Le nyaniso inokuba nempikiswano enkulu kuxhomekeke kwamehlo ajonge ngaphandle. Xa owasetyhini ekhulelwa umntwana wesibini, uyazi kakuhle into ajongana nayo xa kufikwa kumba wokukhulelwa (nangona ukukhulelwa ngakunye kwahlukile kwaye kungangabi njengokuqala, kube lula okanye kube nzima ngakumbi). Kodwa Into engaziwayo ngokuqinisekileyo kukuba ubhuti omdala uzakuthatha kanjani ukufika komntakwabo omncinci.
Nangona izakuxhomekeka kakhulu kubudala bomzalwana, eyona nto iyinyani kukuba ubomi buya kutshintsha nonke nje ukuba ilungu elitsha losapho lifike emhlabeni. Umkhuluwa kufuneka abe njalo kuba umama ukhulelwe, kungale ndlela kuphela apho aya kuthi aqonde ukuba xa umzalwana efika, yonke into iya kufana okanye ibe ngcono.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba xa umzalwana omncinci efika ebomini bakho uzame ukugcina iinkqubo kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba umkhuluwa ebehlala esenza ngonaphakade, nokuba kukho utshintsho oluncinci. Xa utshintsho oluncinci lusenzeka, kubalulekile ukuba uchaze ukuba kutheni zisenzeka kwaye kuya kufunwa ezinye iindlela apho aziva elungile kwaye onwabile.
Kukho umzuzu obuthathaka kwaye onomdla kuzo zonke iintsapho xa kuzalwa umntakwabo omncinci: umzuzu wokudibana naye esibhedlele. Ubhuti osele ekhulile kufuneka abe nenxaxheba ekhokelayo ukuze angaziva ezifudukela kwelinye ilizwe kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlawula ngakumbi kuye ukuze azive exhaswa, ethandwa kwaye eqondwa maxa onke. Kukho iintsapho ezikhetha ukunika isipho kumzalwana omdala njengombhiyozo wokufika komntakwabo, kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, kuba sele engumzalwana omdala kwaye kufuneka kubhiyozelwe nako. Ngaba ucinga ukuba obu buchule yinto elungileyo ukuba ubhuti omdala azive ethuthuzelekile kwaye exatyisiwe xa edibana nomntakwabo omncinci?