Kukho into ekhethekileyo yokuba abantwana angathetha kumntu wesithathu. Kukho abazali abaqaphela ukuba intombi yabo ithetha ngolu hlobo, basebenzise amabinzana anje ngala "UPaula uzakudlala", endaweni yokusebenzisa ibinzana eliqhelekileyo elithi "Ndizodlala".
Abantwana baqala ukuthetha nokuzinzisa incoko encinci ukusuka kwiinyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwiminyaka emi-2. Kwiimeko ezininzi kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuva abantwana bethetha ngeziqu zabo kumntu wesithathu. Nangona kunjalo, le modari inokuphuhliswa ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emi-3 kwaye ukusukela kule minyaka ukuba iyaqhubeka ukwenziwa inokuba luphawu lokuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo okanye intetho.
Intombi yam ithetha kumntu wesithathu
Uninzi lwabazali lubhala okanye lubonisane neenkxalabo zabo ngokusebenzisa ingcali okanye uthungelwano. Kwiimeko ezininzi, bathi intombi yabo, oko yaqala ukuthetha ineminyaka emibini ukuza kuthi ga ngoku (iminyaka emi-4), iyaqhubeka nokukhulisa ukukhula kwayo okuhle ekukhuleni kwintetho kodwa ngamabinzana apho achazwe khona kumntu wesithathu.
Kule meko, abazali banokubekwa ezandleni zeengcali ukuze bakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle ezinye iingxaki zengqondo ezifana neengxaki zokuvuthwa. Ngaphezu kwako konke, izama ukuhlalutya ukuba inokuba yingxaki ye-autism
Izinto ezibangela ukuba umntwana athethe kumntu wesithathu
Ukuba intombi yakho sele ineminyaka emi-4 ubudala, inokuba luphawu lokuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo okanye intetho. Kuya kufuneka uye kugqirha oyingcali ukuhlalutya imeko xa kunokwenzeka kubekho iingxaki ezinje ngezi zilandelayo:
Intombi yakho inokuba ne-autism apho ukusukela kule minyaka iimpawu zibonakala ngakumbi. Kule meko kukho utshintsho kunxibelelwano lomlomo nolungathethiyo. Ukuba intombi yakho inesifo se-echolalia (ukuxelisa okanye ukuphindaphinda izandi, iincoko okanye iingoma ngokungazikhethi kwaye kwangoko emva kokukuva), Yenza amagama okanye uthethe ngawe kumntu wesithathu, le miqondiso yimiqondiso yokuba unokubandezeleka kwi-autism.
Kwelinye icala, unokuba unesifo se- Olunye uhlobo lwe-psychosis ebuntwaneni. Phakathi kolu hlobo lokugula ngengqondo kunokuza neempawu ezinxulumene nokuphazamiseka kwintetho, ukungaboni ngamehlo okungaqhelekanga, iingxaki kubudlelwane boluntu okanye ukungahambi kakuhle ekuhambeni kwabo.
Abantwana banobunzima kunxibelelwano lwabo kwinqanaba loluntu okanye ekuziphatheni kwabo: Bathetha kumntu wesithathu, bathambekele ekubeni madolw 'anzima ukuyazi imigaqo ebekwe kubo, abasebenzisani nemisebenzi yeklasi okanye bangathathi nxaxheba ekudlaleni nabanye abantwana okanye ngokwamaqela.
Abantu abadala bayathetha kumntu wesithathu
Abantu abadala banokuthetha kumntu wesithathu. Apha akusekho naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka, kodwa kunokubangela isimilo sokuziphatha esibonisa ubuntu.
Kule meko banokubonisa iinjongo ezahlukeneyo njengokuzibamba, bayakwazi ukuxoka, bafihla into ethile, ukufuna ukwamkelwa okanye nokubonisa ukuthobeka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu abadala ababonakalisi naziphi na iimpawu zokuphazamiseka engqondweni, ke akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuthetha kumntu wesithathu.
Kukho abantwana abafumana indlela yabo yokuthetha kumntu wesithathu belingisa abazali babo. Kule meko sinokubona ukuba singabazali ngokwabo abathetha ngoluhlobo ngaphandle kokuba babekho kakhulu. Umzekelo kuxa sinokuthi, "Bamba ifowuni kaTata ngelixa ndicofa idyasi yakho," endaweni yokuthi "Ndibambele ifowuni ngelixa ndicofa idyasi yakho."
Kukufunyanwa kolwimi, apho Babhekisa kubo ukomeleza isimilo okanye isicelo. Kwezi meko zihlala ziqhelekile kwaye abantwana bathambekele ekubambeni le datha kwaye bayilingise njengokulinganisa. Unokufunda ngakumbi izihloko ezinxulumene nalapho unokufunda "indlela yokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuthetha"Okanye"imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yokuphucula ulwimi ebantwaneni".