Alithandabuzeki elokuba ukuba ngumama kutshintsha ngokupheleleyo naliphi na ibhinqa. Kukho ukuhamba kweemvakalelo zazo zonke iintlobo, ukusuka kwizinto ezintle ezinje ngothando olukhulu ngomntwana ukuya kwisimo esibi, ukuba yimeko yokuziva unetyala. Kuqhelekile ukuba oomama abaninzi babe nemvakalelo enjalo emva kokubeleka umntwana wabo.
Ukuziva unetyala kubangela ukuba umama omtsha abeneengxaki ezinkulu zeemvakalelo oko kunokuchaphazela kakhulu ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kwakho. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukuxelela eyona ndlela yokuzikhulula kule ngxaki kwaye ubenakho ukonwabela ilizwe elimangalisayo lokuba ngumama.
Ukuziva unetyala koomama
Maninzi amaxesha okanye iintshukumo apho umama anokuziva enetyala kwaye abe nomthwalo omkhulu kuye:
- Ndiziva ndidiniwe kwaye ndonakele ejongene noxanduva olukhulu lokukhathalela usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa.
- Buyela kwiinkqubo kunye nomsebenzi kunye ukungakwazi ukuchitha ixesha acinga ukuba umntwana ulifuna.
- Ukulala nomncinci ukuze angayenzi yedwa kwaye ke ngoko ayikhuthazi inkululeko nokuzimela komntwana.
- Musa ukukhetha ukuncancisa.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, oomama abaziva benetyala bacinga ukuba le mvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo zilunge ngokupheleleyo ngokucinga ukuba abenzi ngendlela eyiyo. Nangona kunjalo, le yinto enamava amaninzi oomamaNokuba baziva benetyala okanye hayi.
Oonobangela bokuziva benetyala koomama
Zininzi izizathu ezibangela ukuba oomama bazive benetyala malunga nosana lwabo:
- Inye into oyicingayo kwithiyori kwaye enye into kukuziqhelanisa. Ukuba ngumama yinto enzima kakhulu ke akufuneki ukuba uzibhokoxe kakhulu. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ngokuhamba kwexesha imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala iqala ukukhanya.
- Abasetyhini abaninzi banengcamango engalunganga ngokuba ngumama. Oomama banoxanduva lwabantwana babo kodwa hayi ngendlela eyiyo. Akunakubekwa tyala ukuba abantwana bayonakala okanye baneengxaki ezithile ekusebenzeni kwesikolo. Imfundo elungileyo kunye nokukhuliswa kungaphezulu kokwaneleyo ukufezekisa indima kamama.
- Awunakucinga ukuba ukuziva unetyala kuyinto elungileyo kwaye ilungile. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kukho oomama abacinga ukuba ukuziva unetyala kulungile xa kusiziwa ekubeni ngoomama abangcono. Nangona kunjalo, kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuziva unetyala yinto engalunganga ekufuneka ithintelwe kuzo zonke iindleko. Kubalulekile ukulibala ngokupheleleyo malunga netyala kwaye ukhethe ukuba noxanduva kuyo yonke into enxulumene nokuba ngumzali.
Ungoyisa njani ityala elinje koomama
Kuyinyani ukuba sithe ipesenti ye- omama Namhlanje banengxaki yokuziva benetyala. Nangona kunjalo, kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba oku akuqhelekanga okanye akusempilweni kwaphela. Umama kufuneka ukonwabele ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo kwaye ulibale ngokupheleleyo malunga nokuziva unetyala. Ukwazi indlela yokuyilawula ngumba ophambili koku kwaye unombono osengqiqweni ngakumbi wehlabathi lobumama. Kuqhelekile ukwenza iimpazamo njengaye nawuphi na umntu kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu awuyi kuba ngumama omubi.
Ngamafutshane, ityala liqhelekile kwilizwe loomama. Ukuxhalaba malunga nentlalo-ntle yomntwana ngalo lonke ixesha kwenza ukuba netyala kubaluleke ngakumbi kunezinye iintlobo zeemvakalelo ezintle. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kubalulekile ukuba wazi indlela yokuzikhulula kumthwalo wokuziva unetyala kwaye ukwazi ukonwabela umzuzwana ngamnye wobumama obumangalisayo. Khumbula ukuba akukho mama ugqibeleleyo kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukwenza iimpazamo eziqhubekayo xa ukhulisa kwaye ufundisa umntwana.