Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana babuze imibuzo ngemekobume yabo, yaye imiba yokuzala yayingayi kuba ncinane. Ngale ngqiqo, eminye imibuzo isenokubenza babe neentloni abazali babo okanye abo babanyamekelayo. Xa umntwana ebuza apho iintsana zivela khona, kufuneka sihlale sizolile kwaye siphendule ngokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokubetha etyholweni kwaye ngaphandle kokuxoka.
Uqeqesho lokwabelana ngesondo yinxalenye yemfundo yomntwana kwaye kufuneka simnike iingcaciso ezifanelekileyo, sisoloko silungelelanisa iminyaka yakhe. Ngoko ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba zivela phi iintsana, ke sikunika uluhlu lwezikhokelo ukwenza ngokuchanekileyo.
Yiba yindalo
Xa umntwana wakho okanye umntwana osemncinane kwindawo okuyo ekubuza ukuba bavela phi na abantwana, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile thula kwaye ungaphenduli ngemithambo-luvo okanye ukuthandabuza. Uyaqonda ukuba umbuzo usemthethweni ngokupheleleyo kuba ukuzala kuyinto abantwana abaphela beyibona kwindawo abahlala kuyo.
Ulibale i-taboos, oko kuya kudala kuphela umgama kunxibelelwano. Umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba yinto engavumelekanga, ngoko kwixesha elizayo akayi kubuza nayiphi na imibuzo kwaye uya kuziva ukuba akanakuthembela kubazali bakhe ukusombulula lo mathandabuzo. Oku kuya kuphawula ingxaki enzima kakhulu kubudlelwane babazali odlula ukubunjwa kwayo malunga nokuzala kunye nesondo. Kwaye asifuni ukuba oku kwenzeke. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba zivela phi iintsana njengoko iya kuba yinguqu ekuphuhlisweni kwayo.
Sukuxoka, thetha inyani
Akufunekanga uxokise abantwana, kufuneka wenze njalo banike iingcaciso ezilungele iminyaka yabo kwaye kulapho umngeni wokuphendula ngokwaneleyo umbuzo onjengalo ulele khona.
Abantu abadala bafanele baqonde ukuba ukuxoka kusisisombululo kwingxaki yabo yokuzibona bengenako ukuphendula umbuzo, kunokuba kube yindlela yokwenza isigqibo xa bejamelene nemfuno yomntwana. Kwaye abantwana abafanelanga oko, Bafanele ukuyazi inyaniso.
Ngoko siya kuphepha:
- bala i ibali lengwamza. Oko kuya kudala ukubhideka ngakumbi kuba umntwana usenokubuza, umzekelo, “ingwamza yalufumana phi olo sana?” kwaye ubuxoki obunye bukhokelela kwenye kwaye siyazi ukuba "ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane kakhulu". Ukuphepha ukuba msulwa komntwana ngale ndlela, ngaphezu kokungabi nabulungisa, akukokufundisa.
- Ngendlela efanayo, akukhuthazwa ukuthetha ukuba abantwana ziqokelelwa kwi inkunkuma okanye kumnyango wecawa.
- Kwaye kunjalo kuphephe ukuthetha ukuba iintsana zivela kwi kiss yintoni baphume besiya kuye icici lesibhono kanina.
Iingcaciso ezifana nezi:
- "Utata unembewu encinci ayifaka kumama kwaye umntwana wakheka oza kukhula kwisibeleko sikamama iinyanga ezili-9. Kwaye ke iphuma kumama iphumele kwi-orifice ekwilungu lobufazi. "
Ingcaciso mayivisisane nobudala bomntwana
Kubalulekile ukuphuhlisa intetho ehambelana nenqanaba lokuqonda komntwana ngokweminyaka yakhe.
Abantwana abancinci, iminyaka emi-3 okanye emi-4, bazinza kukwazi ukuba abantwana bakhula ngaphakathi esiswini sikanina kwaye bathi xa beneenyanga ezili-9 ubudala baphume kuso. Kusenokunceda ukubabonisa imifanekiso yemveku engaphakathi esibelekweni sikanina. Abanye bayabuza ukuba usana lwangena njani kunina. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, siya kuqhubeka sikucacisela, kodwa rhoqo ngendlela esisiseko ukuze uyiqonde.
Kunoko, abantwana phakathi Iminyaka ye-7 kunye ne-8Bafuna ingcaciso eyongezelelekileyo kwaye baya kufuna ukwazi malunga nokubandakanyeka kwamadoda nabasetyhini ekukhuleni. Ungasebenzisa imizobo emele iinkqubo zokuzala zamadoda nabasetyhini, kunye ikuxhasa kumabali nakwiingxelo oko kukunceda uchaze ukuzala ngendlela elula.
Iingongoma ekufuneka zicace
- Ukuzala sisenzo esenziwa phakathi kwebhinqa nendoda. ngemvume yabo bobabini.
- ukuzala, umfazi nendoda bamele “babe badala”, ngeminyaka yokuqola. Ngamanye amazwi, bamele bacace ukuba asiyonto enokwenziwa ngabantwana yaye ngenxa yoko bamele bakhule babe ngabantu abakhulu.
- ukuba nomntwana umama notata kufuneka bathandane kakhulu.
- Iintsana zinokufunyanwa kuphela ngamadoda nabafazi abangazalaniyo, oko kukuthi, abanakuba phakathi kwabazalwana okanye abazala, oomalume, njl. nangona bethandana kakhulu. Ukucacisa imiba enjengokulalana kwasekuqaleni kufanelekile kuba abantwana banokukholelwa ukuba uthando lukuphela kwemeko yokuba nomntwana.