Athini amanqanaba okukhula kwabantwana bakho?

Namhlanje sifuna ukucacisa ukuba yintoni leyo Amanqanaba okukhula, ukuba nefuthe njani kumntwana nakwiminyaka yokufikisa. Ngokwenkcazo exhaphakileyo, sithetha ngamanqanaba ophuhliso xa sibhekisa kwizenzo ezithile okanye kubuchule obenziwa ngamakhwenkwe namantombazana okanye ekufuneka bewenzile kuphuhliso lwabo oluqhelekileyo ngamaxesha athile.

Ngokwesiko, amanqanaba ophuhliso athethwa ngawo kwiminyaka emihlanu yokuqala yobomi, nazo zahlulwa. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuthathela ingqalelo kungekuphela ukukhula komntwana, kodwa kunye nokuqwalaselwa ngokweemvakalelo komqondo "Amanqanaba ophuhliso" andisiwe ukuya kwinqanaba lokufikisa.

Kutheni le nto kubalulekile ukuba wazi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwabantwana bakho?

Impendulo evela kuJane Squires, uprofesa kwiYunivesithi yaseOregon kunye noMlawuli weZiko loPhuhliso lwaBantu kwiyunivesithi enye, kukuba iziganeko zophuhliso zibalulekile kuba vumela ukuba ube nesalathiso ukuba umntwana ngamnye uqhuba njani, nto leyo eyenza ukuba kube lula ukubona ukuba kukho lags kwaye kuququzelele ungenelelo lwakwangoko. Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba umntwana ngamnye unendlela yakhe. Into ebalulekileyo ayisiyiyo indlela kuphela, kodwa nokuba umntwana afike kumanqwanqwa ohlukeneyo.

Oko kutshiwo yingcali kukuba amanyathelo abalulekileyo aqhelekile, kodwa umntu ngamnye uphuhlisa indlela yakhe ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye kuloo nkqubo, amava amahle abalulekile. Ukuthandana kubalulekile ekuphumezeni izigaba, kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela into. Isitshixo kukuchonga iimfuno kunye namandla omntwana ngamnye kwangethuba.

Inyani lokusa umntwana kugqirha wabantwana nokuba uphilile kukubona oku kuvela. Ukuqala kwayo yonke into ngu buchule izakhono zemoto, emva koko izakhono zokuzinceda ezifana nokunxiba wedwa, ukunxibelelana okanye ukuthetha, phakathi kwezinye izinto.

Amanqaku abalulekileyo okuphawula ukukhula ngaphambi kwesikolo

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Sishwankathele amanqanaba abonisa uphuhliso ngaphambi nasemva kokuphuma kwesikolo. Kuyo yonke ibhlog yethu uya kuyifumana amanye amanyathelo abalulekileyo aphuhlisiwe. Ukuze ube nombono omfutshane wokuba zeziphi ezi zinto zibalulekileyo, siza kukuxelela ukuba:

De 0 ukuya kunyaka-1. Phuhlisa izakhono zemoto njengokusela kwikomityi, ukuhlala wedwa ngaphandle koncedo, ukubhuza, ukuphendula ngoncumo lwasentlalweni, kuqala izinyo, kudlala ukufihla kunye nokufuna, ukuphatha ukuma, ukujika, ukubona umama notata, ukuqonda ukuqonda "hayi" kwaye uyeke lo msebenzi ukuphendula

De 1 ukuya kwiminyaka emi-3. Angazitya yedwa, akwazi ukukopa umgca, atsho igama nefani, anyuke esihla ngezinyuko, abaleke, ajike, abuye umva. Ngaba unako khankanya izinto eziqhelekileyo, Amalungu omzimba, anxiba kuphela ngoncedo oluncinci, afunda ukwabelana ngeethoyi, ngaphandle kongenelelo lwabantu abadala, afunde ukulinda ithuba labo, adlale nabanye abantwana. Qaphela kwaye uhlele imibala. Fumana isigama ngakumbi kwaye uqonde imiyalelo elula

Milestones xa beqala ukuya enkulisa nasesikolweni

Nanga amanye amanqanaba ophuhliso ekufuneka egcinwe engqondweni ngethuba lesikolo:

  • Ukususela kwi-3 ukuya kwi-6 yeminyaka ubudala. Uyakwazi ukuzoba amanani afanayo, iimpawu zabantu, izangqa kunye nezikwere. Unokulinganisela okungcono, ukutsiba, ukubamba iibhola, ungaqala ukuhamba ngebhayisikile. Uqala ukuqaphela amagama abhaliweyo kunye nobuchule bokufunda. Uthanda ukwenza izinto ezininzi ngokuzimeleyo kwaye ngaphandle koncedo. Iqala ukuya esikolweni kwaye iqonde iikhonsepthi zobungakanani kunye nexesha.
  • Ukususela kwi-6 ukuya kwi-12 yeminyaka ubudala. Unobuchule kwimidlalo yeqela. Baphulukana namazinyo abo "obisi" kwaye okusisigxina kuphuma. Ukuphuculwa kokuqonda ukufunda ukuqatshelwa koontanga kuqala ukuba kubalulekile. Babelana ngeendlela ezibalulekileyo. Uyayiqonda kwaye uyakwazi ukulandela imiyalelo elandelelanayo. Amanye amantombazana, aneminyaka eli-9 okanye eli-10 ubudala, aqala ukubonisa ukukhula kweenwele zasesidlangalaleni kunye nekhwapha, nokukhula kwebele, kwaye ixesha lokuqala lokuya exesheni linokuvela.
  • Iminyaka 12-16. Bafikelela kubude, ubunzima kunye nokukhula ngokwesini. Ukwamkelwa nokwamkelwa koogxa kubaluleke kakhulu. ndiyazi Bazikhathaza ngomfanekiso wabo kunye nembono yenye. Sele beqonda izinto ezingaqondakaliyo.

Sifuna ukuphinda kuwe ukuba ezi zezinye zezikhokelo zophuhliso ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo, ukuqinisekisa ukukhula okuqhelekileyo kwabantwana. Kwaye ke ukuba ayenzeki, ungenelelo lwakwangoko lunokwenziwa. Ezi zikhokelo azinzima, nganye nganye inexesha layo lokuzivelela kwezinto.


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