Baninzi abantu abalahlekisa abantwana ngokungathi 'babi' okanye 'abazinzanga'. Kodwa into abantu abayilibalayo kukuba okokuqala, abantwana akufuneki babhalwe amagama, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba abantwana ababi okanye abazinzanga (akukho namnye kubo). Abantwana abazalwa bekwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye abaziqondi kwaye bafuna ukukhokelwa rhoqo kunye nenkxaso ukufezekisa oku.
Uninzi lwabazali banokuziva bengakhuselekanga xa kufikwa ekuncedeni abantwana babo bazilawule iimvakalelo zabo kuba kungelulanga kubazali abaninzi ukuziphumeza ngokwabo. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi indaleko yabantwana kunye nemvelaphi yeemvakalelo ukuze ubakhokele abantwana ukuze bakwazi ukumelana kakuhle nemvakalelo. Yazi ezinye izitshixo zokukufezekisa.
Izindlela zokuphucula ulawulo lwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo
Yiba ngumzekelo olungileyo wokulawulwa kweemvakalelo
Ukuba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho afunde ukulawula iimvakalelo, okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukuba ube ngumzekelo omhle wolawulo lweemvakalelo. Ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho aphulukane noburhalarhume, musa ukuyenza kuqala. Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho azole kwaye ajonge izisombululo kwiingxabano zemihla ngemihla ebomini, ke kuya kufuneka abone kuwe umzekelo olungileyo wokufumana izisombululo kubomi bemihla ngemihla nakwezona mbambano zibalulekileyo ezinokuvela ebomini. Yiba ngumzekelo wabo kwaye baya kufunda okona kulungileyo kuwe, ube ngumzekelo ombi kwaye baya kufunda okubi kakhulu, nakuwe.
Beka amagama kwiimvakalelo
Ukulungiselela ukulawula iimvakalelo, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bafunde ukubeka amagama kwiimvakalelo, ukuba bayayazi indlela yokuzibona kwaye bathethe ngazo. Umntwana onomsindo kufuneka akwazi ukuthi unomsindo kwaye akhangele unobangela omenze wanomsindo, ngale ndlela uya kuba nakho ukufumana izisombululo ezimbuyisela kwimeko yokuzola kunye nokugcwala. Yintoni egqithisile, Uyakuva amandla okuzithiba, kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwizigqibo zakho.
Thatha ingqalelo i-cortex yabo yangaphambili
Xa abantwana becaphuka kakhulu okanye beziphatha ngokungxama, kuyimfuneko ukusebenza nabo kuthathelwa ingqalelo i-cortex yabo yangaphambili kunye nokuzola. Abantwana abancinci basenengqondo ekhulayo kwaye esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba benze into engxamisekileyo, bethathwa zezona mvakalelo zinamandla. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba umfundise ukuba azole ngokuba yinkxaso yakhe ... Kancinci kancinci, iBaya kufunda oko kukwazi kubo. Uyaqhubeka nokugcina umda ekhaya, athethe izinto ngonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba kusenzeka isiphithiphithi, mvumele ukuba azive kwaye abe ecaleni kwakhe ukuphucula ukuzola kwakhe.
Guqula ujoliso
Ukuze abantwana bafunde, kuya kufuneka baqonde amandla abo kunye neendawo apho baya kufuna inkxaso engaphezulu. Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ufuna ukufundela ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, baya kukudinga ecaleni kwabo ukuze bafunde obu buchule. Bayakufuna inkathalelo yakho endaweni yokubhala ihambo yabo embi. Ukutshintsha ukugxila kwindlela yokuziphatha engalunganga kufuneka kutshintshwe kubuchule obufuna ukuqiniswa ... Kubonakala kufanelekile, kodwa utshintsho luphantsi ... Uya kuba unika umntwana wakho amandla angaphezulu. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azive ngathi ukwiqela lakhe kwaye hayi ukuba uchasene naye.
Bafundise ibhulorho yokufunda
Abantwana bafuna ukuba ubanike ibhulorho phakathi kwento abayaziyo kunye nento abanokuyenza ngezakhono abanokuzifunda. Nika umntwana wakho amandla ukuze akwazi ukuqhubela phambili, azi apho anokuhamba khona. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukufumana amagama aza kuwasebenzisa ukuvakalisa indlela abaziva ngayo, akukho mfuneko yokuba ubaleke ukusombulula imeko yabo.
Umntwana wakho uya kufuna ukuba umphulaphule kwaye uzive uqinisekisiwe. Thetha naye malunga noko kwenzekileyo kunye nendlela avakalelwa ngayo, yenza iingcebiso zokuphucula. Umbono kukuba kwixesha elizayo xa kuvela impixano, umntwana uya kuba nakho ukuzikhumbula ezi zinto ukuze ayisingathe ngcono imeko.
Uxinzelelo oluncinci
Ingumbono olungileyo ukubhengeza ngobunono abantwana kwixabiso elincinci loxinzelelo ukubanceda bafunde ukuzilawula. Uxinzelelo olulawulwayo kodwa olusebenzela ukuxhobisa abantwana, ukuze bakwazi ukusebenza ekwamkeleni iimvakalelo kwaye, ukuze bakwazi ukufuna isisombululo kwaye kwixa elizayo, banokuzisebenzisa nanini na xa kufuneka. Ingqondo ifunda ngamava kunye namava, ngakumbi umntwana wakho uya kuba namandla kwaye kokukhona uya kufunda ukuzilawula ngokweemvakalelo. Kwezi meko zoxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka ukhokelwe ngumsa nentlonipho.
Bafundise ukuba bajonge ngombono
Esi sisakhono esibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana nakwishumi elivisayo. Ukujonga ngokwembono kufana nokuthatha inyathelo lokubuyela umva phakathi kwabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo. Inyathelo lokubuya umva kakhulu kangangokuba into eyenzekileyo inokubonwa kolunye uhlangothi, ngokungathi ngababukeli bento eyenzekileyo. Xa isiganeko seemvakalelo ezinkulu senzekile kwaye abantwana besendleleni yokufumana ukuzola, banokucelwa ukuba bacinge ukuthatha inyathelo ukubuyela umva ukuze babone okwenzekileyo ngokungathi ngumboniso bhanyabhanya.
Ungabaxelela izinto ezinje: 'Ukuba omnye umntu ebesenza lento ubuyenza, ubungacinga ntoni ngaye?' 'Ucinga ukuba uziva ntoni / ucinga ntoni / ufuna ntoni?' 'Ungathanda ukuthini kuye?' Esi sisakhono esihle esiza kwakha uvelwano kwaye someleze loo nxalenye yengqondo enokujonga imeko ngokufanelekileyo nangokwengqiqo. Sukuba nexhala lokuba ngokukhawuleza abantwana bakho bafunde ukujonga ngokwembono, bafuna ukuziqhelanisa nokwenza oko. Amathuba amaninzi okuba uziqhelanise, kokukhona uya kuba nakho ukuzenzela ngokwakho ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ukongeza, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubanika ithuba lokuba bakwazi ukucinga malunga noko kwenzekileyo nokuba kutheni kwenzekile.