Oomakhulu abanetyhefu: ungababona njani kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuphucula ubudlelwane

jongana nokusweleka kukamakhulu

Ayingabo bonke oomakhulu abanetyhefu, kodwa kukho abo banikezela kuyo yonke iminqweno yabazukulwana babo, abo bangabahoyiyo, abakhohlakele ngakumbi kubo kunabantwana babo, okanye ngokuthe ngqo abathi bathathe indawo yoomama kwindima yabo, masenze ntoni emva koko ngezi Oomakhulu abanetyhefu? Le neminye imibuzo yenye yezo siza kujongana nazo.

Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka Ukungevani phakathi kotatomkhulu nomakhulu nabazali ngenxa yokuba bengabelani nathi ngendlela esibona ngayo imfundo, kwaye benza le nto siyibiza ngokuba “bonakalisa abazukulwana”. Ngapha koko, oomakhulu abangobomama bethu kuphela, kodwa bakwangomama bakatata.

Yintoni oomakhulu nootatomkhulu abanetyhefu?

Indima yootatomkhulu emva kokubeleka

Bonke abantu abanye, ngaxa lithile okanye enye into eyityhefu. Into enomdla kukucinga ngayo kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo. Ngendlela efanayo naleyo kukho oomama noomakhulu abanetyhefu, abantwana nabazukulwana banokuba njalo. Eyona nto ingangqinelana apho kugcinwa khona ubushushu, kunye a ubudlelwane phakathi kosapho ilungile kwaye isempilweni.

Kukho oomakhulu abangayamkeliyo indima yabo njengoomakhulu kwaye ziyayandisa indima kamama Benze nabantwana babo, bephinda iipateni. Aba bantu abadli ngokwazi ukuba umntwana ukhulela "kwenye indlu" phantsi kwesinye isivumelwano semvumelwano. Ngamanye amaxesha, bengaqondanga, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu baphela sele bengabavelisi bengxabano kunye nokudideka kwabantwana.

Ke kukho okwahlukileyo, ngelishwa okuba kuncinci, kwe Oomakhulu nootatomkhulu abawukhathaleleyo umhla nezolo abazukulwana babo, kwaye ngabazali abathatha inxaxheba yokuba "ngabaphangi" babantwana, besaphula imithetho yokuhlalisana eyanikwa umakhulu.

Uhlobo loomakhulu abanetyhefu

Singathetha, ngokubanzi, ngeendlela ezine zootatomkhulu nooyisemkhulu abanetyhefu. Nangona ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu, enyanisweni indima yobutyhefu idlalwe ngokwesiko ngumakhulu, notatomkhulu uhlala ngaphezulu ecaleni de umntwana abe mdala noko.

  • Oomakhulu abangena kuyo yonke into. Banamayeza kuyo yonke into, abathandabuzi ukukuxelela into oyenzayo engalunganga kwaye zeziphi izisombululo kwiingxabano. Eyona nto imbi kukuba la mabinzana aqhele ukwenziwa phambi kwabantwana, nto leyo edala ukungavisisani phakathi kwabazali.
  • Oomakhulu abanetyhefu abathi bavuma yonke into. Ezi ntlobo zoomakhulu zezokuqala ukwaphula imithetho esekwe ekhaya.
  • Oomakhulu okhuphisana nabo. Aba makhulu bahlala bephindaphinda ukuba babengabokuqala ukuqaphela le okanye leya into ngomntwana, ukumbona ehamba, ukumxelela ukuba kuzelwe umntakwabo. Baphetha bezityikitya njengoyena mntu ubalulekileyo kubomi bomntwana, nokuba yintoni enokubangela abazali.
  • Oomakhulu baye bahlukana. Ngabo abaphantse babe nabazukulwana babo. Ayibachaphazeli ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa enyanisweni abantwana abanaye umakhulu, nto leyo ethetha ukuba kunqongophele.

Iingcebiso ngokujongana noomakhulu abanetyhefu

Kuyinto kakhulu Kunzima ukufumana ibhalansi kwezi meko, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uvule amehlo, kwaye ungalibazisi ukuba nencoko ethuleyo, ne imbeko nothando, ngasese nonyoko okanye unyokozala. Ngokukhawuleza ukuyenza, ukungabikho koxinzelelo kuya kubakho. Akufunekanga sivumele oomakhulu, ngalo lonke uthando lwabo kunye neenjongo ezintle, ukuba baphele bejongela phantsi ukulingana kweemvakalelo zabantwana bethu kunye neqabane lethu.


Ukuba uziva ukuba ootatomkhulu noomakhulu babantwana bakho banetyhefu kwaye bayabenzakalisa, zama ukuphuma kubo kancinci kancinci. Kodwa qala uthethe nabo. Oomakhulu abaninzi benza ngolu hlobo ukukhusela abazukulwana babo njengoko benzayo kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho ngemihla yabo. Ngale ndlela, funa ulungelelwano phakathi kovelwano, kwaye uzibeke ezihlangwini zabo, kwaye ukuqinisekiswa. Beka imida kwaye uthi hayi.

Ukuba unamathandabuzo kwaye uzive ubambekile phakathi kotatomkhulu okanye utatomkhulu onetyhefu kunye nomntwana wakho, sicebisa ukuba sincike emntwaneni.


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