Ukuba ngutata olungileyo (okanye umama) ayingomsebenzi olula, ngakumbi xa umxholo uvulekile kakhulu ngasinye sikhawulwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Umntu ngamnye unenkcazo malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumzali olungileyo, ke ekugqibeleni, unokuba njalo, ngaphandle kweempazamo oqinisekileyo ukuba uza kuzenza. Kwaye, nokuba ucacile malunga nokuba ufuna ukuba ngutata onjani, usenokufuna ingcebiso ukukukhokela kule ndlela.
Ngaphezulu kwako konke, kuba indlela yobuzali inde kwaye iyahluka, iimeko ziguquka ngokungalindelekanga kwaye ziyimfuneko ziqhelanise nazo ukuze ungaphumeleli kulo msebenzi ubalulekileyo. Ukuziva ungathandabuzeki akukwenzi ube buthathaka, kwaye akukwenzi ube ngumzali ongcono, ngokuchaseneyo. Kuyinzuzo kakhulu ukuba ufune ukuphucula kwaye ucele iingcebiso xa ungazi ukuba ungaqhubeka phi, ngakumbi kulwalamano lwakho lomzali nomntwana.
Iingcebiso malunga nokuba ngumzali olungileyo
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho nabantwana bakho, nokuba badala kangakanani. Kungenxa yokuba into yokuqala ekufuneka siyamkele njengabazali, kukuba abantwana ngabantu abahlukileyo, ngeemvakalelo, isimilo kunye nobuntu.
Mamela abantwana bakho
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukunxibelelana nabazali babo, ukuba uyakwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho, xa esemncinci, unentembelo yokuthetha nawe, Uya kuba udale isangqa esingenakuthelekiswa nanto sokuthembana. Kungenzeka ukuba awuyithandi le nto umntwana wakho ekuxelela yona, kunokwenzeka ukuba awuvumelani okanye ucinga ukuba bubudenge.
Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umamele oko baya kukuxelela kona, ngale ndlela, ungamkhokela umntwana wakho kwindlela enzima yobomi. Nkqu xa bengabantwana bafuna ukuviwa, into ebanceda ukuba baphucule ukuzithemba kwabo, ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nokuzimisela.
Chitha ixesha elifanelekileyo
Awunakuba nalo ixesha elininzi lokuchitha nabantwana bakho, umsebenzi kunye noxanduva lwemihla ngemihla luyabanzima kakhulu obu budlelwane. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ixesha olichitha nabo, ngokwenene li ixesha elibalulekile for enegalelo kubudlelwane bakho nakukhula kwakho buqu. Unokuchitha imizuzu eli-10 ngosuku udlala nabo, uncokola kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, ixesha lokuhlamba okanye ngeempelaveki.
Kodwa ukuba ixesha lixabiseke ngokwenene, Kuyimfuneko ukuba uyinikele kubantwana bakho kuphela. Oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kweselfowuni, ngaphandle komabonwakude okanye nayiphi na into yokuphazamiseka.
Ungonwabela impelaveki usapho, ukudala izithethe ezintsha kunye neenkumbulo ezintsha ebomini. Kufuneka uququzelele uhambo lwentsimi, utyelelo kwiidolophu ezikuloo ndawo, ukuphuma kwenkcubeko okanye umdlalo wezemidlalo oyithandayo yosapho, ukhetha.
Yiba ngumzekelo wokuxeliswa
Akuncedi nganto ukuba unyanzelisa imfundo yentsimbi ebantwaneni bakho, ukuba awushumayeli ngomzekelo wakho. Nokuba ungatyala imali engakanani kwimfundo yabo, abantwana bakho baya kuxelisa yonke into oyenzayo. Ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ubafundise ukuba ngabantu abalungileyo, abaxhasayo kunye Ukunyaniseka.
Sebenzisana ekhaya kunye nomsebenzi wasekhaya, fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba umsebenzi kufuneka wabelwe ngokulinganayo. Kubalulekile ukuba bafundiswe ngesazela sentlalo, kunye neenqobo ezinjengokuhlonela bonke abantu, kodwa kwanokusingqongileyo okanye ubukumkani bezilwanyana. Kodwa konke oku akuyi kuba luncedo ngaphandle komzekelo wakho.
Misela imida yokuba ngumzali olungileyo
Kodwa imfundo nokuba ngutata olungileyo akuxhomekekanga ekuvumeni ngandlela zonke, le yimpazamo enkulu. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ukwenza izinto, kufuna umgudu. Kufuneka bazi kwaye bazive bekhathazekile, kwaye indima yakho njengomzali kukwenza banike izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokumelana nokusilela ngakunye. Ngaphandle koko, ngokukhula kwaye bahlala bodwa, abayi kuba nakho ukujongana neengxaki zobomi bemihla ngemihla kwaye nasiphi na isiphelo sinokuphelisa ukuzinza kwabo.
Musa ukuzithelekisa
Uninzi lwabazali basebenzisa uthelekiso ukwenza abantwana babo basebenze nzima, sele ukhe wawabona amanqanaba athathiweyo? Ngaba ukhe wayibona indlela iMenganito edlala ngayo ibhola? Kutheni ungafani nonyana wommelwane?
Abantwana bakho bahlukile kwaye abanakuphindwa, ngamandla abo kunye nobuthathaka babo kwaye ngekhe baphinde babe njengomntwana wommelwane wakho. Nangona kunjalo, baya kuhlala bengabantwana bakho kwaye into abaya kuyizama ngazo zonke iindleko kukuba zingce ngabo, hayi ngenxa yento abanokukwazi ukuyenza ebomini.