Abazali badla ngokuthandabuza ukuba lingakanani ixesha abantwana babo abancinane abafanele balichithe bebukele umabonwakude. Kootata noomama abaninzi lixesha abanokuthi ngalo bazinikele ekwenzeni ezinye izinto ngoxa abantwana babo ‘besonwabisa’ ngokubukela isikrini. Kodwa, akukho meko ifanelekileyo ukuba abantwana abancinane babe phambi komabonwakude ngokungathi yikhangaru.
Ukusebenzisa isikrini ngamanye amaxesha akufuneki kube yinto embi, kodwa ukusebenzisa umabonwakude rhoqo ukuze wenze izinto, ke uya kubumba ingqondo yomntwana wakho, ukuze angazi indlela yokuzonwabisa ngayo kwixesha elizayo. Ingqondo yakho iya konqena kwaye uya kuba nesithukuthezi ngokulula. Ukubeka emngciphekweni ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana wakho lixabiso eliphezulu kakhulu ukuba ungalihlawula ukuze umgcine exakekile.
IAmerican Academy of Pediatrics icebisa ukuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-2 ubudala abambukeli umabonwakude yaye abantwana abaneminyaka emi-2 ubudala bazibekela iyure enye okanye ubuncinane ezimbini, yonke imihla, yocwangciso olusemgangathweni, yaye abaze benze inkqubo ehleliweyo, ngokomzekelo. Ngoko ke abazali kufuneka bacace gca malunga nokuba abantwana babo babukele ntoni kwizikrini kunye nokuba lingakanani ixesha abalichitha phambi kwabo.
Oku kuya kuba malunga neeyure ezili-10 ngeveki, kodwa inyaniso kukuba abantwana Kuluntu lwethu babukela ngaphezulu kweeyure ezingama-30 zikamabonakude ngeveki, kwaye oku kuyingxaki ekukhuleni komntwana wabo.
Kutheni umabonwakude eyingxaki ekukhuleni komntwana
Umabonwakude utshintsha ukukhula kwengqondo kubantwana abancinci, kwaye ukwabhangisa ubuchule babo nobuchule bokufunda. Ukongezelela, kuyimfuneko ukuqaphela ukuba abantwana abancinci bafuna ixesha lokuba ngabantwana, oko kukuthi, ukudlala, ukugijima nokudala, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusebenzisana nabanye abantu. Le misebenzi ifundisa abantwana ukuzilawula kwaye isisiseko samanqanaba alandelayo okufunda.
Umabonwakude uyakhobokisa kwaye oku kwenza abantwana bakumise njengomkhwa ebomini babo.Bonke abantwana abakhule bengamakhoboka esikrinini banokuba nengqondo eyonqenayo kwixesha elizayo. Ngaba ufuna ukuba umabonwakude achaphazele kakubi indlela ingqondo yomntwana wakho ekhula ngayo? Eyona mpendulo inokwenzeka nguhayi.
Umabonwakude kunye nemidlalo ekwikhompyuter okanye kwithebhulethi ikhuthaza ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana wakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye uninzi lwezi nguqulelo lubonakala lunento yokwenza nokunciphisa ixesha lokunikela ingqalelo, ukunciphisa ukulawulwa kwempembelelo, kunye nokwanda kobundlongondlongo. Kukho ubungqina obukhulayo bokuba okukhona abantwana bebukela umabonwakude bebaninzi, kokukhona benokuba neempawu ze-ADD ne-ADHD.
Iingqondo zabantwana abancinci ziyilelwe ukuba zikhule ngokugqibeleleyo ngokusebenzisana nelizwe elibonakalayo kunye nokuphuhlisa intelekelelo, enje ngokubalisa amabali, umzekelo, kunokubatyisa imizobo yokwenziwa 'ebulala' ngokupheleleyo ubuchule babo.
