Abantwana nabakwishumi elivisayo abadingi ukohlwaywa okanye ukubekwa ukuze bafunde ukuba noxanduva lwezenzo zabo kwaye bafumanise ukuba zeziphi ezona zenzo zifanelekileyo ngamaxesha athile. Abantwana nabakwishumi elivisayo bafuna ukuba ubakhokele, inkxaso yabo kunye nokuba ubakhokele kuhlobo lweziphumo eziya kubakho ngokokuziphatha kwabo.
Iziphumo zabantwana nakwishumi elivisayo azinakuhlala zifana kuba ziya kuxhomekeka kubudala nakwimeko nganye leyo ukhetha enye okanye ezinye iziphumo. Iziphumo kufuneka kusoloko kuvunyelwene ngazo kwangaphambili ukuze abantwana kunye nolutsha bazive ngathi banenxalenye yolawulo kwinto eyenzekayo kubo, ngale ndlela baya kuthi bazamkele ngcono iziphumo kwaye bazive xanduva ukuze bakwazi ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo ukuze baphucule impilo-ntle yabo kunye neyomntu wonke.
Iziphumo zemfundo mazibe sengqiqweni, kufuneka zibe zizixhobo ezinokusetyenziswa xa kukho imfuneko yokubonelela ngemfundo elungileyo yomntu, Ukuthintela kunye nokuba sisikhokelo esihle ekukhuliseni abantwana. Iziphumo zifundisa abantwana ukuba bangenzi ntoni kwaye zeziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo ixesha ngalinye. Nangona kunjalo, iziphumo zizodwa azifundisi abantwana amaxabiso kunye nezakhono ezibaluleke ngokwenene ekusebenzeni nokuzithemba kwabo, ukusombulula iingxaki, okanye ukuzeyisa ngexesha elinye.
Iziphumo ezifanelekileyo zemfundo
Iziphumo zifuna isikhokelo ukuze sisebenze kwaye abantwana bazi kwaye bafunde ukuba mabenze ntoni. Isikhokelo ngoyena ndoqo woqeqesho olusebenzayo: ukufundisa abantwana into elungileyo nembi, ubanceda bafunde ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo, kwaye ubafundise ukuba banxibelelane ngokuqinisekileyo nabanye kunye neziqu zabo.
Kuyimfuneko ukulandela ezinye izikhokelo ukuze iziphumo zokufunda ekhaya zisebenze. Ngale ndlela, ukungqubana okanye iingxoxo ziya kuthintelwa kuba abantwana kunye nolutsha baya kuyazi into abanokuyilindela ngalo lonke ixesha. Ungalahli iinkcukacha:
- Iziphumo kufuneka zenzeke kufutshane nexesha lokungaziphathi kakuhle.
- Abantwana kufuneka bakwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga.
- Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba amava angathandekiyo sisiphumo sokuziphatha kwabo ngabom, hayi ingqumbo yabazali babo.
- Iziphumo mazingqinelane kwaye zilungelelaniswe neemeko.
- Isiphumo kufuneka sibe sengqiqweni kwaye singabi nzima ngakumbi kunendlela yokuziphatha gwenxa. Ukuba kuvunyelwene kwangaphambili ngcono kakhulu.
- Phendula kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga zabantwana bakho ngasese, endaweni yoko phendula kwindlela yokuziphatha entle ngokubancoma naphina, naphambi kwabantu.
- Sukusebenzisa gadalala ukusetyenziswa kweziphumo.
- Iziphumo AKUFANELE zibe nobundlobongela.
Iindidi zeziphumo ngokobudala
Kukulungisa impazamo yakhe (phakathi kweminyaka emi-6 neli-18 ubudala)
Ukuba umntwana wakho uphakathi kweminyaka emi-6 ukuya kweli-18 ubudala kwaye waphula into ethile okanye wenza umonakalo, kufuneka alungise impazamo yakhe. Ungamnceda ukuba enze isicwangciso sokwenza, nokuba kukugcina ukuthenga into eyaphukileyo, ukwenza uhlobo lomsebenzi ukuze abambe impazamo njengokulungisa ingca yommelwane ukuba wayinyathela wayitshabalalisa, njl. Fumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho angayilungisa njani okanye ayilungise njani impazamo kwaye umnike imikhondo yokwenza njalo.
