Ngaba wakha wachongwa ngokuba ngumama ombi? Mhlawumbi awuqeqeshelwanga ukuba ngumntwana? Yimibuzo ngokubanzi yomama ngubani uthwala uxanduva lwemfundo engcono kubantwana bakhe. Nokuba ungangomama ochanekileyo, uthelekiso lokubona abanye abazali lukwenza ucinge ukuba awunguye umntu olungileyo okhathalele abantwana.
Yindlela esekwe kwindlela yokucinga "ukuba ungomama ombi" okanye phakathi kokuba ngowenyani. Mhlawumbi awuzange ubuze loo nto ukuba ngumama ombi Kuya kufuneka uhlangane noluhlu lweemfuno ezikufutshane nomxholo kwaye ungasibeki tyala ekucingeni.
Ingxoxo yokuba ngumama ombi
Umama ongakhuthaziyo ukhathalelo, ulondolozo olufanelekileyo nolusesikweni akanguye umkhathaleli olungileyo. Kodwa ukuze kuzalisekiswe le meko, uninzi lwamagama ngokuqinisekileyo athobele le ngcinga kufuneka agutyungelwe.
Awunakuziva unetyala kwaye uthi ungumama ombi ukuba ukhe wancancisa umntwana wakho ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emibini nangaphezulu, ukuba silala nomntwana wethu kude kube kubudala obuthile, ukuba umtyise ukutya okufanayo iintsuku ezintathu zilandelelana, ukuba iteknoloji yinxalenye yobomi bakhe, kuba ukuba uyahamba naye nomntu wesithathu kuba ufuna indlela yakho yokubaleka, ngokuzinikezela kwinxalenye yosuku emsebenzini wakho kwaye ungachithi ixesha elininzi kunye nabo ...
Mhlawumbi awunguye umama ogqibeleleyo kodwa abantwana baziva ngathi baphantsi kobushushu bothando lwethu kwaye ukwangana kwethu Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani into ngokuqonda ukuba uthotho lwezenzo zingalichaphazela njani ikamva lakho kwaye linokuba yingozi.
Akufuneki simke ukuba sihluthiwe "sisifo soomama ababi" usigxeke ngoluhlobo ngayo nayiphi na imeko. Mhlawumbi ukunamathela kakhulu kubantwana bethu kusikhokelela kwingcinezelo yeminqweno, ukuba nemibono, iimfuno kunye neminqweno, ukungabikho kwexesha ... konke oku Kukhokelela ekutyhafeni kwaye ukusuka apho uzive udandathekile. Eyona nto isengqiqweni kukulinganisa zonke ezi zinto kwaye uzivumele ukuba ube ngumntu, kwaye unako nokusombulula amaxesha amaninzi ngokwenza ukucamngca.
Njengenzala, kufuneka siphumelele ukulingana phakathi kwethu kwaye singakhombisi ngomnwe kwizigqibo zabanye oomama ngaphandle kokuba kufanelekile ukugxekwa. Kuya kufuneka sophule iklikhi kunye nokucalucalula okubambe inkqubela phambili yethu.
Yeyiphi imeko yokuba ngumama ombi
Ukukhuthaza ukwenza ngokungachanekanga ayikwenzi ngexesha elifanelekileyo, kodwa xa iinyani zisenziwa rhoqo kwaye ngaphandle kwengcinga:
- Yenza umntwana acinezele iimvakalelo zakhe. Sukumvumela ukuba azive elusizi okanye onwabile xa efuna kakhulu, okanye ade acinezele umnqweno wakhe wokukhala. Kuya kufuneka ukhululeke kwiimvakalelo.
- Thetha kakubi ngezihlobo okanye utata, phambi kwabo. Ukuba kukho iindlela ezingalunganga ekuziphatheni kwaba bantu, ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana uya kukufumanisa njengoko iminyaka ihamba.
- Fundisa isini, "oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngowamakhwenkwe kunye nepinki yamantombazana." Kufuneka sifundise abantwana bethu besebancinci ukuba akukho zinkolelo. Abantwana kufuneka badlale ngento abayifunayo kunye nemisebenzi abayifunayo, oko kukuthi, babe nenkululeko kumdlalo kwaye bonwabe.
- Ukuzigcina zityebile kwaye zitye ukutya okungafanelekanga. Le mikhwa mibi inokukhokelela kwizifo, ukuba uyigcina ingenampilo, inokukhokelela kwiingxaki zomzimba kunye nokuzithoba.
- Yenza usoloko ungowokuqala kuyo yonke into kwaye ugqibelele ngaphandle kokungcola. Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba abe yeyona nto ibalaseleyo kwimisebenzi enokuthi ingabi yimpumelelo yakhe, menze afumane umsebenzi awuthandayo Mnike isidima sokuba angaphumelela kakuhle ngomzamo. Ngexesha lokudlala, vumela abantwana babe nomdla kwaye baphonononge yonke into ebangqongileyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba bangcoliswe.