Izinto ezingenakusilela ekukhuleni komntwana zezi: imidlalo yentelekelelo, ukwakha ngeebhloko, umsebenzi wobugcisa, ukunxibelelana noontanga kunye nabantakwenu, ukupheka nabazali, ukukhwela, ukujinga, ukubukela amabali, njl. Le misebenzi inceda ingqondo yomntwana wakho ukuba ikhule njengoko ifanele, imnika izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki, ukwandisa amandla akhe ekuyileni, kunye nokudala isiseko semathematika kunye nokuqiqa aya kuyidinga kwixesha elizayo.
Ayikukuba nam andikhe ndibukele umabona kude.
Umabonwakude akanyanzelekanga ukuba abe 'sisiqhamo esalelweyo' kananjalo. Ukuba uvala umabonwakude ekhaya lakho, umntwana wakho akayi kubuza ngaphezu kokuba uya kubuza ukuba awuvumeli itshokolethi kwi-pantry. Abantwana abangaseliyo isoda ngelixa bekhula ngokuqhelekileyo abayivelisi incasa yayo. Ukuba unexhala malunga nomntwana wakho eziva eshiywe ngaphandle kwento eyenziwa ngabanye abantwana, unokuhlala utshintsha umgaqo-nkqubo wakho xa abantwana bekhula kwaye uxinzelelo loontanga benza "kubalulekile" ukuba umntwana wakho abukele umboniso wabantwana oshushu. Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukubukela umabonwakude kamva, amathuba okuba likhoboka lawo asezantsi kuba ayisayi kuchaphazela ingqondo yakhe kakhulu.
Iitafile zihlala zingcono kunomabonakude kuba ziyasebenzisana, kodwa uninzi lweengcali zincoma ukulibazisa ukuqaliswa kwezi zixhobo okanye ukunciphisa ngokungqongqo ixesha ezisetyenziswayo, kuba imidlalo yethebhulethi ngokusebenzisa izicelo nayo yenzelwe ukuba ibe likhoboka.
Kungcono ukulibazisa ixesha lokuvezwa kwabantwana kwizikrini, kwaye okwangoku, banokuzinikela ekubeni ngabantwana okanye, umzekelo, ukuba banexesha lokwenza ezinye izinto ezinjengokufunda okanye ukudlala imidlalo yebhodi.
Yintoni omawuyenze endaweni yokubukela umabonakude kakhulu
Inkoliso yabantwana abancinane abangazange babone umabonwakude okanye izixhobo zokusebenza baqhele ukuzigcina bexakekile. Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho banciphise ixesha abalichitha bephambi kwetablet okanye umabonwakude, ungaqala ngokubavumela ukuba baphulaphule iincwadi ezirekhodiweyo, nto leyo ebanceda bakhulise intelekelelo kunye nobuchule babo bokuyila. Ii-audiobooks azikhoboki kwaye zinika abantwana ixesha lokuphumla ngelo xesha bexakeke yinto ethile kwaye abafuni ngqalelo yakho.
Omnye umbono kukuba 'nesikhephe ngokuchasene nokukruquka' olubandakanya ukuba nenqaku apho kukho amaphepha amancinci apho babeka imisebenzi yokwenza ngamaxesha okukruquka. Ngale ndlela umntwana wakho uya kuyazi into amakayenze xa 'engayazi into amakayenze'.
Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba abantwana bayayifuna ingqalelo yabazali kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo kunye nabo. Xa oku kusenzeka abasayi kufuna umabonakude okanye izikrini nazo., kuba abantwana babona kakuhle ukuba kufutshane nabazali babo xa besenza izinto ezizonwabisayo kunye, kwanokuba ngumsebenzi wasekhaya.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho akafuni msebenzi omiselweyo, kufuneka nje adlale njengomntwana onemidlalo yefantasy okanye ngezinto zakhe zokudlala. Abantwana bamele bafunde ukuzonwabisa, kwaye xa beyazi indlela yokwenza baya kukuthanda. Oku kuneenzuzo ezinkulu kwingcinga yakho kunye nokuzilawula kwakho, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha oku kuxabiseke kakhulu! Ukufunda ubuchule bokulawula ixesha lakho kunye nokuzonwabisa sisipho esibalulekileyo sokukhusela. kubantwana abakhulela kwinkcubeko yethu ecwangciswe kakhulu kunye nedijithali.