Kukho oomama abaninzi abahlala bekhalaza malunga nokungeniswa kwabantwana babo. Ngamaxesha athile, kwaye phantse ngokungacwangciswanga, sihlala sithelekisa isimilo sethu naleso yabantwana bethu, okanye siyamangaliswa yindlela abazalwana abahluke ngayo omnye komnye.
Ukuba kukho into ekufuneka siyicacisile, yile Ukungeniswa komntwana ayisosiphene okanye ingxaki clínico a tratar. Estamos hablando de un rasgo de personalidad como cualquier otro. Y más aún, en los últimos años se está hablando mucho del «poder de los introvertidos» y de cómo potenciar sus talentos. En «Madres hoy» queremos hablarte de este tema que seguro será de tu interés.
Ukungenelela okanye iintloni?
Le yinto ekufuneka siyenze kwasekuqaleni: Isingeniso akufuneki sibe neentloni, kwaye, ke, ukuba neentloni kungakhokelela ngomso kwingxaki ethile yokuziqhelanisa ngenxa yentlupheko yokuziphatha ngokwezakhono zentlalo.
Ke, kunye nokuchaza bobabini ubungakanani ngakumbi, masibone ngoku umahluko wabo.
Umntwana ongenisiweyo
- Ukungeniswa, njengoko sele sibonisile ngaphambili, akuhambelani neentloni. Ke, kuya kufuneka ubone ukuba ngokubanzi, inxulumene kakuhle. Unabahlobo kwaye ugcina iindlela ezichanekileyo zentlalo.
- Ine a ubuntu obomeleleyo nobakhiwe. Bayayazi into abayithandayo, abangayifuniyo, bakubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuthanda kwabo kwaye abathandabuzi.
- Bangenise abantwana zihlala zizolile. Banesingqisho sabo, esihlala "sicotha kancinci", into ekhalaza ngoomama nootata abaninzi ngayo. (Kuthatha ixesha elide ukunxiba, ukubopha izihlangu, ukuphakama ...)
- Bayayazi indlela yokumamela, bakukhathalele.
- Bahlala becinga kakhulu, kwaye becinga. Uhlala ubabona "betywiliselwe kwihlabathi labo", kwiithoyi zabo, kwimizobo yabo ...
- Ngokubanzi, ngabantwana abathetha kancinci. Nangona kunjalo, xa besenza, uyaqonda ukuba bakhulile kakuhle kubudala babo. Bakhetha amagama abo kakuhle kwaye bazivakalise ngendlela echanekileyo, unyanisekile.
- Abathandi ukutsala umdla, ayingabo abo banamanyathelo okuqala. Basebenza ngcono bodwa kunaseqeleni.
Inkwenkwe eneentloni
- Umntwana oneentloni uhlala enayo iingxaki zobudlelwane nabanye, kunye nabantu ongabaziyo kunye nabanye abantwana.
- Une-assertiveness ephantsi kakhulu, akangomnye wabo bayaziyo indlela yokukuxelela ngokucacileyo ukuba bafuna ntoni okanye kwenzeka ntoni. Zihlala zixhomekeke.
- Babonisa ukuzithoba kwiqela labahlobo, nasekhaya, ngamanye amaxesha uye ukhathazeke kuba enxibelelana nawe kancinci okanye avule kancinci kakhulu malunga nezinto azithandayo.
- Kukho iintsuku apho ubona utshintsho oluthile lweemvakalelo kubo. Abakwazi ukulila nantoni na okanye babonise uvuyo awuyazi ukuba ivelaphi.
- Batyekele ekuphepheni izinto ezininzi ezijolise kuloyiko nakumaxhala. Kukho iintsuku apho angafuni ukuya esikolweni, kwaye uya kukubonisa ngako iingxaki zesisu, isicaphucaphu, ukuziva ugula... La maxesha xa beza kukhathaza "uloyiko lwabo lwasentlalweni", apho iintloni sele zinomda kwingxaki ecacileyo ekwaziyo ukudala uxinzelelo oluphezulu.
Yazi kwaye uhloniphe umntwana wakho ongenisiweyo
Enye yeemeko ezihlala zivelisa ukungqubana okungakumbi kwinqanaba losapho ngumbono ongachanekanga wokuba ukungeniswa ebuntwaneni kunokubangela iingxaki ekuhlaleni okanye emntwaneni. Ke ngoko, kuqhelekile kwezi iingcamango eziphosakeleyo zokuphepha:
- Ukungeniswa kwengxaki yingxaki yobuntu.
- Umntwana ongenisiweyo ngumntwana ongakwaziyo ukunxibelelana.
- Simele Nceda abantwana abangenise ulwazi ukuba baphume ngakumbi.
- Thelekisa abantwana babahlobo bakho nabanye.
