Zili-8 iindlela zokutshabalalisa kwaye nangalo naluphi na uqeqesho ofuna ukulufundisa nabantwana bakho kufuneka lungahoywa, kuba njengoko igama labo libonisa, ziyonakalisa. Nokuba indlela yokuziphatha komntwana imbi kangakanani, akukho nanye kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha zonakalisayo kufuneka zisetyenziswe, phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko. Ukuzisebenzisa akunakuze kulunge.
Obu buchule buqala ngokungasebenzi ngokulusizi, Kodwa eyona nto banayo ngokufanayo kukuba ezi ndlela zonakalisayo kunezokwakha. Asithethi kubo ukuba bakunike izimvo ezintsha; balapha ukukuqinisekisa kanye kwaye yonke into oyifunayo kufuneka ubasuse kwizixhobo zakho zoluleko.
Ezi ndlela "zisibhozo" zilandelayo (okanye ukungcungcuthekiswa?) Azikho kwindlela yokukhulisa umntwana onqwenela ukufikelela kuye ngokuziphatha okuhle:
- Ityala
- Ukuthotywa
- Ukuphathwa gadalala
- Isohlwayo okanye ukuziphindezela
- Iinkqubo
- Ubuxoki
- Musa ukunika uthando
- Thetha ngendlela ebuhlungu
Ukuba ubusebenzise obunye bobu buchule kwimfundo yabantwana bakho, khumbula ukuba ziindlela ezonakalisayo kwaye ziya kubenzakalisa ngokwasemphefumlweni. Ayondlela ilungileyo yokukhulisa abantwana kuba iya kudala uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kumacala omabini. Abantwana kufuneka bakhulele kusapho apho uthando kunye nokuthembana kusisiseko, apho imbeko isisiseko kwaye unxibelelwano lusebenza yonke imihla.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kunzima kuwe ukuba ngumama olungileyo okanye ukuba ngutata nabantwana bakho kuba ucinga ukuba uswele izicwangciso ezichanekileyo zokubafundisa, ungathandabuzi ukuya kugqirha wengqondo ukuze akukhokele ekukhuliseni abantwana bakho. Abantwana abaze emhlabeni kunye nencwadana yemiyalelo, ngamanye amaxesha ukucela uncedo olongezelelekileyo akufuneki kube yingxaki. Uya kubona ukuba yonke into iza kuba ngcono kamva!