Kukho abantwana abathi kwiimeko ezithile babe ngabakhohlisi abakhulu, kwezinye iimeko sifumanisa ukuba intombi iyonke Ukhohlisa abazali kunye nabahlobo. Kwezi meko sithetha ngenqanaba lobuntwana apho abantwana bafana neziponji, kodwa ngokuziphatha kunye nesimo sengqondo Efaniswe nomntu omngqongileyo.
La maxesha okuxhaphaza aqhele ukwenzeka ngamaxesha apho intombi yakho ingafuni ukuya ndawo, xa izenza ngathi ayiyi esikolweni okanye inomsindo omkhulu xa ifuna ukudlala epakini kwaye ingakwazi ukuhamba. Banobuqhetseba obukhulu nabantu abathile, notata okanye umama, kuxhomekeke ngubani obuthathaka ngakumbi.
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Intombi ingaqala nini ukulawula?
Umzuzu abantwana abaqala ukuba noxanduva oluncinci kulapho baqala ukukhangela iimpendulo ukungabinakho ukwenza into ekufuneka beyenzile. Ivela kwiminyaka emi-4 xa benolwazi lokujonga ukuba abantu abadala baneminqweno kunye neenjongo. Bayazi ukuba enkosi ngokucinga kwabo bafezekisa iinjongo kwaye nazo Bayisebenzisa kwimihla yabo.
Ukunyanzelwa ngaphakathi kwekhaya
Amantombazana, njengamakhwenkwe, aqala ukulawula ubomi babazali babo kancinci kancinci, baya kubandakanya iindlela ezincinci okanye izenzo zokufumana indlela yakho. Kukho amantombazana anobuqhetseba anqwenela ukohlwaya abazali bawo ngokwenza izinto ezimbi.
Mhlawumbi intombazana ifuna ukuba uyithengele into okanye ufuna ukwenza into ngexesha elithile. Ngenxa yokwaliwa komnye wabazali ngenxa yokunganikezeli, ngeli xesha ubuqhetseba buqala kwaye buyazi kakuhle. Intombazana inokuthi imenzele into embi ngokungafuni ukuya ndawo, ingenzi umsebenzi wesikolo ... kwaye ikuphephe ukubandezeleka kwabazali banikezela kwiminqweno yakhe.
Kwezinye iimeko intombazana Ngaba unokuzohlwayaUkuba awuphumeleli, ungazenzakalisa ngokuzibetha okanye ngokuchola into yokudlala okanye into exabisekileyo uyophule. Ngeli xesha kukho uziva unetyala kwaye thatha ingqalelo yabazali Kuyo yonke.
Kukho amantombazana asebenzisa ukuphathwa kwayo ngokugqithileyo oko kunokubandakanya abazali kubuxoki. Kule meko amantombazana asebenzisa iingcinga kunye nemicabango yawo Fumana into abayifunayo. Banokuza babalise ngeziganeko ezithe zenzeka kuthi, ngokungathi babethiwe, baphathwa kakubi okanye bohlwaywa ngenkohlakalo ukuba abakwenzi oko bayalelwe ukuba bakwenze.
Ukunyanzelwa nabahlobo
Apha amantombazana ayaqaphela ukuba abaleka ekhaya, kwaye ngendlela efanayo bayayazi loo nto banokwenza kunye nabahlobo, ngakumbi nabahlobo bobudala obufanayo. Amantombazana asebenzisa kakhulu intsebenziswano okanye izicwangciso zentlalo ukusombulula izikhubekiso nabahlobo babo.
Ukuze ubaleke, abantwana basebenzisa izoyikiso zomlomo okanye zomzimba. Amantombazana asebenzisa amacebo ngakumbi Kunye nezenzo nentetho. Apha basebenzisa iingqungquthela kubudlelwane, iingxoxo, basebenzisa amabinzana ngenkohliso, bayashiya okanye bangahoyi umhlobo okanye umhlobo, njengokungabamemeli kumsitho.
Singayinceda njani intombi yethu ekhohlisayo?
Ulawulo lwabantwana zizinto zokuxeliswa kwabazali. Bayazi ukuba abazali basebenzisa isixhobo sobuqhetseba esifanayo kunye nabo ukufezekisa iinjongo ezithile, ke nabo bayasisebenzisa.
Zama ukungasebenzisi umdlalo ofanayo Ukuqhubana nabo, sebenzisa uqeqesho endaweni yokuqhatha, kodwa ngeli xesha lothando kunye noncumo olukhulu. Izinto ezincinci esizenzayo zizi: “ukuba uyandiphuza, ndiza kukunika ilekese”, “nxiba iipyjama zakho okanye andizukufundela bali”, “yeka ukukhala, wonke umntu uzokujonga ", kwaye nangokunjalo.
Le ndlela yokwenza izinto ayinalwazi kwaphela kwicala labazali, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba kanjani lungelelanisa amagama ukuze anganikezeli kule nto ayiyo. Unokucela izinto okanye usebenzise uqeqesho ngaphandle kokuzama ukukhohlisa. Ukubeka uncumo okanye ukwenza into ethile, kodwa ngothando, kuya kubenza bahlawule ngakumbi kwizicelo zakho.
Xa ubona ukuba intombi yakho ilawula musa ukunikezela kwizicelo zabo kunye ne-blackmails. Kuya kufuneka uhlale ulawula kwaye uzolile, sukuqhutywa kukukhala kwabo kunye neenzame zabo zokukusola. Kuya kufuneka umenze aqonde ukuba kufuneka Linganisa into ebikhe yalawulwa kwaye uyakuyifumana into ayifunayo ngesimilo esingcono naxa eziphethe ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Njengesiphelo kungcono sebenzisa isenzo soxolelwaniso, Kufuneka ume uqinile kwaye ukwazi ukufundisa eyona ndlela inomdla kunye nomonde omkhulu. Ukuba isimilo siqala ukuba nefuthe kwaye siqinisekile, umvuzo waso akufuneki usilele. Kuya kufuneka icaciswe ukuba akusoloko kuyimfuneko ukufezekisa ufuna ntoni ngokuthanda kwaye ke unokujongana nokuninzi Kungcono nge unxunguphalo.
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