Kule nqaku sifuna ukujongana nemeko enzima eyenzeka ngamanye amaxesha ekhaya: xa inkwenkwe okanye intombazana iqala bathuka abazali babo. Isenokuba ligama elibi olivileyo ekhaya, esikolweni okanye nabahlobo kwaye ongayazi intsingiselo yalo, okanye inokuba ligama olaziyo ngokupheleleyo ngentlungu eliyibangelayo. Zombini iimeko zahlukile kwaye kufuneka kujongwane nazo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Siza kuzama ukukunika ezinye isikhokelo sendlela yokuziphatha phambi kokuthukwa ngumntwana wakho, kokubini kuwe, kunye nabantakwenu, izalamane okanye abanye abantwana.
Injongo yokuthukwa
Ngaphandle kokuyithatha phantsi, kufuneka ubone yintoni injongo yomntwana xa ethetha igama elibi kuwe. Ukuba uyithetha yedwa kwaye engenabutshaba, kunokuba sengqiqweni ukucinga ukuba uyivile kwimeko ethile. Abazali kufuneka babe ngabokuqala uku ngokulinganisela kwaye unakekele isigama sethu, kuba njengoko besitshilo amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana bafunda ngokulinganisa.
Kukho inqanaba (ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi) malunga neminyaka emi-4 abantwana bathi tacos. Yindlela yokuzibonakalisa, kunye nabanye, ukuba anisengabantwana abancinci. Kwiimeko ezinjalo kungcono ukubatyeshela, ungahleki kubabalo lwabo, ke abasomeleli esi simo sengqondo. Ngamanye amaxesha into abayifunayo kukufumana ingqalelo yethu, kuba bayazi ukuba siza kubangxolisa. Into ebalulekileyo kukuchaza ukuba izithuko zinokukhathaza iimvakalelo zomnye umntu.
Ukuba unyana okanye intombi yethu inomsindo kwaye iqala ukusithuka, oko kuthetha ukuba kuyinxalenye yokubonisa kwabo. Into ekufuneka yenziwe mfundise ukuwusebenzisa loo msindo Kwaye uqonde ukuba awunakuhlala ufumana into oyifunayo.
Ungalibali ukuba ngokubanzi, ukusuka kwiminyaka ye-7, ngakumbi xa umntwana esithuka, into azama ukuyenza yile lawula okanye uzive unamandla kwimeko. Umzekelo, okukhona usithi "yeka", okanye "kufuneka ndikuxelele kangaphi ukuba ungathethi lonto?" Impendulo yakhe idla ngokuba ndlongondlongo, ngokungxola okanye ngokukuhleka.
Iingcebiso
Ezinye izikhokelo esicinga ukuba zinokukunceda, umzekelo: setha imida, ube ngumzekelo, unike ixesha umntwana azole ... sizokucacisa ngakumbi.
Cwangcisa ezinye imida ecacileyo neqinileyo abantwana bakho, kwaye uyenze ngezenzo zakho. Akuncedi nganto ukuba awubavumeli bathethe amagama amabi naphakathi kwabahlobo bakho okanye xa uthetha emnxebeni uwasebenzise. Imigaqo obeka kuyo ukuba isebenze kufuneka ibe ngqo kwaye iqondakale.
Ukuba siyalawula kwaye siyazi iimvakalelo zethu kwaye sithetha ngazo nabantwana bethu, kubo kuya kuba lula ukuzibonakalisa. Khumbula ukuba enye yeendima zethu njengabazali kukwenza uzive uxhaswa kwaye uqondwa kweyakho iimvakalelo ezintsha. Ujongene nemeko entsonkothileyo yezithuko, "ungangeni ngelagi". Olona khetho lulungileyo kukuhlala uzolile kwaye yiba novelwano, Ukuze ithoni enoburharha iyekiswe. Kwangokunjalo, womeleza ngendlela elungileyo xa engaphenduli ngomsindo, yiyo loo nto simbonisa ukuba siyayixabisa into ayenzayo nenxalenye yakhe elungileyo.
Xa unyana wakho eqala ukukuthuka, uyacaphuka. Eli ayiloxesha lokuba uthethe naye. Akayi kukumamela, kokukhona akayi kuqiqa. Mnike ixesha lokuphumla, kwaye xa ezolile, thetha naye ngento ayenzileyo, uchaze nokuba kutheni engaphilanga kunye nomonakalo athe wakwenza.
Ungamenza njani xa ekuthuka esidlangalaleni
Kubazali abaninzi yi ihlazo kunye nemeko engathandekiyo ukuba abantwana bethu bayasithuka, kwaye ngakumbi ukuba bayenza kwindawo kawonke-wonke. Sivakalelwa ngathi sohlulekile kwaye wenze into engalunganga. Khumbula, ukuba umntwana wakho uyakungcikiva, musa ukukhutyekiswa ligama okanye libinzana ngokwalo, kwaye Hlaziya ukuba kutheni ekuxelele. Yintoni unobangela womsindo wakhe okanye kukufuna ukwenza isidenge kuwe.
Yenze icace lonto awuyi kuyishiya idlule, kodwa ungayeki esidlangalaleni. Qiniseka. Umntwana wakho uya kwazi ukuba ayingomdlalo lo.
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