Xa kuphela abantwana bebhombiswa ngezipho kunye nemivuzo, bafumana umyalezo, "Ndihlala ndifumana le nto ndiyifunayo." Akukhe kushiywe lixesha ukunqanda ukunikezelwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwezipho. Uqhanqalazo lweemvakalelo luya kulandela, kodwa ukuthatha esi sikhundla kuya kuhlawula ekuhambeni kwexesha. Abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba ayizizo izipho ezibalulekileyo; lelona xesha ulichitha nomntwana lelona libaluleke kakhulu.
Sukuyigqwetha ngunyana wakho okuphela kwakhe
Ngelixa ukhulisa umntwana, uya kuthi uzinyamekele zonke iimfuno zakhe. Ngokwahlukileyo, abantwana abanabantakwabo kufuneka "balinde emgceni" ukuze bahlangabezane neemfuno zabo.
Ukufunda ukulinda sisifundo esibalulekileyo. Ukuthintela kuphela abantwana ekuphuhliseni imeko "Endiyifunayo, ndiyifumanayo", abazali kufuneka:
- Zibekele imida
- Ukulibazisa ukulibazisa
- Thobela imithetho yasekhaya
- Ukumilisela uqeqesho ngezikhokelo kunye nolindelo
Musa ukulwela ulonwabo oluhlala luhleli
Ukuba uyamthanda unyana wakho okuphela kwakhe kwaye uyamnqwenela, uya kuzisola ngokwenza oko ekuhambeni kwexesha. Enye yeempembelelo zokuzinkcinkca ngotywala: Abanye ngabantwana kuphela abafuna ukuba nayo yonke into ngokwemigaqo yabo. Bakhulisa isimo sengqondo "yindlela yam okanye ayisiyonto" ... Bacinga ukuba banamalungelo ngaphezulu kwakhe nawuphi na umntu kwaye amalungelo abo angaphezulu kwawo onke amanye.
Njengoko iingcali nabazali besitsho, ingqalelo engaphelelanga efunyanwa ngumntwana okuphela kwakhe kubazali bakhe inokuba yinto elungileyo okanye embi. Kodwa ukuba uyayiphepha eminye yemigibe eqhelekileyo kwaye unike umntwana wakho okuphela kwakho uthando lwakho olungenamiqathango, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphumelela. Ngapha koko, abazali abaninzi babantwana kuphela abathi ubudlelwane babo nabantwana babo bufana nobuhlobo obuhle. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, bathi, bubuhlobo obukhulu obuhlala ubomi bonke! Kuba ukukhulisa umntwana kunzima ngakumbi kunokuba umoshe, kodwa kufanelekile.