Ekukhuliseni abantwana kukho amabinzana angcono ukuba ungawathethi kuba oko kuya kwandisa ukungakhuseleki kwabantwana njengoko bekhula. Ngale ngqiqo, ukuba ngumzali noqeqesho kufuneka ngamaxesha onke kube nentlonelo, kucingelwa ngomsebenzi omhle wabazali kubantwana babo. Okulandelayo siza kuthetha nawe malunga nala mabinzana.
Nditya ukutya
Ukunyamekela ubunzima bakho? Yigcine kuwe. Ukuba umntwana wakho ekubona unyathela kwisikali yonke imihla kwaye ukuva uthetha "ngokutyeba," unokuphuhlisa umfanekiso womzimba ongenampilo. Kungcono ukuthi, "Nditya ukutya okunempilo kuba ndiyayithanda indlela endenza ndizive ngayo." Thatha iqhinga elifanayo ngokuzilolonga. "Ndidinga ukuzilolonga" kunokuvakala njengesikhalazo, kodwa “Kuhle phandle, ndiza kubethwa ngumoya” kusenokubangela umntwana wakho akuthelele.
Asinakukwazi ukuyifikelela loo nto
Kulula ukusebenzisa le mpendulo imiselweyo xa umntwana wakho ecela into yokudlala yamva nje. Kodwa ukwenza oko kuthumela umyalezo wokuba awulawuleki kwiimali zakho, nto leyo enokuboyikisa abantwana. Khetha enye indlela yokudlulisela ingcamango efanayo, njengokuthi "Asiyi kuthenga loo nto kuba sigcina imali yethu kwizinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi." Ukuba umntwana wakho unyanzelisa ukuthetha ngakumbi ngayo, unefestile egqibeleleyo yokuqalisa incoko malunga nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali nokulawula imali.
ungathethi nabantu ongabaziyo
Le yingcamango enzima ukuba umntwana omncinci ayiqonde. Kwanokuba umntu akaqhelanga, usenokungagqali njengomntu wasemzini ukuba ulungile kuye. Kwakhona, abantwana banokuthatha lo mgaqo ngendlela engafanelekanga kwaye baxhathise uncedo lwamapolisa okanye abacimi-mlilo abangabaziyo.
Kunokuba umlumkise ngabantu angabaziyo, khankanya iimeko (“Ubuya kwenza ntoni ukuba indoda ongayaziyo ikunika ilekese yaza yakuxelela ukuba uye endlwini yayo?”), mcele ukuba akuchazele oko aya kukwenza, uze emva koko ulathise. Ukuchaneka kwezenzo. Ekubeni uninzi lwamatyala okuthunjwa kwabantwana abandakanya umntu osele emazi umntwana, unokufumana i-mantra yokhuseleko: "Ukuba umntu ukwenza uzive udakumbile, usoyika okanye udidekile, cela uncedo."