Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana kwiinqobo, ewe, oku kubalulekile kwaye kuyimfuneko. Iinqobo kunye nemfundo ziyafundwa ekhaya, kodwa ngaphambi kokufundisa abantwana ukuthi 'ndiyaxolisa', 'Uxolo' kwaye 'Enkosi', thina bantu badala kufuneka sifunde ukukutsho. Kodwa hayi ukuyithetha kwabanye, kodwa ukuyithetha kubantwana bethu xa kufanelekile.
Abantwana bafunda ukubulela kumzekelo wabazali babo, kwaye oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo yonke imihla yonyaka. Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bafunde ukuthi 'Uxolo', 'Uxolo' kwaye 'Enkosi', kuya kufuneka ubaxelele kuqala. Musa ukuba nazintloni, awungomntu uphakamileyo ... Abazizidalwa eziphakamileyo, kude nayo. Bafundise ukuthobeka ukuze bafunde ukuthobeka.
Phambi kokuba umntwana afunde ukuxolisa
Phambi kokuba umntwana axolise, kufuneka aqonde ukuba ziziphi izinto azenzileyo ezingalunganga… Into abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 abanokuyifumana inzima kakhulu. Abantwana abancinci bakwinqanaba lokuzingca kwaye abasoloko beqonda into elungileyo nengalunganga. Yiyo loo nto bobabini abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka bangenelele kwaye babonakalise xa kufuneka ukuxolisa. Kubantwana abaneminyaka emibini ubudala, kuyakufuneka basebenzise imigaqo ukuze bafunde Okulungileyo kokubi kwaye mazise xa kuyakufuneka uxolise. Ukuba akayithethi xa emncinci, ungakhathazeki, okona kubalulekileyo kukuba ndiyakuqonda ukubaluleka kwayo.
Kunoko, Xa abantwana bebephakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengama-5 ubudala, kufuneka baqonde ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuthetha izinto abazivayo Kananjalo, kufuneka baqale bayenze kancinci kancinci ... Kwaye uya kuba ngumzekelo wabo omkhulu. Xa ufuna abantwana bakho abancinci ukuba bathethe indlela oziva ngayo, kufuneka ubachaze ngendlela elula kutheni kubalulekile ukwenza njalo: 'Siyaxolisa xa sisenza into ecaphukisa omnye umntu. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kule minyaka, abantwana abanakho ukuzibeka ngokwabo endaweni yomnye, oku kubalulekile ukuqala ukusebenza kuvelwano besebancinci, imbewu eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ivelise iziqhamo ezilungileyo kwikamva. Kubalulekile ukubonisa indlela omnye umntwana avakalelwa ngayo kwaye abantwana bazama ukumcinga ngalo mbuzo: 'ULuis uyalila, ucinga ukuba uziva njani?'
Xa usebenza uxolo, isimilo kufuneka sithathelwe ingqalelo kwaye ungaze umntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba abantwana mabaqonde ukuba kukuziphatha ekufuneka kutshintshiwe kwaye akukho nto igwenxa ngabo. Uxolo aluthethi nto ukuba indlela yokuziphatha ayitshintshi. Ngesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuba uhlengahlengiso kwimigaqo kwaye kulandelwe iziphumo.
Umzekelo wakho ngowona ubalulekileyo
Abantwana bafunda kubantu abadala kwaye ukuba ufuna ngenene ukuba ndiwanike amagama athi 'uxolo' kunye 'noxolo', kuya kufuneka ke ube ngumzekelo wabo. Abantwana kufuneka babone kubantu abadala ukuba nabo bayaluthatha uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwabo kwaye babonise ukuba okubalulekileyo ayisiyiyo indlela yokuziphatha, kodwa kukuqonda impazamo kwaye bafumane isisombululo ukuze kungenzeki kwixesha elizayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba ngenye imini uyangxolisa abantwana bakho kuba unovalo ngomsebenzi okanye nangasiphi na isizathu, sukuvumela ezo mvakalelo ziwele ezindlebeni. Isikhalo siyakuhlala sibuhlungu emphefumlweni wabantwana bakho Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba ucele uxolelo kwaye ubonise ukuba unoxanduva lokuziphatha gwenxa okwenzileyo. Chazela umntwana wakho ukuba kutheni umngxolisile, kutheni kungalunganga, kwaye kwixesha elizayo uya kuba nakho ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ezingalunganga (kwaye emva koko uyenze). Enye indlela yokulawula ezi mvakalelo kukushiya igumbi apho kubonakala ngathi uza kuqhuma ngokwasemoyeni, uphefumle ngokunzulu kwaye ubale ukuya kuma-20. Emva koko, cinga ngemeko kwakhona kwaye ubuyele kuyo ngokuzolileyo nangokuzola. Ngokunyanzelwa akukho kwizikhalo, kodwa kuzolile.
Kukwanjalo ke naxa sifuna abantwana bafunde ukuthi enkosi kwaye babulele. Xa abantwana bakho bekwenzela into, nokuba yeyiphi na, nokuba yeyiphi na into encinci ... enkosi, ibafanele. Ukuba, umzekelo, umcele iglasi yamanzi aze akuzisele, mbulele! Ukuba uyakuxelela ukuba ubukeka umhle kwisuti yakho entsha, mbulele! Bafanelwe kukuthuthuzeleka ngokweemvakalelo abathi enkosi.
Ngale ndlela bayakufunda ukubaluleka kokubulela kunye neyona nto intle, baya kukwazi ukuba kunjani ukufumana eli gama ... uvelwano nokuthobeka ekufuneka kufundwe ngabantwana. Kodwa kunjalo, kusemandleni akho ukubafundisa ukuba izalwe kakuhle, ukuba nombulelo.
Ungabanceda njani abantwana bayenze
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuvuma ityala labo kwaye babulele. Banokwesaba, babe neentloni, okanye babe neentloni xa becela uxolo, ungaphoswa yile mibono ilandelayo yokukunceda wenze kanye le nto:
- Hlala ungathathi hlangothi xa ujongene neengxabano, khangela izisombululo.
- Yenza izinto kunye nomntwana wakho ukuba ufumanisa ukuba kunzima ukuzenza yedwa, kodwa ungamnyanzeli ukuba enze izinto angaziva ngathi.
- Musa ukunyanzelisa okanye unyanzele umntwana wakho ukuba athethe indlela avakalelwa ngayo, oku kunokwenza imeko ibe mandundu.
- Wulawule umsindo wakho.
- Thatha inyathelo lokuqala xa umntwana wakho ekhathazeke kakhulu ukuba angatsho ukuba uziva ntoni ngaye, mncede abeke iimvakalelo zakhe ngamazwi.
- Lumka ukuba kulula kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bangafundi ukuthi 'uxolo', 'uxolo' okanye 'enkosi' ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni okanye bengazi nokuba kutheni bethetha oko. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka baya kuphinda-phinda isimilo esikhohlakeleyo ngephanyazo.
Abazali kufuneka babenolwazi lokuba ngaba bayangqinelana ngokwenene nemfundo yabantwana babo kwaye ukuba ngaba ngoyena mzekelo ubalaseleyo kubo.