Ukungeniswa luhlobo lomntu ekufuneka simhloniphile
Ubuntu lulwakhiwo lwengqondo olunokuthi lube nokuhluka Ixesha elingaphezulu, yakhela ekukhuleni nakumava ethu. Ngoku, ngaphandle kokufumana utshintsho oluthile ekuhambeni kwexesha nasekufundeni komntu, kukho into ezinzileyo kwaye esingenakutshintsha.
Ukuba umntwana wethu ungenisiwe, ukruqukile, ukuba ngumntu othile wobudenge, akanankathalo okanye ngandlel 'ithile, musa ukwenza usukelo lokumtshintsha. Abantwana akufuneki baphinde babe ngabazali babo. Abantwana bethu bahlukile kwaye kufuneka sibomeleze ukukhula kwabo, ukuzimela kunye nolonwabo nokuba yintoni.
Musa ukuyithelekisa nabanye abantwana okanye ngomnye umntakwenu okanye izalamane. Naluphi na uthelekiso lunokutolikwa ngumntwana kugxilwe kwixhala, okanye ukwaliwa.
Cinga kwaye wamkele indlela yabo. Njengomama, kufuneka sibanike izikhokelo ukuze bazive behlangene, ukuze bazimele, banobuchule kwaye bonwabile kubuntu babo kunye neempawu zabo.
Amandla okwazisa
Ukungeniswa kungena. Iincwadi ezinje nge "The Power of Introverts" nguSusan Cain, okanye "i-Introvert Leader" kaJennifer B. Kanhweiler, zichaza ulwamkelo lwangoku lobuntu olunokunikela okuninzi kuluntu lwanamhlanje.
Kude kube kudala, isimilo esithandwayo sasixatyiswa ngakumbi, apho ukudibanisa iprofayili kunye nempumelelo kwezentlalo nakwezobungcali. Nangona kunjalo, ngovavanyo lobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kunye neengqondo ezininzi, amandla emva kweprofayili yokungenisa sele ifunyenwe.
Siyakumema ukuba ufumane zeziphi iindlela ekufuneka sizilandele ukufundisa abantwana bethu, sithathe ithuba lokulunga kwabo okunxulumene nolu hlobo lobuntu.
Ungazikhulisa njani izakhono zakho kubantwana abangenisiweyo
- Ukungeniswa kwabantwana kubuthathaka ngakumbi kwaye kuyenzeka. Hlonipha loo maxesha xa bekhetha ukuba bodwa, banike amaxesha abo kunye neendawo zabo, kodwa khuthaza incoko kunye nabo. Ungavumeli ukungeniswa kuguqulwe kubodwa.
- Ukungenisa abantwana bahlala benobudlelwane bokufunda, okanye ukubhala. Mnike kuthetha, fumanisa izinto ezintsha ozithandayo njengokugcina idayari, ukuzoba iincwadi ...
- Kungenzeka ukuba akayithandi imidlalo, imidlalo yeqela, ukhuphiswano, iinkampu zasehlotyeni. Funa imisebenzi onokuthi uphucule kuyo izakhono zakho, njengeeklasi zokupeyinta, iiklasi zomculo ...
- Ukungenisa abantwana banetalente kwaye kufuneka bafumanise ukuba yeyiphi into yabo, yintoni indlela yabo. Indima yakho kukucebisa, ukukhokela kunye nenkxaso. Ungaze ubanyanzele ukuba benze into abangayithandiyo.
- Bahlala bezimele kakhulu, bayathanda ukufunda izinto ngokwabo. Oku, njengoomama, kuyasinyanzela ukuba sibeke esweni izinto zabo ngendlela ecekeceke kakhulu, ngaphandle koxinzelelo, sikhokele ngokungangqalanga kwaye ngaphandle kolawulo.
- Nxibelelana naye yonke imihla. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba babonakala bezimele kakhulu, abantwana abanyibilikayo kwaye ngakumbi bathanda ukuba bodwa, badinga "unxibelelwano" lwemihla ngemihla kunye nathi kunye nesangqa sentlalo.
- Fumana ixesha suku ngalunye lokuba nencoko "enzulu" kunye nabo. Yiya kwinqanaba labo, wazi iinkxalabo anazo unyana wakho ngamaxesha onke, ebonisa ukuvuleka ngokupheleleyo kwamazwi akhe.
- Ziqhelise ukumamela ngokukuko, konke oku kumisela ukuzithemba okwaneleyo apho uya kuhlala uziva ukhuselekile ukwenza izinto ezinkulu. Fikelela kumaphupha akho.
- Ubuntu obwazisiweyo buhlala bulahleka ngokudideka. Ukuba wena okanye abantakwabo banobuntu kakhulu, uya kuziva enexhala. Njalo hlonipha yena, mayikhanye kwaye iseke ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo nanini na apho unakho.
Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba andise izakhono zakhe Ezendalo, ezo zivakalisi zisoloko zikhuthaza. Ngomso ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba ngumntu okwaziyo ukuphumeza izinto ezinkulu.