Namhlanje ngumhla wobuhlobo. Inkqubo ye- ubuhlobo Yenzelwe abantwana, abakwishumi elivisayo kunye nabantu abadala siseko. Isizathu sovuyo olukhulu, iingxaki, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngamaxesha akrakra, xa siziva singcatshiwe okanye sidanile kubahlobo. Ndisayikhumbula i iinyembezi ezikrakra ukusuka kumntakwethu xa umhlobo wakhe osenyongweni wamxokisa. Kwiminyaka nje emi-5 ubudala, inqanaba lobuxoki alibalulekanga, kodwa wayemxokisile.
Akunakuphepheka ukuba oonyana neentombi zethu uphoxeke kobuhlobo, kodwa singabafundisa besebancinci ukulawula le mvakalelo. Kwaye ukungavali iminyango kubahlobo abatsha.
Ukudana kubuhlobo nakwimpembelelo ye-raincoat
Nokuba sibadala kangakanani ngamanye amaxesha siziva ukuphoxeka okanye ukudana nabahlobo. Nangona abantwana bengabantwana iibhondi zobuhlobo ukuba bayazakha nabahlobo babo banyanisekile kwaye bomelele, yiyo loo nto xa beziva bengcatshiwe, okanye bedanile ngenxa yokuba lo okanye umhlobo engabamemanga kumhla wokuzalwa, umzekelo, iintlungu nazo ziyinyani.
Iingcali zengqondo zithetha ngazo Impembelelo yemvula xa emva kokuphoxeka singafuni ukuqala ubuhlobo kwakhona. Yindlela yokuzikhusela ekuphoxekeni okuzayo. Senza ngokungazi. Kukho abantwana, ngakumbi abakwishumi elivisayo abanesimo sengqondo esifanayo.
Kuhle ukuba senze oonyana neentombi zethu baqonde ukuba nokuba bayaziva kabuhlungu ngulo mntu, oko akuthethi ukuba abanye abahlobo ziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Kuya kufuneka sizame ukubenza babone ukuba kukuphi ukudana abaziva kungashukunyiswa lulindelo ababelubeke ngokwabo kuloo mntu.
Indlela yokujongana nokuphoxeka
Ukujongana nokudana, okungenakuphepheka, kufuneka simncede umntwana aqonde ukuba kunjalo endalo. Okokuba ebomini, le mvakalelo iyakwenzeka, xa bebukele imovie kwaye emva koko kuyabonakala ukuba bekungekho mnandi njengoko bekubonakala ngathi, okanye ukuthatha uhambo kwikharavani, usiya elwandle kunye nabahlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bafumane imvakalelo yokudana, ukuze bafunde ukwamkela ukuphoxeka njengenxalenye yobomi.
Ungabanceda abantwana bakho ukuba baye badana umhlobo ngokubenza bacinge nge Iingcinga abazibekileyo. Ungamxelela ukuba umhlobo wakho omncinci uCarlos angabinakho ukuchitha iiholide kunye nawe kwaye ukhetha ukuya kwindlu katatomkhulu wakhe. Mfundise ukuba avume ukudana kwaye ayamkele, kwaye anike ezinye iindlela ngamabinzana anje: Kuqhelekile kuwe ukucinga ukuba uCarlos angakuthatha aye naye eholideyini, kodwa uya eholideyini.
Zama jonga icala elilungileyo yemeko. Ukuba ngumntwana okwishumi elivisayo phantse ukuba ayinakwenzeka. Kodwa ungamxelela ukuba kuko konke ukuphoxeka kunokubakho into elungileyo, uyabona? Ngoku uza kuba nabahlobo abatsha. Ngewungayityinelanga le nto okanye le yocweyo ukuba uhambe noCarlos. Kwaye khumbula, ngale mizuzu umntwana wakho efuna ukuthuthuzelwa, thatha ithuba lokumncamisa kwaye umthathele ingqalelo. Sukuyithatha kancinci le meko, kuye kubalulekile.
Ubuhlobo, abantwana kunye nolutsha
Ukwenza abahlobo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhula kwentlalo kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana. Imiba efana nobuchule kwezentlalo, ukuzincama, ukuzithemba, kunye Ukuzithemba bahlakulela umbulelo kubahlobo. Ke xa omnye wabo esilele, umntwana uziva edanile kwaye engenandawo. Ubuntwana abukho ngaphandle kwamahla ndenyuka ebuhlotsheni.
Omnye wemibuzo yokuqala anokuzibuza yona umntwana wakho xa ejamelene nokudana komhlobo kukuba naye usilele. Ngaba unako kholelwa ukuba awukufanelekelanga ukuba ngumhlobo lomntu. Oku kwenzeka ngakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa, xa ulilungu leqela, kwaye ukwamkelwa yiyo kubalulekile.
Ukuba ebuntwaneni izihlobo zibalulekile, kwi ukufikisa kubalulekile. Zisebenza njengereferensi yesazisi, yiyo loo nto ingxaki isenzeka xa kutshintsha esi sikhombisi. Kubalulekile ukunceda unyana okanye intombi yakho ifumane ubuhlobo obutsha.