Ixesha lokulinda (phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya kweli-12)
Ixesha lokulinda lixesha lokucingisisa ukuze umntwana wakho akwazi ukucinga ngoncedo lwakho malunga noko kwenzekileyo. Yindlela yokulungisa isimilo ngokuhlala kwindawo ethe cwaka okwemizuzu embalwa ukuze abonakalise imeko yakhe emva koko athethe naye ngengxaki leyo. Ixesha lokulinda okanye lokucinga kufuneka libelifutshane kuba ukuba liyadinisa okanye lide kakhulu alizi kunceda. Ngokufanelekileyo, sebenzisa umzuzu omnye kunyaka ngamnye wobudala bomntwana.
Ungalisebenzisa eli xesha xa umntwana wakho sele esilwile okanye engaziphathi kakuhle njengokubetha umntakwabo. Okona kulungileyo kukuthoba wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, ayisiyondlela yokohlwaya umntwana wakho, injongo kukuba umntwana wakho abonakalise okwenzekileyo nokuba phakathi kwenu nobabini nikhangele esona sisombululo siphumelele.. Ungaze umshiye umntwana wakho yedwa egumbini ngaphandle kwesikhokelo sakho kuba uya kuba uhlakulela inzondo kunye nenzondo.
Vumela iziphumo zendalo (yonke iminyaka)
Iziphumo zendalo ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo sisixhobo esihle sokufunda sabantwana, abakwishumi elivisayo, kunye nabantu abadala. Vumela umntwana wakho afumane iziphumo zendalo. Ezi ziphumo akufuneki zibangelwe okanye zenziwe gwenxa ngumntu omdala, kwaye mazingabenzakalisi umntwana wakho, kodwa kufuneka zingathandeki ngokwaneleyo ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba atshintshe.
Umzekelo, ukuba awufuni kufaka iimpahla zakho ezimdaka kwingobozi yokuhlamba iimpahla, sukuzihlamba de kufike ixesha apho ungenayo impahla yokunxiba. Ukuba akafuni kuhlamba, mxelele nje ukuba kwenzeka ntoni (uya kunuka kakubi kwaye abantu baya kuqaphela, ayithandeki). Ngeendlela zabo zokuziphatha kunye neziphumo zendalo baya kukunceda uqonde ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo, kodwa kungengenxa yokuba abanye bayabaxelela, ukuba ayenzelwa bona.
Yazisa ngeziphumo ezivakalayo (yonke iminyaka)
Iziphumo ezisengqiqweni zifana nezohlwayo ezifanelekileyo ezinxulunyaniswe nokuziphatha gwenxa. Umzekelo, ukuba abantwana bakho bahlala beshiya iithoyi zabo eyadini xa begqiba ukudlala kwaye bengazicholi, ungazifaka zonke engxoweni uzigcine kwigaraji kwaye basenokungabinazinto zabo zokudlala ixehsa elide.
Cacisa ukuba indlela abaziphatha ngayo ikwenza uzive njani (yonke iminyaka)
Xa umntwana wakho engaziphathi kakuhle, cacisa ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo abazenzayo kuwe. Ukuziva udimazekile, ukhathazekile, okanye udanile. Abantwana bafuna ukukholisa abazali babo ngokwendalo kwaye Ukuphoxeka kukodwa kunokuvakala njengesiphumo esibi ngaphakathi ezintliziyweni zabo.
Ukuphulukana namalungelo (iminyaka emi-4-8)
Ukuphulukana nelungelo kunokuba sisixhobo esisebenzayo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ukhwela ibhayisekile ngaphandle kwesigcina-ntloko, ukususa ibhayisekile okwethutyana kunokuba luncedo. Ukuba umntwana akazibeki etafileni kuba ebukele umabonwakude, ukumsusa umabonakude nako kunokuba sisixhobo esisebenzayo. Ukuphulukana namalungelo kufuneka kube nengqondo ngokwendlela yokuziphatha kwaye kuya kufuneka uyenze ngendlela eqinileyo kodwa enobuhlobo. Yenza isivumelwano nabantwana bakho, unokuphinda ulifumane elo lungelo ukuba usebenza nzima ukulungisa ukungaziphathi kakuhle.