Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi ukuba sifuna unyana okanye intombi yethu ifunde okanye ukuba ifuna ukuba nabanye abantwana, kufuneka simse kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci.
Kodwa ngaba kunyanzelekile ukuba ukukhula okuchanekileyo komntwana kudlule kwisikolo sabantwana? Ukuba sithathe isigqibo sokungamthathi, ingaba uya kufunda okuthile?
Makhe sibone ukuba ngaba inyathelo lokuya kwisikolo sabantwana kubalulekile ngokwenene.
Kuyinyani ukuba abantwana badinga indawo etyebileyo nekhuthazayo ukuze baphuhlise amandla nezakhono zabo kuwo onke amanqanaba. Bafuna imeko-bume apho baziva bekhuselekile ngokwaneleyo kwinqanaba lokujonga ukuze bazinikezele ekuhloleni, ekudlaleni… Njengomgaqo jikelele, imeko yosapho inika konke oku, yimeko yokuqala yemfundo: inkuthazo eyaneleyo kunye nokhuseleko lweemvakalelo nomama, utata okanye umntu wokuzithemba okupheleleyo komntwana, ukuzibandakanya ngokukhululekileyo ekudlaleni nasekuhloleni okusingqongileyo.
Kuyinyani ukuba amakhwenkwe namantombazana kufuneka ahlalisane, abelane ngamabala okudlala noontanga babo. Eli linqanaba lokukhula elifikelelwa kukuvuthwa, ayisi kufunda. Ngeminyaka ye-3 okanye ye-4, xa bekwazi ukuqonda uyolo lokudlala ekwabelwana ngalo, umntwana ubonakalisa umdla wokudlala nabanye abantwana. Ngaphambi kobu budala, abanamdla wokwenene ekwabelaneni ngemidlalo, kumzuzu wokuzivelela abakuwo ukuzicingela ngokupheleleyo.
Lo nto, Ukuya esikolweni sabantwana abancinci akuyomfuneko ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni komntwana ngokuchanekileyo.
Ke yeyiphi indima eyenziwa zizikolo zabantwana abancinci?
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, kuphela kwendlela yokuxolelanisa kwihlabathi elingenakulungelelaniswa njengobomi bosapho kunye nomsebenzi wobomi. Kuluntu olunenkxaso encinci yokwenyani yokusebenzisa ukuba ngumama nokuba ngutata, Izikolo zabantwana abancinci zezinye izibonelelo zokuzama ukudibanisa, ukuze sikwazi ukuya emsebenzini kwaye sinike umntwana wethu inkathalo ayifunayo.
Sinezinye izibonelelo esinazo, ezinjengekhefu kunye nokunciphisa iiyure zomsebenzi, nangona zombini zinempembelelo kuqoqosho losapho. Sinokuxabisa ukuba umntu wokuzithemba kwethu ngokupheleleyo ukhathalele umntwana wethu ekhaya, indawo esele isaziwa ngumntwana wethu. Okanye sinokujikela kumama wosuku, umntu onoqeqesho oluthile oya kuthi anyamekele umntwana wethu omncinci ekhaya, olungiselelwe ngokufanelekileyo le njongo.