Ngaba ukubetha iesile lomntwana xa engenzi into elungileyo okanye embi? Lo ngomnye wemibandela ekuxoxwa ngayo xa ukhulisa umntwana. Ngelixa ukubetha akukhuthazwa ngoogqirha abaninzi babantwana kunye neengcali zabazali, uninzi lwabazali ehlabathini lonke luyavuma ukuba luyababetha abantwana babo.
Kubazali abaninzi, ukubethwa yeyona ndlela ikhawulezayo nesebenzayo yokutshintsha indlela umntwana aziphethe ngayo. Kwaye ihlala isebenza ngexesha elifutshane. Kodwa izifundo zibonisa ukuba isohlwayo somzimba ineziphumo zexesha elide yabantwana.
Ukuba ujonge enye indlela yokubetha, nantsi iindlela ezisibhozo zokuqeqesha umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isohlwayo somzimba.
Ukuhlala ngokungenakuzinceda ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi
Ukubetha abantwana ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi, ngakumbi ukuba kukubetha omnye umntwana, thumela umyalezo oxubeneyo. Umntwana wakho uya kuzibuza ukuba kutheni kulungile ukuba umbethe, kodwa akufanelekanga ukuba abethe umntakwabo, umzekelo. Ukuba xa oku kwenzekayo sijezisa umntwana esihlalweni ehleli ngaphandle kokwenza nantoni na ixesha elithile, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuphucula. Yenziwe ngokuchanekileyo, ifundisa abantwana ukuzola, okububuchule bobomi obuluncedo.
Kodwa ukuze usebenze, abantwana kufuneka bachithe kakhulu ixesha nabazali babo. Olu hlobo lwesohlwayo lukufundisa ukuba uzilawule, ubonise ngokufanelekileyo iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye wenze izigqibo ezahlukeneyo kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuphulukana namalungelo athile
Injongo ayikokuhlwaya umntwana wakho ekungeniseni, kodwa kukunceda ufunde ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono kwikamva. Nangona kunjalo, oku kufuna ukuziqhelanisa. Ukuba benza isigqibo esingafanelekanga, bafundise ukuba umphumo wokwenza isigqibo esiphosakeleyo unokuphulukana nelungelo. Ilahleko kufuneka ihambelane nokuziphatha.
Kufuneka ukwenze kucace xa amalungelo anokuphinda uwafumane. Njengesiqhelo, Iiyure ezingama-24 zanele ukumfundisa ukufunda kwimpazamo yakhe. Ngoko unokuthi, "Awuzange ukwazi ukubukela iTV imini yonke, kodwa ungayibukela kwakhona ngomso ngokuthatha amathoyizi akho xa ndikubuza."
Ungahoyi ukungaziphathi kakuhle
Nangona kubonakala ngathi kuyaphambana ekuqaleni, ukungahoyi ngokukhetha kudla ngokusebenza ngakumbi kunokubetha. Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ujonge ecaleni xa umntwana wakho esenza into eyingozi okanye engafanelekanga. Kodwa unako ukungahoyi ukuziphatha okunje xa besenza ngathi bafuna ukuhoywa.
Xa umntwana wakho ezama ukufumana ingqalelo ngokukhalaza okanye ngokukhalaza, musa ukumnika oko akufunayo. Kufuneka ufunde ukuba le asiyondlela yokucela izinto. Ekuqaleni mxelele ukuba asiyondlela yokuyifumana leyo kwaye umxelele ukuba makenze njani okanye nini, kwixesha elizayo, ungamhoyi de akubuze kakuhle. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, bafunda ukuba ukuziphatha ngembeko yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo.
Fundisa izakhono ezitsha
Enye yeengxaki eziphambili ngokubethwa kukuba ayifundisi umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe ngcono. Ukubetha umntwana wakho ngenxa yokucaphuka ayizukukufundisa ukuzola kwixesha elizayo uyaphambana.
Kufuneka funda ukusombulula iingxaki, ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye uzibophelele. Xa abazali befundisa ezi zakhono, banokunciphisa kakhulu iingxaki zokuziphatha. Sebenzisa uqeqesho olujolise ekufundiseni, kungekhona ukohlwaya.
Iziphumo ezisengqiqweni
Iziphumo ezisengqiqweni yindlela entle yokunceda abantwana abasokolayo iingxaki ezithile zokuziphatha. Iziphumo ezinengqiqo zibotshelelwa ngokukodwa ekuziphatheni kakubi.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akatyi isidlo sangokuhlwa, musa ukumvumela abe nantoni na ngaphambi kokuba alale. Okanye ukuba bayala ukucholachola izinto zabo zokudlala, musa ukubavumela badlale ngazo imini yonke. Nxulumanisa isiphumo ngqo nengxaki Indlela yokuziphatha inceda abantwana babone ukuba ukhetho lwabo luneziphumo ezithe ngqo.
Iziphumo zendalo
Iziphumo zendalo zivumela abantwana bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthi akayi kunxiba ibhatyi, myeke aphume aze aphole, logama nje kukhuselekile (kungekho bungozi) ukwenjenjalo. Sebenzisa iziphumo zendalo xa ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uya kufunda kwimpazamo yakhe. Beka esweni imeko ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akakho kuyo nayiphi na ingozi yokwenene.
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Imivuzo yokuziphatha kakuhle
Kunokuba umbethe umntwana ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi, mvuze ngokuziphatha kakuhle. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho usoloko esilwa nabantakwabo, ukuseka inkqubo yokuvuza ukubakhuthaza ukuba bahambelane ngcono.
Nika inkuthazo ukuziphatha, unokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ukuziphatha kakubi. Imbuyekezo inceda abantwana bagxile kwinto abafanele bayenze ukuze bafumane amalungelo, kunokuba bagxininise ukuziphatha kakubi abafanele bakuphephe.
Mazise ukuba uyenza ngokufanelekileyo
Xa umntwana omncinci eziphatha kakuhle, kunye nabantakwabo, ukuqokelela izinto, ukuhlamba, njl. makazise ngamagama amnandi ukuba uqhuba kakuhle. Ukuba kukho abantwana abaliqela, nikela ingqalelo engakumbi kulowo uziphethe kakuhle uze umxelele ukuba uqhuba kakuhle, xa abo baziphatha kakubi benze into elungileyo, yiya kubo ukuze uvuyisane nabo. Ukuba bafuna ukuhoywa, baxelele ukuba baya kuyifumana logama nje beziphatha kakuhle.