Ukuyila kunokuchazwa njengokubeka into entsha ngokudibeneyo okanye ukubona umhlaba okanye nayiphi na ingxaki enombono owahlukileyo, ocacileyo. Sonke sinokufikelela kubuchule bokucombulula iingxaki kubomi bemihla ngemihla… kuba wonke umntu uyile. Kwenzeka nje ukuba abanye abantu bavumele ubuchule babo ukuba balale kwaye bangazami ukuyigcina iphila kwaye ihamba rhoqo. Kubalulekile ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo ukomeleza ubuchule bemvelo ebantwaneni bakho.
Abanye abantu bazalwa benetalente kwiindawo ezithile ezifana neliso kumzobi, ilizwi elimnandi, umbhali onamagama ... kodwa sonke sinoxanduva lokwazi ukuba yintoni italente yethu. Abazali baya kuba noxanduva lokwazi ukuba zeziphi iitalente zabantwana babo ngokujonga.
Nangona ayinguye wonke umntu ozelwe enetalente, sonke sizalwe sinobuchule kunye nobuchule buqeqeshiwe. Ke, Abantu banokuchaza ubuchule bethu bokungena ngokungena ezingqondweni zethu, kwiindlebe zethu, emehlweni ethu okanye nakuphi na ukubanako kwethu. Ke ngoko, njengabazali, unokunceda abantwana bakho ukuba babe nendlela yokuyila ngakumbi. Ungamnceda ngokusebenza kugxininiso, ubuchule, unyamezelo kunye nethemba ukuze abe nempumelelo kwimisebenzi yoyilo.
Kukho izifundo ezivavanya ubuchule bokuyila apho abaphandi baqala khona ngokucinga ukuba abantwana abanconyelwe ngootitshala babo bobugcisa babenobuchule ngakumbi kwaye baya kuba ngamagcisa. Kodwa babephazama. Abona bantwana ba-ome njengeyona ithandabuzekayo, abona bangalungelelananga kwaye abona babi eklasini zezona zinto ziyilayo, kodwa babenamandla apheleleyo okulala.
Ukuba ngumzali ekhaya kunye nendlela yokukhuthaza ubuchule kuyinto ebalulekileyo ebantwaneni ukuba bafunde ukuyila, kwaye okona kulungileyo ... bonwabele ukuba ngabo kwaye bazenzele okona kulungileyo. Ke, emva koko ungaphoswa ngala maqhosha kufuneka uwazi ukuphucula ubuchule bakho ngaphakathi osele enomntwana wakho.
Sukoyike isithukuthezi sabantwana bakho
Abazali bahlala bephendula isithukuthezi sabantwana ngokubonelela ngemisebenzi eyakhiwe okanye ukonwatyiswa kwetekhnoloji, bacinga ukuba isithukuthezi asilunganga ... xa inyani iyinyani kwaye inceda abantwana ukuba baqeqeshe iingqondo zabo, bakhulise ukucinga kwabo kwaye baphucule ubuchule babo. Ixesha elingacwangciswanga licela umngeni kubantwana ukuba banxibelelane nabo kunye nehlabathi, ukucinga, ukuyila nokudala. Abantwana bafuna ukuziqhelanisa nokonwaba ixesha elingacwangciswanga okanye ngekhe bafunde ukulilawula- kwaye bayakuba nexhala okanye babe ngabantu abadala abangalungelelananga.
Kananjalo, abantwana badinga ixesha elingenanto lokujonga kwilizwe labo langaphakathi nangaphandle, kuba sisiqalo sobuchule. Ke kufuneka uphendule njani xa abantwana bekhalaza ukuba bayadikwa? Bancede bacinge ngezinto ezinokwenzeka, kodwa Mayicace gca maxa onke ukuba nguye ekufuneka efumene indlela yokonwaba ngexesha lakhe.
Kuyimfuneko ukubanika ezinye iindlela ezisempilweni kwaye uphephe ngaphezulu kwawo wonke umsebenzi kamabonakude okanye izikrini njengeendlela zokuzonwabisa ngalo lonke ixesha. Abantwana abasebenzisa izikrini ukuzonwabisa kunokwenzeka ukuba bakruquke kunabanye abantwana. Kwanasemva kokuba wophule umkhwa wekhusi, kungathatha ixesha elide ukuba ube nakho ukufumana ezinye izinto ezikwenza uzive ulungile kwaye uphuhlise ubuchule bakho.
Ucoceko lugqithisile
Mhlawumbi ungomnye wabazali abacoca izandla zabantwana babo ngalo lonke ixesha ukuze bangangcolisi ikhaya okanye bafihle izixhobo zokupeyinta ukuze bangangcoli apho kungafanelekanga khona ... mhlawumbi uhlala kwikhaya unemithetho emininzi kakhulu kwaye awubavumeli abantwana bakho ukuba bacinge ngaphandle kwento obaxelela yona ngalo lonke ixesha. Abantwana abahlala kumakhaya aneendlela ezingqongqo zokucoca baya kuba ngabantwana abancinci bokuyila. Izigqibo zinokubangela iingxaki… kwaye zibengumntwana kwaye ziyile nazo, kodwa zizingxaki ezilungileyo!
Yilumkele imida
Abantwana abasoloko bejamelene nemida engagungqiyo ekhaya baya kube bebeka ubuchule babo ekulaleni ixesha elide. Iintsana nabantwana abancinci kufuneka bafunde malunga nemiba yezokhuseleko, oku kuyimfuneko. Kodwa ngenye indlela Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babone ilizwe elibangqongileyo njengendawo ezele ngamathuba hayi njengendawo eyingozi yokoyikwa.
Kutheni ungavumeli umntwana wakho ukuba alahle ishelufu okanye ikhabhathi yekhitshi? Emva koko unokuyithatha kunye naye kwaye umfundise ixabiso leodolo. Kutheni ungavumeli umntwana wakho apeyinte ngebrashi? Ivumela indawo ekhaya ukuba ubambe bonke ubugcisa bakho.
Umdlalo yinkqubo, musa ukuzibamba
Xa abantwana besenza ubugcisa babo ukuze bafumane ingxelo entle kubantu abadala, ngamanye amaxesha abanakulinda bade bayigqibe. Akubalulekanga ukuba bangaphi imizobo abantwana abayenzayo, kodwa ukuba bazibandakanya njani na kwinkqubo. Ukuba uxelela abantwana ukuba benza umsebenzi olungileyo kwaye akukho sidingo sokubaleka ukuwugqiba, abayi kulinda ulwamkelo lwakho kuphela kodwa baya kuyazi neemvakalelo zabo njengokuba bezobe kwaye nesiphumo sokugqibela siza kuba njani zakuba zigqityiwe.
Vumela umntwana wakho ahluke
Abantwana boqobo bahlala bebonwa njengabantwana 'abahlukileyo' kuba bemka 'kwisiqhelo' esekwe 'njengesiqhelo' eluntwini. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukuphuma kwinqanaba kunye nemilinganiselo ebekwe kwiqela lakhe. Ukwahluka, kuya kufuneka ulibone ngokwahlukileyo ilizwe. Ukuphuhlisa ubuntu, umntwana wakho ufuna inkxaso yakho ngokuchasene noxinzelelo lwenkcubeko ethandwayo.
Kuya kufuneka ujongane noloyiko lwakho malunga nokuba 'ungadumi' emehlweni abanye. Sukuba nexhala, nganye inje injalo kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi ezo zibhalwe 'zinqabile' zezona zinempumelelo kwikamva.