Njengomama okanye utata, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukutshintsha umbono wakho wenyani ukuze ngale ndlela, ukuba ngumzali kube lula kuwe, kugcwele ukuvumelana kunye neemvakalelo ezilungileyo. Ungalahli iinkcukacha malunga noko siza kukuvuza ngako.
Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo, zihlengahlengisiwe zivela kwiingcebiso ze-American Psychological Association, zibonelela ngesakhelo sokutshintsha imbono kunye nokwakha ukomelela:
Amanyathelo amathandathu okutshintsha imbono
- Yenza unxibelelwano kwaye wamkele uncedo. Xabisa ubudlelwane nosapho olusondeleyo kunye nabahlobo, ubeke phambili ixesha kunye nabo, kwaye ufune inkxaso xa kufuneka.
- Lumkela imigibe yengqondo. Nanini na xa imikhwa yokuphela ivela, nqumama, ubhale iilebhile kwakhona, kwaye uqondise kwakhona. Umzekelo, ukuba uziva usoyika ngenxa yoloyiko, yamkele loo nyani, emva koko jonga kwakhona kwinto eluncedo yokwenza njengenyathelo lokuqala: ukuba akukho enye into, ndiza kubiza ugqirha wabantwana namhlanje ukuze ndikuthumele.
- Hlakulela indlela ozijonga ngayo. Bamba umgxeki wakho wangaphakathi ngezenzo, yibeke ecaleni kwaye ujonge kumandla akho: Yintoni eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza ngoku?
- Yamkela olo tshintsho kunye nokungaqiniseki yinxalenye yobomi. Ukuqonda gwenxa okuqhelekileyo okujongela phantsi impilo entle kunye nokomelela kuyasokola kwinto engaphaya kwamandla ethu. Nokuba kwenzeka into ephazamisayo, hlukanisa loo mava kulindelo olubanzi lokuba "bekungafanelanga" ukuba yenzekile kwasekuqaleni.
- Phuhlisa iinjongo ngamanyathelo ngamanyathelo kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokuthatha isigqibo. Endaweni yokuzikhupha ngaphandle kwaye unqwenele ukuba uxinzelelo luphele ngaphandle kokwenza nantoni na ukuyifumana, hlala usebenza. Xa imisebenzi ibonakala ingafikeleleki, zibuze ngaphakathi: Yeyiphi injongo encinci endinokuyifeza endishukumisela kwicala endifuna ukuya kulo?
- Zikhathalele. Thatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi oyithandayo kwaye uyonwabele. Ukuzikhathalela ngokwakho kunceda ukugcina ingqondo kunye nomzimba wakho uxhathisiwe.