Ngaba ukhe waziva woyisiwe yiyo yonke into ebandakanya ukubeleka? Usenokubandezeleka yintoni eyaziwa ngokuba yi-Burnout Syndrome okanye i-Burnt Mother Syndrome. Yinto exhaphakileyo kunokuba ibonakala, kuba, nangona kungathethwa ngokuvulekileyo, oomama abaninzi (kunye nootata) baziva bexakekile ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye.
Kwaye kubonakala ngathi olu luntu alukulungelanga ukuva ukuba oomama abonwabanga iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, ngenxa yento nje yokuba nosapho. Ngokufanelekileyo, abasetyhini abaninzi ngokufihlakeleyo bayadinwa emzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ivelisa (ngamanye amaxesha) ukuba ngumama. Kuba sukukhohliswa, ukuba ngumama okanye utata kuyamangalisa kwaye kunomvuzo, kodwa kukwabingelela kwaye kuyadinisa.
Ndiziva ndidiniwe yiyo yonke imisebenzi ebandakanya ukuba ngumama, ukongeza kwezinye izibophelelo zobuqu, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kunokuba ungacinga. Ngapha koko, likho igama eliqulunqwe ziingcali, iBurnout syndrome, enokusetyenziselwa indawo ezahlukeneyo, hayi ukuba ngumama kuphela. Sisifo esinokuchaphazela abantu kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ngakumbi ezo zichitha ixesha elininzi kukhathalelwa abanye abantu.
Yintoni i-Burnout Syndrome
Ukuzinikezela ekunyamekeleni abanye abantu, okanye abantwana, njengakule meko, kunokubangela ukonakala okukhulu kweemvakalelo, kangangokuba oko kungakhokelela kwezinye izifo ezimbi. Esi sifo sichazwe ngo-1974 ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo uHerbert Freudenberger. Iimpawu okanye iimpawu zinokubonwa njengezipheleleyo Ukuphulukana nenkuthazo, umdla emsebenzini, ukuqonda uxanduva kwanokudakumba.
Uninzi lwabantu lunokubandezeleka kwesi sifo, nangona Ngokwesiqhelo kwenzeka nabo bazinikele ekunyamekeleni abantu abadala okanye abaguli abaxhomekeke kakhulu, njengezigulana ze-Alzheimer okanye isifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo. Into enokwenzeka ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubumama, kuba ukuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo ebantwaneni, kwezinye iimeko kunokuba nzima.
Isifo somama otshisayo
Abantwana bafuna umsebenzi omninzi, ukuzinikela okuninzi kunye nomzamo omkhulu. Ixesha elininzi, oku kuzahlulela kuyanelisa, kuyabulela, kwaye kunomvuzo. Kodwa abantwana ngokwemvelo bafuna, baneendlela zokuziphatha ezingaqondakaliyo ezinje ngengqumbo engenangqondo okanye ukulila ngaphandle kwesizathu. Xa oku kuqhubeka ixesha elide, umama okanye utata angafikelela koko kwaziwa njengokutshiswa, Oko kukuthi, ukulahlekelwa yinkohliso kunye nenkuthazo yento eyenziwayo.
Ungoyisa njani ukudinwa emzimbeni
Ukungabikho kokuphumla, ukulala kancinci nokungalunganga, ukungabinalo ixesha lakho, ukwenza izinto ozithandayo okanye ezikunceda uzive ungcono, zihlala zizizathu zokuba umama okanye utata, ahlupheke ngenxa yeSifo Sokudinwa. Ukuba ngumama okanye ukuba ngutata kuthatha ixesha elininzi ebomini bakhe nawuphi na umntu, kodwa ngenxa yesi sizathu kunye nezinye akufuneki uvumele ukuba ube sisiseko sehlabathi.
Oko kukuthi, abantwana yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bawo nawuphi na umzali. Ziyinjini ezihambisa yonke into, amandla okwenza ukuba usukume yonke imihla ulwele into ebhetele. Nangona kunjalo, ikhona kude ngaphaya kwabantwana ngokwabo. Ukuba ngumama okanye utata akuthethi ukuyeka ukuba ngumntu, umfazi, umsebenzi oqeqeshiweyo, umhlobo okanye umama. Ukukhathalela impilo yakho kubalulekile ukuze ube nakho ukunika okona kulungileyo ngokwakho kwinkalo nganye yeempawu zakho.
Yabela abanye abantu imisebenzi, ukhathalelo lwabantwana kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya kufuneka kwabelwane ngayo phakathi kwamalungu osapho. Cela uncedo kubantu abakufutshane nawe kwaye wamkele olo ncedo lunye xa bekunika. Ukuba noncedo lomnye umntu akukunciphisi nangayiphi na indlela ixabiso lakho njengomama. Nangona kunjalo, ikuvumela ukuba ujongane nokuba ngumama ngendlela ezolileyo kunye neqinisekileyo, into ebalulekileyo ukonwabela ukuba ngumama opheleleyo nokonwaba.