Umfanekiso we bona umntu ngamnye ephethe isixhobo sakhe esandleni, ngaphandle kokufuna ukuba uzingqonge nabani na ongomnye kwaye mhlawumbi ukuphulukana nombono wexesha. Le nto inegama kwaye i-phubbing, ephuma kwifowuni ye-fusion (ifowuni) kunye ne-snubbing (ukungahoyi), eli gama lavela malunga ne-2012.
Isenzeko se-phubbing Akunjalo kuphela ngenxa yongqamaniso olupheleleyo phakathi komntu kunye nesixhobo, Kodwa abantu banokuba kwindawo yabo kwaye bangayihoyi yonke into kunye nabani na obangqongileyo. Asiyonto ebonakala ibubudenge, kodwa injalo imeko esetyenziswa ngakumbi phakathi kwabahlobo okanye usaphos, ngakumbi ngexesha lasemva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ngamaxesha okutya.
Phubbing kulutsha
Eli gama linebinzana elifutshane elizichazayo: ungamhoyi umntu ngelixa unikela ingqalelo kwifowuni ephathwayo, endaweni yokuthetha naloo mntu ubuso ngobuso. Yinto yokuziphatha engathandwayo. Awukuthandi ukubona iqela labahlobo lixhonywe kwaye ubona indlela abahleli ngayo epakini, ngamnye ejonge iselula yakhe.
Okanye njengoko usapho oludibene ekhaya bachitha ixesha labo kunye, okanye ukubukela imuvi okanye ukutya, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthetha okanye ukujongana. Umntu ngamnye ujonge iselula yakhe. Oko kunokubizwa kuphela ngendlela enye: ungamhoyi lo usecaleni kwakho.
Le nyaniso ibizwa ngokuba akukho fowuni kwaye okokuqala ngokuqhelekileyo kunikwa ngokuxelisa. Abazali bangumzekelo ocacileyo wokufundisa abantwana bethu onke loo macebiso aluncedo.. Ukuba abazali bachitha ixesha labo elininzi ekhaya besebenzisa ihlabathi ledijithali, banokuba nabantwana abasebenzisa kakubi iteknoloji.
I-phubbing iyichaphazela njani intsapho?
Okokuqala kufuneka uvavanye ukuba olu hlobo lokuxhomekeka lunobuzaza. Siqala ngabantwana xa sihlalutya loo 90% yabo Bakhetha unxibelelwano lwenyani kunokudibana ubuso ngobuso.
- Kweli nqanaba kuyaqwalaselwa ukuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kwitekhnoloji, ukulahleka kolawulo kunye nokugxila, ukuxhalaba xa ungenayo ifowuni yakho emehlweni, ukuphuthelwa ngenxa yokulala ngokukhawuleza ebhedini ubukele ifowuni yakho (iiyure zakho zesiqhelo ziyachaphazeleka) okanye ukubonakala kokuziphatha okunyanzeliswayo.
- Njengoko ubona, Banobulali kodwa kwangaxeshanye banesimilo esinzulu, Ngenxa yokuba ukuqokelela kwazo zonke kukhokelela kubomi obungeyosiqhelo kunye nobuzolileyo kwaye kunokukhokelela kwezinye iindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha zesibini.
- Umntwana unokuthwala a Ukungaqhubi kakuhle kwesikolo.
- Iintloni zinokubakho, Umntwana akaqhelekanga ukuphuma endlwini kwaye kamva unokuba nobunzima bokujongana neemeko zentlalo kunye nentsapho ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe, emoyikisayo.
- Imeko yakho yengqondo iyaguquguquka kwaye ayizinzanga, akayazi indlela yokuzisa iimvakalelo zakhe yaye kunzima ukuba ajamelane nento yokwenene xa kukho into eyenzekayo kuye.
- Yiyo loo nto ukuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kwizixhobo, Ekuhambeni kwexesha kudala ixhala, amaxesha amaninzi ukuziva u lonwabo kwanabanye abantwana okanye abafikisayo abanjalo lusizi Zinokukhokelela ekudandathekeni.
- Kwimeko yentsapho le hambo ithabathel’ indawo amaqhina omntu ngokuthe ngqo namalungu eentsapho zethu. Isakhelo senkcubeko yendlu siyalahleka kwaye iimpawu okanye iipateni ekufuneka zithwalwe lilungu ngalinye losapho zibekwe emngciphekweni.
- Ixabiso leencoko zakwaNtu liyaphoswa ukuhlala kwigumbi lokuhlala okanye kwincoko kwisidlo, iziqhulo okanye iincoko malunga neenkcukacha ezincinci ezenzeke imini yonke.
Ngaba ichaphazela ubuchule?
Kuyinyani ukuba ifowuni ephathwayo, njengoko sijongiwe, ibe sisongezo sethu. Ihamba nathi naphi na apho siya khona kwaye inezicelo kunye nezixhobo ezinokusinceda kunye nokusombulula imiba emininzi.
Akufunekanga siyilibale into yokuba enye into kukusetyenziswa kwayo ngokubonakalayo kwaye enye kukuxhatshazwa kwayo. Inxalenye yendalo yethu yokuyila iyancipha ukuba iteknoloji isinika zonke iimpendulo esifuna ukuba nazo. Ukuba i-intanethi isinika zonke ezo mpendulo Asiqalisi ngokujonga izisombululo kwaye sivumele intelekelelo yethu ivuthe..