiceli mngeni yemihla ngemihla ukuze xa kufika imingeni emikhulu, Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba banokuhlangabezana nomceli mngeni kwaye balunge.