Ukuba ngumzali ayingomsebenzi olula kwaye ukukhulisa umntwana ukuba ahloniphe, abe nomonde, abe noxanduva kwaye asebenze nzima liphupha lakhe nawuphi na umzali. Kodwa abantwana akukho lula ukubakhulisa kwaye kumaxesha amaninzi, bafunda indlela yokuziphatha (elungileyo nembi) ngokujonga abazali babo. Abazali kufuneka bazi ukuba ekugqibeleni luxanduva lwabo ekukhuleni kwabantwana babo.
Kukho iindlela ezithile ezilula onokuzenza imihla ngemihla ukuze abantwana bakho babone kuwe umzekelo olungileyo. Zizenzo ezincinci eziza kwenza ukuba abantwana bakho bayiphawule indlela yakho yokwenza kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Khumbula ukuba izenzo zinamandla kunamazwi xa kuziwa ekubumbeni abantwana bakho. Yintoni egqithisile, ukuba amagama awahambi ngokwezenzo kuya kubakho ukungangqinelani okunokuba mbi kakhulu ukuba ngumzekelo omhle ebantwaneni.
Fumanisa apha ngezantsi ezinye zeendlela ezilula zokuba ngumzekelo olungileyo kubantwana bakho kwaye ubone kuwe umzekelo omhle. Zizenzo ezincinci eziza kwenza utshintsho olukhulu ebantwaneni bakho.
Iindlela zokuba ngumzekelo omhle kubantwana bakho
Bamba ucango lwabanye abantu kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba usevenkileni, elayibrari okanye kwindawo yokutyela, yinto elula eya kuthi incede umntwana wakho aqonde ukuhlonipha abanye abantu kunye noxanduva kwabanye. Yindlela yokufundisa abantwana ngaphandle kokuthetha kwanto.
Khathalela umntu ophilayo
Bonke abantwana bayathanda ukuba nezilwanyana zasekhaya kodwa ayingabo bonke abakwaziyo ukuzikhathalela ngokuchanekileyo kwaye abazali baphela bebalawula. Kodwa ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya (okanye isityalo esincinci ukuba awufuni ukuthatha uxanduva) kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho abone indlela omkhathalela ngayo ophilayo yonke imihla. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukunyamekela izinto eziphilayo kuyimfuneko kwaye kunomvuzo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukunika kwaye ubonise uthando.
Yiba ngumthandi wokufunda
Ngaphambi nje kokuba ulale ungabonisa umntwana wakho incwadi oyifundayo okanye indlela oyifunda ngayo inqaku lemagazini elinomdla. Izibonelelo zokufunda azipheli, kwaye xa umntwana wakho efunda ukuxabisa kwaye onwabele amagama, omncinci wakho unokuba ngumfundi olungileyo kwaye afunde izinto ezintle ngokufunda.
Musa ukuswela ulonwabo
Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba kwamkelekile ukonwaba yonke imihla, ukuba kulungile ukuba angangcolise iimpahla zakhe ngengozi xa efuna ukudlala egadini. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukonwabela imvula, esantini okanye ngekhephu. Ubomi obungqongqo ngokungaphaya abufanelanga kuphila, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubhetyebhetye bokonwaba kunye nokonwaba nako kulungile. Ungathatha ikhefu maxa wambi kwimida ukubonisa umntwana wakho elona cala lakho likhululekileyo nelikhululekileyo.
Yiba nabahlobo bokwenene
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nabahlobo abaninzi, kodwa izihlobo onazo mazibe zezokwenene. Akuncedi nganto ukuba nabahlobo abaninzi ukuba ngenene abanagalelo ebomini bakho. Umntwana wakho uya kuqonda ukuba unabahlobo ngokwenene ebomini bakho okanye ukuba lelona xesha libalulekileyo, uwedwa. Kukho amaxesha apho kungcono ukuba nezihlobo ezimbalwa kwaye ezi ziyinyani kunokuba zininzi kakhulu kwaye azinamsebenzi kuba zingengabo abahlobo, kodwa ukwazana.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa ngendlela yokwahlulahlula ubuhlobo bokwenene kwabo bangenabo. Bonisa umntwana wakho indlela onxibelelana ngayo nabahlobo bakho kunye nendlela abaluleke ngayo ebomini bakho. Ngale ndlela uya kufundisa umntwana wakho esinye sezifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu ebomini: ube ngumhlobo olungileyo kwaye ugcine ezona zixabisekileyo ebomini bakho.
Yiba nendlela yokuphila esempilweni
Indlela yokuphila anayo umntwana wakho kwikamva iya kuba nento yokwenza nendlela yokuphila ayaziyo ekhayeni lakho njengokuba ekhula. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nemikhwa efanelekileyo yokutya ekhaya kwaye uyazi ukuba umthambo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bemihla ngemihla kuwo onke amalungu osapho.
Kwakhona, Ukuzivocavoca njengentsapho yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba abantwana bakufundise ukubaluleka kwezemidlalo. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukubaluleka kokuzilolonga yonke imihla okanye rhoqo. Cwangcisa imisebenzi yeembaleki ekhaya okanye kwenye indawo njengenxalenye yobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kunye nosapho.
Yiba ngumthengi onenkathalo
Siphila kuluntu lwenkunkuma kunye nokusetyenziswa ngokungakhathali. Abantu abaninzi bathenga izinto abangazidingi nje ukuzithenga, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho abone kuwe ukuba ungumthengi onenkathalo kwaye into oyithengayo uyenza ngobulumko, kuba Uyazidinga ngokwenene ezo mveliso ngaphandle kokuba ube sisimilo esiya kuthi siphumelele kwidrowa.
Ukuba uya emall, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba kufuneka uthenge iblukhwe kuba uyayifuna kodwa ezo zibiza kakhulu azisoloko zifanelekile. Kuya kufuneka uyazi indlela yokwahlula phakathi komgangatho kunye nexabiso leemveliso, kwaye uthenge kuphela ezo zixabiseke ngokwenene. Abantwana bakho kufuneka bafunde ukuba ukwenza uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lokuthenga kubalulekile nokuba kufuneka ilawulwe ngobulumko nangokuthembekileyo.
Yibani noburharha
Ukusoloko unomsindo okanye ukukhala kwezilumkiso akusoloko kuyinto elungileyo. Ukuba noburharha yinto encomekayo kwaye kufanelekile ukuba kusetyenzwe kwaye kugcinwe. Shiya ecaleni izimvo ezihlekisayo zokuba nangona zibonakala zikrelekrele kakhulu kuwe, ziyindlela enomdla yokunxibelelana nabanye. Ayisiyongcamango ilungileyo ukuhleka kwabanye kodwa nabanye. Bonisa umntwana wakho ubuso bakho obuhle kunye nokubaluleka kokuzihleka nabanye.
Le yimizekelo onokuba ngumzekelo omhle kubantwana bakho, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana ezinye iindlela, ungasixelela ukuba yeyiphi?