Iingcinga ezingalunganga azichaphazeli abantu abadala kuphela, nanjengoko abantwana benokuphucula ukungabi nathemba okanye ubuntu obubi. Oku kunokubonwa kwindlela yokuziphatha yemihla ngemihla, abantwana abazincama kwangoko phambi kwawo nawuphi na umngeniAbazithembi kwaye bahlala bezithethelela xa bengenakwenza nto.
Ukuba mbi kakhulu kunokuchaphazela ukukhula kwabantwana, kuba banikezela kubunzima obubangelwa yingqondo yabo kwaye bayeke ukuzama ukwenza izinto. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ukuba intombi yakho inesidima kakhulu, unokumfundisa ukuba abe nethemba. Ngoba Uncedo lokuba umntwana abe yinto engalunganga, Oko kuthetha ukuba inesakhono sokufunda ngaphakathi kunye nokuhlalutya iingcinga.
Ungayinceda njani intombi yam ukuba iyandilahla
Kuqala kufuneka uzame ukufumanisa ukuba konke oku kungakhathali kuvela phi, ukuba yinto yakutshanje okanye ngokulula njengoko ikhulile iye yaphucula imeko yokungathembeki. Abantwana bamamela yonke into ethethwa ngeenxa zonke kubo, nangona kuthethwa rhoqo phambi kwabo ngokungathi azikho. Zonke izimvo abazivayo zihlala ezingqondweni zabo kwaye nganye nganye iyenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ke ukuba intombi yakho ifuna ukudlala ibhola ekhatywayo kodwa ayisiyonto intle kuyo, kuya kufuneka imamele amabinzana afanelekileyo, kubandakanya amagama anamandla aguqula ingqondo yakhe ibe sisigqibo. Ungayenza, udlala ngcono ngalo lonke ixesha, ndiyazingca ngawe. Amabinzana akhuthazayo kunye khuthaza iingcinga ezakhayo, Ingqondo yentombazana ifumana inkuthazo elungileyo kwaye yile ndlela intombazana eveza ngayo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba uyamxelela ukuba akhethe omnye umdlalo kuba akalunganga kwibhola ekhatywayo, abanakuze bambambe kwiqela, la ngamabinzana abandakanya ukungakhathaleli. Amagama angaze okanye hayi, abangela kwingqondo isiphumo sokungazithembi, intombazana yangaphakathi ukuba ayinakukwazi ukuyenza. Uzakusebenzela ntoni xa engazithembi? Konke malunga nezinto esizithethayo kubantwana kunye nendlela esizenza ngayo.
Isikhokelo sokuguqula ukunganaki
Ukuba mbi kakhulu akufuneki kube kubi, kuba lolunye uphawu lobuntu bakho. Ingxaki ivela ebantwaneni, kuba eso simo sengqondo siyabathintela ekufuneni ukuzala kwabo. Umntwana odibeneyo, ongafuni mngeni, ongazikholelwayo ukuba unakho ukwenza izinto ezintsha, ibonisa ukungazithembi. Kulapho ungaqala khona ukuguqula ukunganaki.
Mnike ezinye iindlela ezizezinye, ujonge ezona zilungele izinto azithandayo kwaye azenza kakuhle. Uyakuphepha ukufuna okungaphezulu kuye kunokuba ecinga ukuba uyakwazi kwaye uyayixabisa yonke into ayenzayo, nokuba kubonakala kulula kangakanani. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenza ukuzithemba wentombazana, ukuze kancinci kancinci uzokwazi ukubona amandla amaninzi onawo ngaphakathi.
Kungenzeka ukuba intombi yakho inesiphene kakhulu kuba wena unegate. Mhlawumbi omnye umzali okanye omnye umntu ohlala kwindlu enye. Izinto ziyosulela, ukuhleka, uvuyo, usizi, uburharha obulungileyo, kunye nokungakhathali. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ngendlela efanayo ukosuleleka kuyosulela. Ke kubalulekile ukuba uqale ngotshintsho ngokubanzi.
Yima phambi kwesipili, qiniseka ukuba intombi yakho isondele ukukuva. Chaza ngokuvakalayo ukuba umhle kangakanani, zilungile kangakanani na ezo mpahla kwaye ufuna kangakanani ukuthatha umhlaba ngalo mhla. Imantra engazukunceda kuphela intombi yakho ukuba itshintshe ukucinga kwayo ngendlela ethembisayo. Iya kuzinceda wena ndikuthande ngakumbi, ukubona konke okuhle okukuwe, konke onokuthi ukunikele kwihlabathi kwaye akukho mntu unokukunqanda. Leyo yimiyalezo ekufuneka ifunyanwe yintombi yakho iyeke ukuba mbi kakhulu.