Utata nomama ngamnye bafundisa abantwana babo eyona nto inokwenzeka. Kodwa kuyenzeka ukuba ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo, into esebenze neyokuqala okanye yokuqala, ayinakusebenza elandelayo kwaye nayo umxholo utshintsha. Kukho amaxesha apho iimeko ezinzima zifunyenwe ngexesha lobuntwana bamantombazana kwaye baziva bexinekile. Lixesha lokuba ucele uncedo kwaye ucele intsebenziswano yengcali efana nengcali yeengqondo zomntwana.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhuphe entlokweni yakho, kokubini wena neqabane lakho, kukuba xa usiya kwisazi ngengqondo, usilele. Ngokuchasene noko, thetha, kwaye Ukufumana uncedo lweengcali kubonisa inqanaba lokuvuthwa.
Kufuneka ndiye nini nomntwana wam kwisayikholojisti yomntwana?
Ukuba unokuthandabuza malunga nokusa umntwana wakho kwisayikholojisti yomntwana okanye hayi, eyona nto intle yile yithwale. Iya kuba yingcali eya kuthi iphonononge kwaye ivavanye umntwana. Yintoni egqithisile Ungabuza uluvo lwabo baphatha umntwana yonke imihla nakumxholo ngaphandle kosapho. Abo babaziyo abanye abantwana abakwiminyaka yabo, kwaye abakho baya kuba nakho ukukuxelela ukuba baluphawule na utshintsho, ukuba balubona lungaqhelekanga okanye bakwinqanaba lokukhula kwabo.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukukhula komntwana kugcwele amahla ndinyuka. Ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba umntwana abonise inkqubela yakhe, naye uyabuya. Ezi ndawo zokumisa zihlala zibangelwa zimpikiswano ezibangqongileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ngaphezulu kokuya kugqirha wengqondo yomntwana, Isisombululo kukwamkela unyango kwizibini okanye uye kunyango losapho.
Ayizizo zonke iimbambano eziphela ngokubonisana nogqirha wezengqondo. Kungokwemvelo ukuba abantwana ngamanye amaxesha babe nengxaki yokulala, bakhale ngaphandle kwesizathu, baxabane nabantakwabo, okanye babe nomsindo. Ezi mpendulo zihlala zifutshane ngexesha, kwaye aziphazamisi ukukhula kwazo. Ukuba akunjalo, ewe kuya kufuneka sithathe unyana wethu, intombi yethu, siyise kugqirha wezengqondo. Ingcebiso ebalulekileyo, ukuba uza kusa umntwana wakho kwisayikholojisti Chaza ukuba uyaphi. Yenza ngokwesiqhelo, mxelele ukuba uza kubona ingcali eza kumnceda yena nabo bonke abantu ukuba baphucule ubudlelwane bosapho.
Iimeko ekufuneka siye kuzo kugqirha wengqondo yomntwana
Sichaza ukuba loluphi olona tshintsho luqhelekileyo ebantwaneni olubonisa ukuba ungenelelo lonyango lweengqondo lomntwana luyimfuneko. Umzekelo, ngamanye amaxesha babonisa indlela yokuziphatha engahambelani nobudala babo. Uhlobo indlela yokuziphatha ephindayo, ngathi unomsindo okanye unomsindo ngokungathi ulusana, kwaye sele eneminyaka eyi-6. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zihlala zithetha ukuba umntwana uphindaphinde ngokwengqondo ukuya kwinqanaba apho eziva ekhululekile ukuba aphephe inyani yakhe yangoku.
Elinye ityala kuxa umntwana ebonisa ubundlongondlongo, ucaphuka kwaye ugcwele umsindo rhoqo kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu. Unokuba neemvakalelo ezininzi ezimbi ngaphakathi komntwana, kwaye awazi indlela yokulawula. Kukho abantwana abasuka bonwabile kwaye bazolile, ukuya kutshintsho ngequbuliso kwisimo sabo sengqondo. Ukhalela uncedo, kungakho ingxaki esikolweni, kwaye yingcali yengqondo yomntwana eya kuyizisa kuye.
Xa umntwana ebonakalisa ngamaxesha agqithisileyo okuphumla kunye nokuphazamiseka, inokuba yimeko yokusilela kwengqwalaselo. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ichaphazela ukufunda kwaye ibangela ukulibaziseka kwesikolo, ke kuyacetyiswa ukuba uye kwingcali.
Ezinye iimeko ezisinika imikhondo yokusa abantwana kwisayikholojisti
Ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho ugula rhoqo ngaphandle kwesizathu esibonakalayo somzimba, lixesha lokuba simse kwisayikholojisti yomntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba batshintsha iimvakalelo kwisingqisho sobomi okanye iimeko kwimeko yabo.
Los iingxaki esikolweni baluphawu oluphambili lokuba kukho into engalunganga. Gcina unxibelelwano olumanzi nootitshala kunye nootitshala, umntwana angabetha abo afunda nabo, abonise uloyiko, azobe kwimizobo yesiqhelo, elila, ahlukane neqela ...
Kukho ubudala kuyo yonke into. Njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, ukuba umntwana ubonakalisa ukubuyela umva ngokugcina ixesha efuna uncedo, kodwa inokwenzeka loo nto gcina isimilo esingafaniyo nobudala bakho, ungaqhubeka njani ukoyika ukulala wedwa kwiminyaka eli-12 ubudala. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba sijongane nomntwana oneengxaki zokuzithemba, ukunqongophala kokuzimela kunye nokuxhomekeka kakhulu.