Kukho abazali abafuna ukuthambisa ifuthe lamagama athi igama lobufazi "lobufazi" okanye "lobudoda" bakhetha ukusebenzisa amanye amagama "angachukumisi" kodwa engafanelekanga ukubiza amalungu esini abantwana babo.. Inokuba ngamagama anjenge "churrita", "chichi", "chochete" "toto", "colita"njl. Kodwa enyanisweni, akukho nanye kwizinto onokukhetha kuzo ngaphandle kokumbiza ngegama lakhe yindlela elungileyo.
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuwabiza ngokuchanekileyo amalungu omzimba kwaye njengokuba ubiza ingalo ngokuthi "yingalo", incanca kufuneka ibizwe ngokuba yi "penis" kunye ne-vulva, "vulva". Ukusebenzisa amanye amagama akukubi ukuba nje abantwana bayazi ukuba ngoobani kanye kanye la malungu emizimba yabo.
Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ulinde de abe mdala ukuze aqale, nje ukuba aqale ukufunda ngamalungu omzimba aze abuze okanye abe nomdla kula malungu, kuya kufuneka uwabize ngegama.
Ungathatha ithuba lamalungu omhla ukuze ubenokuthiya igama lawo, njengaxa umnxibisa, utshintsha ilweyile okanye kwigumbi lokuhlambela, kodwa kubalulekile ukuyenza ngokwendalo. Umzekelo, "ngoku ndiza kusepha isondo lakho", okanye "jonga amasende akho, masicoce."
Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ngokwendalo ukuba le ndawo yomzimba ibizwa ngokuba lelo xesha. Ukuba ukhe uthethe ngokuvakalayo ngelungu lakho lobudoda, lisebenzise eli thuba ukuba uthethe ngokusondelelana nangokuthozama, kwaye indawo yesini yinto esondeleyo ekungekho mntu unokuyichukumisa ngaphandle komama ukuba ahlambe okanye aphilise okanye ugqirha xa oko kuyimfuneko . Oku kuyakubanceda ukuba babe nemida kunye nentlonipho kubo nakwabanye.
Kulumkele ukuba neeteksi ekhayeni lakho xa usabelana ngesondo, oku kuthintela ukuthula ukuba kukho ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo…. Kwaye iqala ngokunika igama amalungu esini ngegama abanalo, hayi ngaphezulu, hayi ngaphantsi.